This is my last year in highschool and I have only a few good friends. One of my close friends boy friend likes me. I am not a mean person so I dont be rude to him or nothing but recently he has been sending me text messages telling me he really wants for us to be more than friends and I don't know if i should tell my friend or not.... What should I do???
2007-04-24 02:17:03 · 21 answers · asked by Never-mizz-judged 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell your friend......would you want her to do this to you?
2007-04-24 02:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by mikentammy76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you're in a difficult position...I feel for ya. If you try to be a friend, he'll lie and throw it all back on you. Even if you were to show your friend his texts. He could say you were "giving him signals". Men are foul sometimes. And if you say nothing and she were find out you knew? She'd be angry. The best thing to do is to tell him to eff off - that if he's gonna cheat on your friend, that it aint gonna be with you and walk from it. He's DB trying to play his gf's best friend anyway and she's eventually going to find out what a DB he is anyway eventually. And sometimes you have to be rude to get a point across to some people. They just wont get it any other way. If she's really hooked on this guy, she's going to eventually get hurt one way or the other so just be a friend, stick close and be there when she needs you. "Ignorance is bliss". Remember that.
2007-04-24 02:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send your friend the texts that way she knows that your not lieing. If he tells her first, he will make it look like all your fault, and then your friend will hate you and probably stay with the loser. And do it face to face, that way she can see that its hurting you to have to tell her something like this. Even thought its not your fault, she still may act a little made at you even when she tells you that shes not. Thats normal. Shes hurt and in a way is going to feel a bit jealous that he wanted y ou and not her. But she will get over it if shes really that good of a friend. Defiantly tell her though.
2007-04-24 02:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by vbolden88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like him? From your questioning you think that his texting you is disrespectful of the fact that he has a girlfriend. I would suggest telling him that you don't appreciate his advancements, that you think it is disrespectful of your friendship, and since you are about to leave highschool, it may be that he just wants to get in your pants before it's too late - this is the typical desire during the last year. But if he sincerely likes you and you like him then be friends and wait until you two are away from the highschool pressure cooker to get to know one another better.
2007-04-24 02:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Aatheartist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I would tell your friend. Don't go any further with this guy until his relationship with your friend is settled. Don't keep it a secret. Do it kindly, next time he sends you a text message, save it and show your friend, you maybe can say something like "Your boyfriend has been sending me these for a while, and I thought you would want to know" and make sure she knows your not trying to steal her boyfriend.
2007-04-24 02:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your best friend cause she would want to know. I mean wouldn't you want to know if your boyfriend liked another girl. Yeah, you would. Tell her. But, if the guy breaks up with her I wouldn't go out with him unless your friend is ok with it. But, if you are deeply in love with this guy like for real, go after him. Oh, yeah and don't worry about not having many friends. You might only have a few but their going to be the best. ps. I really think this will help you.
ps. you'll make more best friends in college as well don't worry 'bout it.
2007-04-24 02:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by sillygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend. The longer you wait the worse it looks. Also send him txts back telling him to back off and that you are loyal to your friend. If you don't people will turn this against you and it wont be worth it.
Good luck.
2007-04-24 02:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by ♥..::Amy::..♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friend's boyfriend to stop texting you about how he feels about 'you and him'. Don't be rude about it, but be firm and tell him that if he carries on that you'll tell your friend. You may want to tell your friend anyway, and if so, tell her boyfriend that either he tells her the truth or you will.
2007-04-24 02:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mr X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you value more .Life will teach you that boyfriend come and go but friends are fo life.
Show your friend the txts and if you have sent txts on your fone show her what you replied so she knows its him not you.
A true friend will take your side and throw him away.
Best of luck
2007-04-24 02:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by baby_amy22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell ur friend what are you waiting for. if she finds out somehow frommsomeone else she could very wellend up hating you. so tell her save the sms from her bf as proof and show her.
2007-04-24 02:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say u have a lot on ur mind since this is the last yr of HS and that u arent ready for a relationship
2007-04-24 02:20:00 · answer #11 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋