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i was watching this programme called raised by the hand of god. and it was disgusting this woman and man in america bring there children up acording to the bible and the belive that it is ok to hit a child when they have done wrong and they have sticks and leather straps and they hit there three year old daughter and then her son told a little lie that he had done the washing up and he didnt so she hit him with a leather strap three times i think this is disgusting and she should be ashamed does any one else agree that it SHOULD BE ILLIGAL TO SMACK YOUR CHILDREN i do?

2007-04-24 01:43:50 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

im very suprised that most people think its ok to smack the child i belive smacking a child on the bum or beating them is the same but its just my opinion but i dont belive it is the way to go i was never hit and i have turned out ok i have a two and a half year old son and i would never even smack his hand i use time out and he is polite kind and always says please and thank you

2007-04-24 01:59:31 · update #1

ok for all the people that have said that you agree with even smacking a childs bottom if someone in the street did something wrong would you smack them and dont even say that u do it because it your child a child is not a possestion no one has the right to raise a hand to any one a child a stranger to me it makes no different

2007-04-24 02:11:22 · update #2

45 answers

It should never have to come to that.

If it gets to the stage where an adult feels the need to hit a child, they have failed as a parent before they even touch him.

2007-04-24 01:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by bonshui 6 · 1 2

No It Is OK To Smack A Child That You Are Raising Sometime That Is The Only Way Kids Will Learn Not To Do It Again Giving A Child 1 or 2 Smack On the Behind Is OK But Beating IS NOT OK. Kids Today Get A way With Allot Of Stuff And Giving Them Time Outs DOES NOT WORK Or Sending Them To There Room Does Not Work They Will Keep Doing It So Giving A Child A Good Smack Is OK

2007-04-24 01:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

I do not know where I stand on smacking. My father beat me when I was young, quite severly sometimes, and I was uncomfortable watching that programme lastnight and as I was always hit by my father, whilst my mother simply ignored it, I feel that sometimes a small lie does not warrant a smacking session. The only thing that made me uncomfortable watching the American woman smacking her children was the seemingly sadistic smile that crept over her lips as she pulled down a device to smack her children with. She seemed to get some weird pleasure from smacking her children, always looking for reasons to smack them. I don't think she needed to smack him when her little boy lied about doing the washing up, all kids tell a white lie, I feel a talk explaining what he did wrong would have sufficed. The youngest certainly was not going to benifit from the smacking session after having a fight with her brother. They were a bit too much I think but with so much media attention, I really don't think there will ever be a happy medium when it comes to pyshical discipline. Surely people like Jo Frost, Supernanny, has shown us that there is verbally better ways to make your child realise they have done wrong. Ok, the naughty step idea requires a lot of paitence that will pay off in the end but is that not what being a parent is all about? paitence and tollerance when it comes to discipline? I just feel she enjoyed showing the camera crew that she had physical control over her children, more than anything else.

2007-04-24 02:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Very difficult question, i do believe that smacking your children is very wrong when using objects (leather or canes!!) I was smacked around the bum a few times as a kid but there was just cause for it!! It was never done in a menacing way ever, I do believe that if my child was playing up and being really naughty i would tell them that if they didnt pack it in then i would smack them on the 3rd attempt of telling them i would give them a little smack!! alot of issues around it now a days!! If my father had let me get away with the things i did as a child i would be a horrid human being it is surprising what a little smack on the hand or bum can do to someone!!

2007-04-24 02:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by little kitty 3 · 1 0

I always thought that smacking a child meant smacking them on the backside with your hand. Hitting a child with a leather strap is beating them and is more damaging. I think that smacking and beating a child should not be allowed but it would be difficult to make it illegal because how do you check parents and children 24 hours a day. There is just no way that it can be stopped. I think that beating a child can be damaging. There is a fine line between smacking a child and beating it.

2007-04-24 02:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by April2007 3 · 0 0

It is possible to bring children up without using violence (and don't let anyone tell you it is not violence to smack a child) However bringing up children is not easy and there are no exams or training courses for parents so there are times when even the best parent may resort to some violent action but when this happens it is a failure on the part of the parent not the child.
As to using the Bible to bring up children I thing the bible is a very dangerous book to use for any purpose. It has so many contradictions in it, much of the writing was done by people who did not have the knowledge we have today and who were in many cases seeking to gain power and it is possible to put any interpretation you wish on much of the things written in it so you can justify almost any action by using it.

2007-04-24 02:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 0 0

I saw the programme as well, and these people are are truly deranged. It is not just the smacking issue, but the fact they are brainwashed in their learning, and not allowed to socialise with the other children in the street. I was horrified that when they had a break during schooling, they were not allowed to play, but did household chores.

Smacking does not mean abuse, it can be done out of fright when your child insists on running into the road, or insists on getting too close to the fire or stove, or the railway edge when you have repeatedly said not to. A quick slap on the back of the legs is preferable to a dead or badly injured child.

As for the man who made the smacking paddles, I wanted to get hold of one and smack him with it. It even had instructions how many to give with each offence.

2007-04-24 02:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Thia 6 · 0 0

I meant to watch that program but forgot it was on. I think its cruel to smack a child, it is definitely bullying and shows the parent to be weak. It clearly doesn't work any better than other methods of discipline which is proven by that child you mentioned in the program. He must have told the lie despite the obvious threat of the strap. Children naturally push boundaries and make mistakes that drive parents to distraction but you have to be firm, fair and consistant. Loads of praise for the good stuff and withraw privileges for serious things, it may not always work as well as we would like but neither does smacking. Parents who lash out have no self control they cop out for the easy option because it requires the least time and commitment. What a load of rubbish those sayings are too like 'spare the rod spoil the child' its pathetic.

2007-04-24 02:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Corporal punishment is legal if applied correctly. A quick light smack on the bottom using your hand is acceptable. Hitting a child anywhere other than the bottom or with a foreign object should never be done.

I never spanked my child with switches or belts. I also only spanked as a last resort if he was doing something that had potential to truly hurt him. Time outs and very calm yet stern talks worked well most of the time.

2007-04-24 01:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by sierra33ok 3 · 1 0

I never use it,except when the kids were toddlers and even then it was just a little swat on the behind,more tokenistic than anything. I doubt they even felt it much through those thick pampers. But I use withdrawal of something positive - no movies for a week,etc - rather than negative conditioning,in other words punishment. I get better long-terms results that way. I definately don't believe in physical punishment; all that teaches is might makes right. You're right because you're stronger,bigger,whatever. It's a recipe for creating a little fascist. Kids who get a lot of physical punsihment tend to be bullies around the neighborhood or at the platground,and they grow up to be obnoxious,overbearing control freaks.

2016-05-17 10:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

I dont' believe in beating them with objects, but I do firmly believe that a good scuff on the butt (once) is sufficient IF AND ONLY IF the occasion calls for it. My eldest, when she was 4 years old, ran out in the road 3 times and the third time almost was hit by a car. She got one good slap across her bare rearend, and since then she's yet to do something stupid like that again, and she's now 15. So, yes, there are occasions when they need it, majority of the time I don't believe in it.

Then again, "time outs" are just as useless and should also be abolished. Doesn't teach them a thing.

2007-04-24 01:53:48 · answer #11 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 2 0

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