Is the common American in denial?

Question

I remember being in school and being bullied and persecuted by almost everyone. It's seemed a bit unrealistic, because you would think that someone would care.

However, in that environment it appeared to be a helpless and Godless place. Reports of abuse go unnoticed or unreported, and it seems as if the teachers ans staff don't do anything about it. I lived thru such an even.

I would always ask myself, are people this cruel? Even the girls would join in the abuse. Why are kids so cruel, I always asked, but it doesn't end at the class room. It seems that people just like to have a person to pick on, or bully around.

As a victim to this unnecessary violence, I often wonder... Isn't this type of abuse "sick"? What about when the person being abused is finally fed up? Who do they lash out on, especially with so many people involved in the abuse?

Does anyone know what it's like to feel like the whole world is against you? Was the "VA.Tech Shooter" really the sick individual here, or us?

Answer 1

Your question and comments show a lot of the problem. A long time ago, in a land far away, (Midwestern USA in the 1960's) our country was just emerging from its denial about racism and beginning a level of consciousness, led partly by the Kennedy family.

Families raised their children without 2nd jobs, we usually had stay at home moms, day care was unheard of, extended families made sure kids had a set of values, teachers could spank misbehaving students, fights were settled with fists, no guns.

Since then we have sunken into a level of self centeredness, cliquishness, extremes of capitalism, in a nation that bullies other countries, Christians that only protect Christians, and companies that have no loyalty to stock holders or employees.

Maybe the schoolyard bullies are just preparing the few remaining innocent children for the realities of 21st century living in the U.S.

Want to see this changed? Just start by speaking up for the little guy.

Take care of yourself and surround yourself with good people, Do favors, and more than asked of you; notice how you feel different about your day and the world.

The world is what the world is. You will see what you want to see in it. BE and see the good stuff.

Answer 2

First of all, I agree that something more has to be done about bullies. My wife talks about being bullied in middle school, being spit on when she'd get off the bus and pushed down on her way to class. Many people endure wrongful bullying and cruel treatment from others yet don't go on a shooting rampage killing innocent individuals. The Va Tech shooter was paranoid schizophrenic and wouldn't respond to anyone even when they tried talking to him. He was delusional and it is very sad to me that someone let that slide and didn't get him the help he so desperately needed. I still feel that people can rise above what others say or do. My neice had to change schools because of the girls bullying her. She is now a straight A student in college and a well rounded person. I think Cho's family also has to take some responsibility in this for letting his actions go and not getting him help. We need to be more aware and do more for mentally ill people and those who are unfairly picked on, but I still don't accept that as an excuse for murder.

Answer 3

Oh boo hoo. Just about everyone got picked on but we picked ourselves up, dusted ourselves off and kept on moving. It's part of life where kids fight and pick on each other...it is good for them so they learn coping skills as life will throw crap balls at them until they die.

Also this happens the world over.

So yes the VT shooter was the sick dooshbag here who got what he deserved and I only regret that it was not a more painful and prolonged death which he so richly deserved.

Answer 4

in a diseased cruel society, we are all to blame. no one is perfect, and the kid who did the VA spree shootings was in need of help and attention. the blame is on everyone, because it took ANOTHER tragedy like this (remember columbine??? anyone??? REMEMBER?!) to get the US thinking about mental health care and awareness as well as gun reform laws. The saddest part??? this whole thing will be talked about and talked about for maybe 3 months, we will then forget and move on, having made no real changes.

Answer 5

You see the thing is most kids just join in because everyone is doing it just to fit in.
I agree bulling is bad but murder is worse.
You make a good point but you never ever condone killing another human-being by anyone even by a police man.

Answer 6

because you think bullying is unique to the USA?

travel a bit - its human nature

sorry

Answer 7

Someone needs to see the school councillor quick!