our marriage is only 6 months old,and he is in hurry to try all his fantacies.I have to wake up early in morning and he gets annoyed if i want to sleep after once.lake of sleep and pain in rear is making me uneasy.how and in which words i should tell him that he accepts without feeling hurt,kindly suggest.i will be grateful
2007-04-23 23:07:56 · 32 answers · asked by sulagatirani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no kindly way to tell you this honey, you are being forced to have anal intercourse without enjoying it and I agree that is in fact very painful next to child birth is really a nightmare.. Stand up to your husband and let him know you do not enjoy this, you don't like this and you will not do it again or at least not as often.. Hon you can't live the rest of your days with this man being his sex slave that is not what marriage is about.. If you don't stop now this is going to go on and on.. does he thinks you enjoy this? maybe that is why he ask for it all the time, is simple let him know tell him hon, just tell him you hate it and you wish that he can understand just how much.You don't have to take this or your marriage will soon be in trouble. Speak up girl I feel your pain, I have being there too all women have or most and the only way is going to stop is by you refusing and telling him what you feel.. Good luck.
2007-04-24 00:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Forced Rear Entry
2016-12-18 16:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by boven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite unfortunate I should say to start your wedded life rather painfully. Anal sex is at best an occasional diversion which should take place very infrequently when regular intercourse becomes somewhat boring. And it should take place with the consent of both the partners.
Forcing you to have anal sex frequently is not fulfilling fantasies, but fulfilling perversions. Overlooking your resultant pain shows a carelessness which a wife does not expect from her husband.
A wife has equal rights as that of her husband. Sex should be fulfilling to both and not just one. Tell him as sweetly as possible, but also firmly at the same time that anal sex is extremely painful for you and you don't want it any longer. There are other ways of enjoyment which aren't painful and suggest him to try those.
2007-04-24 06:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Modest 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well leaving him is certainly not the answer. You just have to communicate with him. Tell him the things that make you feel good and the ones that don't. Ask him what you could do to him to bring him pleasure as an alternative. If he does truly love you he will be open to it. Just explain to him you have let him do it a few times, and your not getting used to it. Side note, when you and him do the rear entry thing, you are using lubrication aren't you, if not that would help the pain. If you are then just explain that to him. Good luck.
2007-04-23 23:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by d h 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try telling this in his mind that intercourse is intercourse and not his course. Not only him, you too have to enjoy the act to make the relationship lasting for life.
Get this into his mind that all his fantasies will be taken care of but can he eat the most favourite dish thrice a day for his life. Then can he eat it with his anus too. When God has made Vagina for natural sex (he's provided enough elasticity and lubrication too) and in the anus there is neither enough elasticity for the entry of penis nor there is lubracation for sex as that organ is for passing the stool for which it is okay.
He needs to be told that fantasies are for odd times exploration and not regular ones.
If he still doesn't understand then try involving his mother and sisters and if need be other family members also. If nothing works - throw him away from life. You can't pay with your life for his **** fantasies. either he has to become considerate or he deserves to lose you. Take the ball to his court. You are bound to win the points.
2007-04-23 23:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by sanjay 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It certainly doesn't sound as if you are having loving, caring sex. It should be something that both of you can enjoy. If you're being forced to do something you don't want to do, then you are being raped. And sex every single night is tooooo much! There's more to marriage than screwing. One practical suggestion: use a lot of Vaseline on him and in you. That should take away a lot of the pain if not the discomfort.
2007-04-24 00:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Constant Reader 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he feels better and stronger in some other posture( his second choice), encourage him to use this posture whenever he is requesting for a repeat. If you enjoy having sex with your hubby try to make it more pleasurable(physically and verbally) to him also so he is encouraged to stick to your preferred posture than anal sex. It is common to have multiple sex in a day in early years of marriage. If you are not living in a joint family you can change the timing or go early to bed. Otherwise just make him habituated to a early morning sumptuous treat than spoiling your sleep till late at night. I am sure he will be game for it and it will make your day too. ENJOY.
2007-04-24 00:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Prem 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-03 11:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by lieser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok to have fantasies but then, should let our own fantasies induce pain in others. Talk to him. Husband and wife already, there's nothing that can't talk. You are just telling him you are in a pain, and lacking in sleep. Tell him what you prefer and turns you on, gives you climax. Eventually, he wanna be good in having sex, he will do what you like best. I believe he'll bite the bait.
2007-04-23 23:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by henry_fy7d 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight on that you don't like what he is doing that you can't take the pain anymore. If he is doing this against your will he is raping you. If after you have spoken to him he won't respect your wishes leave him or get legal advice. It is your body. Don't let ANYONE manipulate your body. You take decisions over yourself not anyone else.
Good luck and all the best
2007-04-24 00:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by jamidami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋