we just got married like 9 months ago, weve been fighting a lot, but i need more romantic. like we used to be. i dont get thay butterfly feelinganymore. what can i do to make him see i need it and im sad? in a guys opioion what should i do to let him know i need more romantic?
2007-04-23 22:20:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No guy in this world wants to deal with a wife, of only 9 months at that, who walks around saying I'm sad, you need to change, I need to talk, I need to .......well you may get the idea.
Maybe he has figured out that you are beginning to sound like his mother. Not a good plan for continued marital bliss.
Here's a number of tidbits for you to absorb.
Subtle does not work with married men. Learn to tell him what you want. Be specific.
Guys will not adjust to being told how they need to do anything much less change.
Guys will not listen to pleas regarding your how you feel. There is nothing we can do to change how you feel. We can only change our behavior. If you want something to change be specific about it.
No guy wants to be married to his mother. Nothing closes a guys mind quicker than that perception. We have had years trying to tune that woman out. If you sound like that we are prepared.
The butterflies will not come back. You are now married. It is time to explore more deeply and openly than the anticipation stage will allow.
Romance comes with love and acceptance. Romance will never be available from a guy who is wondering what the next stupid fight is about.
2007-04-24 00:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take this matter into your own hands. Be more romantic to him and see what happens. Youre just about out of the "Cinderella Honeymoon" period of your marriage and where real love takes over. This is normal and happens in every marriage, no matter what anyone tells you. To be the perfect spouse like when you first met i hard to keep up so now youre getting adjusted to each other, but there is no law that states that only one partner in a relationship can be romantic. So take the ball (figure of speech) and run with it, he will get the idea. Men need some "renewing" time from time as we tend to get complacent and take things for granted (sorry). Frying pans are goor persuaders/reminders too. Good luck
2007-04-23 22:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opioion, you can get more romantic in your life by using suttle, efective hints.
2007-04-24 02:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back, take a deep breath, and figure out why you are fighting. Solve that problem or at least put it in its place. Is it so important that you have to battle over it. Get some peace and quiet in your marriage, the rest will follow.
2007-04-23 23:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if u must know, i think a good ol fashion dick sucking would be a nice start, maybe if your fat *** lost some weight he would want that squish mitten a little more
2007-04-23 22:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its called communication...maybe you should be asking him, instead of asking us
2007-04-23 22:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋