He filled out the divorce papers last year but they are still in his vehicle.
Why would he not file them?
2007-04-23 21:41:42 · 7 answers · asked by crystal2phoenix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was hurt by her and she took everything he built for them. He walked away with nothing yet he contributed alot to the relationship. He no longer contacts her either. His family and friends support him and they all know how horrible she was to him.
2007-04-23 21:57:23 · update #1
His marriage definately ended over 3 years ago and they were legally separated. They were living in different parts of the country.
Also I would not and could not trap a man into marriage. That would be a horrible thing to do and i could not be a relationship built around that.
2007-04-23 22:07:55 · update #2
I personally think he still has feelings for his wife (this doesn't mean he doesn't love you) hes bound to, despite how many yrs he was married to her. As she walked out on him, it would seem he didn't want the marriage to end, but he must of accepted it somewhere along the line as he is trying to move on by starting a new relationship. Separation is hard to swallow for any human being,let alone divorce. If this is something he defiantly didn't want, why hasn't he thrown the divorce papers away? Its easy enough. I think he hasn't done anything as yet because hes dreading the procedures, the financial implications, the emotional upheaval, but most of all the time it will drain out of this life..At the end of the day, you haven't been together that long. It depends on what has been said between you. Has he told you he loves you, has marriage been mentioned BY HIM, does he speak about his ex?? Or do they have children?? These are things to think about (as i don't know what hes told you) i would think about YOUR future & where YOU want to be in x amount if yrs. If it is with him (which it seems it is) all you can do is support him & show him what a great person you are, make him laugh, have fun,make plans for the future, even if it is a holiday. If he loves you, he WILL do it.
2007-04-23 23:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually there are only 2 reasons. One is he doesn't really want a divorce or 2 he wants an excuse in case a girlfriend tries to trap him into marriage. He can show you he's filled out the paperwork to keep you from bugging him.
There's also a real possibility they never legally separated. They could just have an understanding he can cheat around.
Short of being broke that whole time there is no excuse for that long.
2007-04-23 21:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by syllylou77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your lawyer. But you probably do have the right to go back there because it is just as much your house as hers. Again, ask your lawyer. He knows the law where you are. What you should have done is when the cops told you to find a place to spend the night, you should have asked, "Are you saying I am not permitted to stay in my own house?" I bet they would have told you they can't make you leave, but they suggest it. Also, if it was my wife treating me like yours is treating you, I would not have left. I would have said, "You want the divorce, you leave. And, leave without our daughter." I'd have told her that I want the house and I want custody, and if she wants to leave, then leave. You put yourself in a vulnerable position. She now has the house, and she now has primary custody and is the primary caregiver for your daughter. She'll end up wiith the house and the kid, and you'll end up with a huge chunk of your paycheck taken out. You'll get "visitation" which she will then do everything in her power to interfere with, judging by how she's treating you now. You'll show up to the house to get your day with your daughter, and nobody will be home. You'll call and complain about it, and she'll put you off. You'll have to pay to file with the court to enforce your visitation. You need to start fighting back, or she'll walk all over you. And think how you're going to feel when you show up at the house, and her new man answers the door. Then he'll make you wait outside of your house while they get your daughter ready to see you.
2016-05-17 09:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by lula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey: The answer is what is what you are thinking, but dear not say: You are just a "for now" relationship and he intends to return to his wife when the chance comes his way. Being married and being a "partner" are not the same. Marriages die hard and the fact that he still has not filed the divorce papers is a testament to that. Best advise: talk to him plainly and directly. Honesty is the best policy.
Cheers,
Mr. M on "divorce."
2007-04-23 21:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I was separated for two and ahalf years but
we still saw each other on a reg. bases and yes we still had sex.Old habits are hard to brake and we did get back together.You just don't want to see what is right in front of you,
you no the real reason you just don't want to believe he would do that to you.Welcome to the real world.He is a married man
and it sounds like he wants to stay that way.He still loves his wife and in his heart he knows they will get back together.
They still keep in touch so you don't no what he says to her.
I think it's time for you to move on because the two of you are not going to be a couple for long.
2007-04-23 22:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he may still be in love with her, and has hopes of going back to her one day, best distance yourself from him, he doesn't sound as if he is interested in moving forward with u. if he was he would have already made the move.
2007-04-23 23:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not to be mean, but is sounds like he is still into her, not you.
2007-04-23 21:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by IHSCOUTLUVR 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋