No one can make each and every date available with friends. Sometimes I ask my friend to go somewhere and for some reason she can't make it, so I accept it and wait until she can. However, when she asks me out and the rare occasion when I can't make it, she gets huffy and I don't hear from her. Just recently she asked me to go somewhere and I said I couldn't because for safety it was too far from home to get back so late at night and now I've not heard a thing from her. I've emailed her twice and texted her. Could this to be some kind of control or what she has over me?
2007-04-23 21:29:18 · 8 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she dnt understand you, jst let her knw dat your life do not invovle around her.
jst be your slf she aint worth a friend. if she cnt understand the value of a friendship.
2007-04-23 22:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, This is a hard one. I think there are two kinds of people in a situation like this. The one's like you who like to do things when it suits them and the ones like your friend who will do it even when it doesn't suit them. (in the eyes of you friend that is)
However your friend did not tell you that she sometimes meets you when she isn't feeling like it.
On the other hand, it is a little childish to jump up and down when you don't get your own way and yes Silence is a form of control (Abuse).
If this is a real friend to you and worth keeping, then try to be understanding, but try to make it clear that this kind of behaviour if NOT acceptable. Explain to her that sometimes you TOO do visit her when it doesn't really suit YOU because you like her company but sometimes you just can't. That will help to reassure her that you really want her as a friend.
This is her problem with her lack of confidence in herself.
It is not your job to fix her, but hopefully when you explain to her that you really like seeing her the problem will go away.
I wish you the best of luck in this and hope all goes well.
2007-04-24 05:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by nevserve 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definetly a control issue and she is probably alittle insecure. You need to be sincere with her and let her know its not personal and you still consider her a close friend and you will make it up to her. If you can't show up for something you need to say it is for personal/family reasons and then maybe she wont feel slighted. Don't make her feel like she is being "dissed" but give her a reason where she might feel sorry for you.
2007-04-24 04:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by ELofty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like one of those people that likes everything to be her own way. The only way to tackle people like that is a wake up call and for you to tell her exactly what you think. She probably doesn't realise what a "spoilt brat" she is coming across as when this happens. I've said it to a certain friend and she changed because if it. Good luck!
2007-04-24 04:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by beanie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be in control.The more you chase her,the more she will feel in control.If you have to contact her,leave a message for her to get back to you.You are then putting the ball back into her court.You will eventually find she is not a friend.But
a shallow person.
2007-04-24 04:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Butt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pretend you don't care that she is ignoring you.
She will come running back to you in no time.
2007-04-24 04:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by denyseo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain to her that you cant go everywhere with her.. she could always ask someone else
2007-04-24 04:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds loney i think soz to say like!
2007-04-24 04:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋