what do you think of the idea of women keeping their surname after marriage?

Answer 1

Parental relation is permanent and can't be changed, where as marital relation is just a social contract and can broken legally. So I think woman should keep their family name even after marriage.

Answer 2

Some women like their own surname, because they are used to it. Or obtained a degree under it. have a famous surname like Paris Hilton - would she change hers?
Or the guy they are marrying has a surname that sounds
wrong with their name.

If the guy really loves the woman, he would agree with what she wants. But ideally the children should take on the husbands surname or double barrel!

Answer 3

Does it really matter?

I don't see a different. Probably there are mens out there who don't like it because they think changing the surname means something to the marriage, but that suit to the early days, we now in the 2000 years.

Woman - Do what ever you like. It doesn't matter. We will love you the same :-)

Answer 4

I hyphenate my surname & married name. I did it to honor my father. My family wasn't rich but my dad had strength of character & integrity. He was my first knight in shining armor. He always said the only thing you can take with you is your name. To guard it's reputation & it will serve you in times of want and plenty. It must have been true because at his funeral you would have thought he was a celebrity so many people showed up with wonderful stories to tell. Comforting me. Some people I had never met or seen in years.
My husband loved me & thought it was fine I wanted to honor my father that way. He hoped if we ever had a little girl she'd want to do the same.
But then some women just do it because it's easier to add on than getting everything changed. It's really up to you. My married name is so common no old friends from the past or even the treasury claims dept. would ever be able to find me w/o knowing who I married. ;-)

Answer 5

This is their personal choice. If a women wants to keep her surname then whats bad in it. I mean she has the right to make this choice and she should be given space by her inlaws for this too. A name is a person's dignity, and a surname is something which she has inherited from her paternal side it should never be snatched away from her.

Answer 6

I think it's strange and maybe a little awkward if the marriage is over because of divorice or something (but not if she was like a widow) but then again...from a woman's view I do see how it could be strange or uncomfortable to GO BACK to her surname you know?

Answer 7

bra burning feminism at its best! why dont men change their surname and why women only need to give up everything including last name for the sake of marriage??
its all about of sense of SELF, identity, ego and esteem!

actually none of the spouse should change anything about them..there is more to marriage then change of surname.

Answer 8

It is the woman's choice to do so. I have researched family history for several years and one branch uses the woman's surname as a middle name for the children. It is a nice touch I believe.

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Answer 9

If the couple is planning at all on having children, there should be ONE surname, either his or hers. Kids need the security of belonging to one family, one surname.

Answer 10

Personally when I get married I am having both names! - My Fiance's surname is one that I would associate with a bad experience so for that very good reason I am having a double barrelled name! Hes happy I'm happy that's all that matters.

Answer 11

Why not. It's her choice. If his surname didn't sound any good I wouldn't change mine either.
Why doesn't a male change his surname to hers?
Just because it was done in the past doesn't mean we should keep doing it.