2007-04-23 21:01:22 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure after the first time he promised you he would never do it again. You had no choice but to believe him,what else would you do after all you have kids and bills.Men no we can't go out on our own after years of living a certain way.We tell our self he will never do it again but inside we are slowly dying
just waiting for the next time.When he did it the first time what did you do,did you tell him to leave or did you do nothing.If you did nothing and let him get away with it,with just a slap on the wrist why not do it again. Your husband knows you are not going to do anything.I really don't no what to tell you but the obvious
leave him and take him for ever thing he is worth he deserve it
I'm sorry he done this to you again he is a very selfish man with no thought of anyone but himself.He needs a taste of his own medicine and only you can do that. He needs to see what it's like to not have you at his beckon call let him see you with someone, brake his heart like he has yours for so long.
2007-04-23 21:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide what you can live with. If you think you can't bear to live with a man you could never trust again, you may want to consider leaving.
Or, if you find that leaving is too drastic, you may wish to talk to him, invest in some counselling as well. Did he give a reason as to why he cheated? If you stay with him, there is always that risk that he will do it again. By staying with him, you are unconsciously saying it's okay to cheat. If he doesn't have to deal with any consequences, there isn't much of an incentive for him to stop.
But, again, it is what you can live with. Might be wise to write a list of the pros and cons about staying versus leaving, and see what comes up.
My sympathies, I know what it's like and how hard it can be. Hope this helps, kind regards, Penny xx
2007-04-24 04:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay married. Discussing with him may lead to breakup or worst thing, violence. Does he love the family enough for you to use some threats? What does the children think? If he is not the agressive type, I would approach the ***** and give her a piece of mind. After 35 yrs and still cheating. You poor soul, it must be a terrible feeling.
2007-04-24 04:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by greentea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 35 years you should be cured, how you know is the second time? maybe is the second time he is being caught that is for sure.. We talking about a whole life time 35 years.. But you now what? is not too late to let him know his wicked way could make him end up all alone.. but is up to you Take it or leave him.... Good luck.
2007-04-24 08:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out to dinner with another man, and just have a lot f fun. You dont nessasarily have to cheat to get back at him, but that fact your going out with another man will drive him up the wall and maybe re evaluate himself. Also--dont you feel dirty after he cheated? i know i did..but yeah you should do something to get his attention, then have a serious talk with him, and make him choose his cock or his heart. Make sure the kids arent home when u guys are fighting
2007-04-24 04:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Star274009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clean out your bank account, leave the kids with him (unless their all grown up after 35 years), move two states away, change your name, change your looks and style, then start a new life without him or his cheating ways.
If he files for divorce, or separation, get alimony for the years he cheated (also mental cruelty). Just don't take it sitting down. Do something, fight for your self-respect because he sure isn't going to.
This isn't a matter of you being married to him, it's a matter of him being married to you.
2007-04-24 04:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by phil 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
stay maried get counseling maybe its just sex don't lose 35 years over a dumn B if he is not willing seperate the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence but it never is.
2007-04-24 04:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by driver fixer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is, do you still want to be married to him? If so just grin and bear it and look the other way. Especially if he is still paying the bills etc. at home, because it's not easy out on your own.
2007-04-24 04:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you got kids, so better stay married... but if you cannot stomach the thinking of him cheating on you and u seek revenge on him... I know it will eventually hard to take, for children sake (at least until they gorwn up a abit)
2007-04-24 05:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by fooleong_chong 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a personal choice thing; you need to decide if you are willing to put up with him and his actions, or pursue you case in a Court of Law for a remedy: it is your choice.
2007-04-24 04:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by IHSCOUTLUVR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋