... finding that when you search online for other like people... for debate and friendship... all that ever comes up is sites geared to sex and relationships... with the assumption that... you must be seeking sexual liasions... and desperate to do it all again?
Do you ever wonder why anyone would want to?
You know there are so many lonely people like yourself... we hear about them all the time...we know like us, they're out there... you know... all those single females... who actually, retired (albeit unwillingly) from decades long relationships when divorce... or widowhood arrived much later in their lives... so... why is it impossible to find a site that shares being comfortable with our situation... and laughs and befriends... without the overtones of carnal need?
Would you join a friendship circle if there was one... or are you secretly looking again for another Mr Right?
Personally, I prefer friendships to relationships today!
2007-04-23 20:50:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm 62... so... I've been there... done all that... and I'd shock you if I said much more... I was a fifties/sixties teen... you didn't invent the act of fornication... and nor did we... because it came with Adam!
There's nothing new under the sun inside relationships my friend!
And as for one remark... no thanks... I don't particuarly want STDs or AIDS... which are more rife today... than any other time in history... a 'bit of other' never figured in my life and never will.
I'd sooner commit to someone long term, 'cept, I've done that twice and that's more than enough for me!
It is possible to have had enough of all the highs and lows especially when older folk carry so much baggage with us... it is possible to find contentment inside ordinary friendships too... and by acceptance of a single state... spiritual fulfilment!
2007-04-23 21:08:23 · update #1
Adviceman:
I'll pass on emailing you thanks... and yes I am aware of the statistics within the older age group on STDs... exactly why I'm in a no go area.
And though I know where you are coming from on everything you say, about formerly unknown disease, AIDS is not one of them, that is totally down to modern man and his behaviour.
And there is no other that has had such a serious worldwide impact on adults, parents and children... and devastated whole communities.
And anyone who wants to keep on taking man made medication to prolong their sexual drive is welcome to do so, but the actual act is not love, unless inside commitment. It's rather self indulgent and nothing at all to do with forming genuine relationships in my book.
Friendship from the mind which grows without that pressure always in the background, allows growth in ways no physical relationship can.
If when friendship is in place, if two people fall in love, that's a very different story altogether!
2007-04-25 11:02:05 · update #2
i agree with u,i am 62 and male.i prefer being on my own now as i `ve been married twice.when i want company i go out and chat to friends & aquantences.but i would still like 2 chat on line 2 some other people of my ilk.like u i grew up in the 50&60 era and saw all sorts of changes,some 4 better & a few 4 worse.not 2 worry though i shall survive.like u 2 i`d join a friendship circle if 1 was available.until then i shall keep on at y/a.
2007-04-23 21:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by happy chappy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay you're 62 and not interested in sexual relationships only friends. I guess you just have to understand that just because guys are 60 it does not mean that they're not going to want sex. We live in the age of Viagra and a whole slew of new drugs coming around the corner that will keep the guys stiff….. until…. well…. they're stiff.
As you have found the Internet has a lot of sites that are more interested in the sexual aspects of getting two people together than anything else…. that's true. But it doesn't mean the others don't exist. You might want to try SeniorNet.org or AARP.
You said you didn't invent the act of fornication because it came from Adam. Not sure if that was a Freudian slip…. but to be fornication it would have to be Adam and Eve.
He said he didn't particularly want STDs or AIDS which are more today than any time in history. Again a correction here…. syphilis was rampant throughout Europe through the 1400s and 1600s…. much more people were acted with STD back then today. On the other hand through medical science we've now been able to identify even more STDs that we simply didn't know about. Seniors actually have a higher rate of AIDS then young people (according to the CDC). But this is probably due to medical necessities that they have to have been coming in contact with hospitals are instruments that could be contaminated. Not through sexual contact.
I'm sure there are BLOGS out there that support what you're looking for…. if not start one of their own and invite people that only want to be friends.
If you have a follow-up question or one that's a bit more personal and you want to send privately you can e-mail me directly by clicking on my picture and then click on my e-mail link through Yahoo answers in my profile
AdviceMan
2007-04-25 08:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by AdviceManHere 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not at that stage of life yet, but I totally appreciate what you're saying. My mum was widowed young (in her 40s) and, like you, wanted to meet some people and have some fun without wanting to get involved with anyone again. She joined a group purporting to do just this, and they all ended up pairing off because many of them WERE looking for more. Perhaps the answer lies in female only groups where the sexual element is removed! If such a chat room were established, I would recommend it to her, certainly.
2007-04-23 20:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The SAGA ,Age Concern and Yours Magazine all have Zones ,forums ,chatlines-----i have not explored them fully but they seemed O.K at first glance.There will be others I am sure.Just as in daily life you may have to seek out the good from the bad.Hope the search is enlightening at the very least.!I'll keep looking for more it sounds like my cup of tea also.
2007-04-23 21:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Xtine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah that carnal need is so natural. Why deny it? There are all kinds of sites and all kinds of clubs and I belong to some of them. There is no carnality let me assure you in my sailing club (Well not much if you exclude the Commodore when he absconded with his best friend's wife) and no carnality in the chess club or the bridge club or the investment group.
And on line it's the same thing. There are blogs and discussin groups and ....Go find them and leave us carnal people to our dismal fate.
And don't forget: Dirty old men need loving too.
2007-04-23 21:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her what that became approximately! perhaps it became basically she didnt click on the appropriate spot on the drop down menu. Now, in case you have problems interior the marriage then start up hectic and making plans for a divorce.
2016-12-16 14:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also want friendship not relationship. i am also a single parent, a separated wife, a single mother. why am i here at yahoo answers? i love answering questions. especially when i feel i can give sensible answers to questions.
2007-04-23 20:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with over 60's.. They are humans too
2007-04-23 20:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no not really
nothing wrong with over 60's.. They are humans too
2007-04-23 21:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i am looking for friendship. that will turn into love
2007-04-23 20:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋