I want to get married at some point, but what if my wife gets really fat like so many others?

Question

I see alot of married couple where the wife gets to be a beluga whale while the husband stays relatively normal. I understand they have kids, but do they just let themselves go with the mentality of 'I've got him trapped, there's no need to maintain myself'. I can see why alot of guys get erectile dysfunction in marriage as I don't know how I could get up the courage to have sex with a 200 pounder. I think my limit at most would have to be 160 until it's too unappealing. Would love be enough to look past the cottage cheese? I was in love and I noticed over time she gained some weight and let herself go alot. I knew at that point(especially after seeing her mom) that she would get gargantuan after marriage. Why can't they just stop being so large?

Answer 1

Not all female's gain the weight. Actually, I known some who has lost the weight.

What matters is love and being healthy.

If a woman is gaining the weight, either she is having kids (especially back to back makes it hard to get off the weight even more) or if eating habits haven't changed or they have for the worst (constantly junk food, eating out a lot, no doing things together to help burn the calories/intake).

I see alot of males get those bellies on them (especially beer bellies) and not be as active as they used to be.

It is all about motivation. Which is hard to get if have been big boned or depressed most or all of their life.

Be littling someone won't make them loose it faster, so incase if she does gain some weight, have to becareful how mention it or it can do much worse.

As I said, male's gain the weight too, majorly. So, it isn't about the female's either.

Answer 2

Some women don't have the energy to work out and look good. they are housewifes because they chose to be, they do the housework and forget all about themselves and put husband and kids first. A womans body is complicated after child birth, not alot of women feel the need or the urge to want to get back into their old "hot body" before they had kids.

Some just don't have the motivation to do so because they put family first. Some who do go to the gym. Those women who are CEOs and VPs have to look good to keep a job so they make it a rule to work out.

U cant call a woman a whale though. What about guys with beer bellies huh ? Thats a shallow comment and you know it!

If you worry about your wife getting fat then just TURN GAY then you don't have to worry about it.

I thought when you marry you are told "In sickness and in health in good and bath till death do you part". I guess that doesn't apply to you so why be married ?

As for what you mentioned as the mentality of "I got him trapped" that goes both ways you know ? Some women who trap men give the good women a bad name and what about guys who tap their wifes and make them have a bus load of kids ? What about them ? Its just as unfair?

Just GROW UP already!

Answer 3

Oh, honey. You're only seeing one side of the equation.

Looking at the tone of your question, one can only assume that men have made their wives enormously unhappy. Many times, women believe food is the only thing they have control over in their lives. Unfortunately, that leads to overweight and obesity.

Shame on you for being so narrow-minded. Take a look in the mirror, fella, and see what about your life you can change to make you more sensitive to a woman's feelings.

It would do you well to remember that abuse isn't always physical. The mental abuse you've just heaped upon women such as myself, who see themselves in your eyes a beluga whale, is horrifying.

Sandy

Answer 4

Hey Johnny, what about the guys who let themselves go? Ever seen any of them? I have. Guys get so fat they can't see if their shoes are tied without looking in a mirror. Do their women stick with them? Some do, some don't. Same way for guys sticking with the women. Life is what it is. I would recommend to both men and women that they look carefully at the parents of their prospective spouses and check out their (the parents) size and shape. That's a partial predictor of the future. But if you find someone you can love and who loves you and if that love continues, body size doesn't become that important.

Answer 5

women have different body chemisty.

hormones and stress contribute to weight gain and loss.

especially when a women has a baby it's harder to lose the weight because honestly, babies suck the energy out of you.

I, for example, am 20 lbs overweight, I don't look bad but i'm not where I'd like to be.

Its hard to find the time let alone energy to work out with a 7 month old.

not all women are stuck in that mentality. I guess it depends on the circumstance and the person.

Answer 6

Why can't you just stop being such a pig? You carry a baby around for nine months. You squeeze something the size of a watermelon out of an opening the size of a lemon and see how hot you look! Some people (and yes I do mean people...some men gain weight after they get married) are prone to gaining weight. My sister's husband was a pig like you, too. He pays $1200 a month in child support now.

Answer 7

Its an interesting Q. You are right to say that they feel I've got him now, and why do i need to impress anybody else. I guess they don't realise that their husbands don't like that and don't find them attractive that is why you hear women saying our sex life is non existance or their husbands stray. It is important to keep yourself well not only for the husband but for their own selfesteem. I don't know if were married I would still look the same as I do now, I like to look hot and sexy for my man, thats what keeps everything fresh and excisting, I would expect my man not to be a fat slob either. It's funny what your saying cos I know a lot of guy who say the same thing as you.

Answer 8

supply up stating all those 'alluring' women individuals you spot on the mall, eating place and so on, you may desire to be encouraging her self-worth not knocking down it. 3 months is not any time in any respect to lose the burden after having somewhat one. She has an entire new ordinary to get used to, and if she is working to boot then there isn't particularly some time for herself. help her via making waiting healthful foodstuffs earlier you bypass off to artwork interior the morning, it won't take you long to bathe and peel some veg or prepare a great healthful salad, the two considered one of which may be left interior the refrigerator till your evening meal. I comprehend which you're basically attempting to assist her yet via stating the different women individuals, you basically remind her of ways 'distinctive' her physique is now. via being greater lively with your help, she is plenty greater in all probability to lose the burden that she has gained. good success to you the two for the destiny and congratulations on the beginning of your son.

Answer 9

Why should we have to maintain a 120 pound weight
just to keep you interested?
You get married because you LOVE someone, and you
can't imagine life without them. FAT OR NOT.

Would you marry a pretty woman and then divorce her
30 years later because she got old-looking?
I'd hope not!

Get a cat, they don't get fat after you have them for
a while. You'll be happier if everyone around you is
skinny anyway. You ******* jerk

Answer 10

You are a superficial jerk.
Don't think about what their weight may become but think about if you love that person and want to be with her forever. If you see her getting too big say something like you don't spend enough time together, and get you both memberships to a gym so you can work out together.