2007-04-23 19:19:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not his job to make you feel secure...if he's doing things on purpose to add insecurity to your insecurities, then the question is, what makes you be attracted to someone who makes you feel bad?
2007-04-23 20:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lioness 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real answer? The problem is you. You can't find security by looking to another. You have to look inside yourself for your security. The man is doing whatever he is doing. You are the one reacting. It is your choice how you react...and if you choose to react by feeling insecure, that is your issue, not his. You are complete in yourself, and you do not need any man to make you feel secure. Learn to love and honor and respect yourself. If you can accept yourself without judgment, then it will not matter how others act because you will always know how great you are. And your greatness doesn't depend on someone else to validate you.
2007-04-24 02:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's impossible to even tell what youi mean by this. You should have provided details. The answers provided by others thus far seem to rely on a lot of assumptions (telling us more about the people answering them than anything) that may or may not be valid.
Is he behaving erratically or doing things that are downright disrespectful and irrational? Or did you always have poor self-confidence and are now expecting him to make you feel better about yourself?
2007-04-24 06:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is he is probably doing something that is making us feel that way. Whatever that it is about the man we need to discover and express our feelings to him on it. He has the choice to help us understand him by explaining what he means by certain actions that make us uneasy. Communication is the key to put our mind at rest. Maybe the insecure feeling you have is just an insight to a gut feeling .....that he isn't honest and you feel you can't trust him and your sensing that something isn't right about him in your relationship.Usually the gut feeling is right.
2007-04-24 02:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somebody forgot to tell you, women's rights gave us notice that you were responsible for your own security. With equal treatment for you guys you can make your own self esteem better, develope you own sense of security, and all the other things that are accepted as the mans responsibility is now yours. No more paying for dinner, catering to your feminine needs to cuddle, fireplace chats, complaining that we want too much sex, don't help around the house, or are not house broken. In reality, I guess that it is not even valuable to get married anymore as women are self sufficient and don't want to be treated as women they want to be men. Some however have taken the stance that they want to be treated as men and have the nice things they enjoyed as women such as chivalry, open doors, etc, but, hey if that is what you want then I am all for it. The saying that "You cannot have your cake and eat it too is real, welcome to reality!"
2007-04-24 02:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by g_menagerie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way to solve this problem is by talking to him first and telling him what you like and dislike.. communication is always the best way to make things better.. But if he continues to not put any effort in this relationship then you may need to do some really deep thinking and figure out if you love him effort to stay with him even if he is not giving any effort..
2007-04-24 02:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by maria U 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is supposed to make you feel secure, but yourself. If your man is not doing what you think he should, tell him that either he does it, or you are gone. Ultimately you are responsible for how your life develops--not him.
2007-04-24 02:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be secure in yourself, and you wont need anyone to make you feel secure. Love yourself first, and you will be loved.
2007-04-24 02:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by hkychick10 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
at times, its the woman who wants more n more thus she wil feel that nvr wil she b secured enuff with the man...
at times, i guess the man doesnt behave manly enuff to let the girl have trust in the man. guess it take s two hands to clap~
2007-04-24 02:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem would be with you. You can't rely on someone else to control how you feel about yourself.
2007-04-24 02:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋