My bestfriend and I are both women and are both married. One night we kissed and did some other stuff. She won't talk to me anymore and doesn't want to be friends because of what happened between us. But I feel so guilty because I don't know if its considered cheating if you kiss another women and have women sex. Please help I am going out of my mind, I already lost my bestfriend I don't want to lose my husband too.
2007-04-23 19:17:46 · 25 answers · asked by sexylady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it is cheating sex is just that. Some men are into that business and he could be angry he wasn't invited to the "show." Most would be angry because it is a sex act none the less. I'm sure he's noticed the friend not being around don't make it worse by lieing. Look at it like this how would you feel if the roles were reversed? Remember "Do unto others as you would have done unto you?"
I would be angry and wonder what made him turn to another especially one of the same gender.If there was something I wasn't giving or doing. When one strayes from the relationship it's usually because the other party is changing. I wish you the best of luck honesty is the best policy.
2007-04-23 19:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, supposedly, before the 1900's women having sexual relations with other women was very common and totally normal. I don't know what happened to change all of that, but in my opinion, I don't think you were cheating. I think that you should tell your hubby what happened so that it does not whither you with guilt anymore, and I think your friend just feels strange about what happened. Give it some time, you will feel better.
2007-04-23 19:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by snowangel_az 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you lose your husband unless you told him about your adultery. With a man or a woman, either way, if you give yourself to another you are a cheater. You cheated and you should silently bare your own guilt. You need not inflict pain upon your unknowing husband. If you need confession see your priest in the box or make an appointment with a mental health counselor.
2007-04-23 19:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. Absolutely it is cheating. I could not even read all of the answers given before I had tell you my opinion. Personally, I would alert your girlfriend, if possible, that you are going to tell your husband and encourage her to do the same. If children are involved, keep them in mind. If you feel guilty, no offense, you should. She probably refuses to talk to you because she feels guilty too and does not want to fess up. Please keep in mind that if you question your actions, it is probably wrong and your conscience is torn between sin and virtue. Good luck.
2007-04-23 19:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to know? Okay, here it comes then. If you don't want to tell your spouse or partner about what you did because you are afraid that they will be unhappy then yeah it is cheating.
You kiss someone else - If they are going to be pissed it is cheating.
If you're out of town/out of the country - Cheating.
If whatever you did was just a one time thing that is never ever going to happen again and only the two of you that did it know about it - Cheating.
2007-04-23 19:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what if the tables were turned, if you're husband kissed another guy/had sex with another guy would you consider that cheating?
In my opinion what you did is definitly cheating, like some people have said you need to be honest and truthful with your husband he deserves to know (wouldnt you want to know?) I would also talk to your friend, be honest with her, tell her you are just as embarressed as she is and you would like to still be friends. But definitly talk to your husband
2007-04-23 19:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by his.lover2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my guess is your husband may be upset that he was not invited....lol.....you had to know that response was going to come out....lol...most men not all don't see that as cheating because they love the thought of women with women but you will never know untill you tell him and you do need to.it is all in how he veiws it..i have kissed a chic in front of him but we had talked about it,as in he knew it was something i was curious in .... but some men are not ok with it at all because it is something threating there happiness,but i think when you tell him you and him may have more fun with it then you think...with women it is more an emotional connection shared more than sexual anyway...but you better tell him before someone does it for you and then embaressment sets in to cause more of a sting than the truth up front from you....
2007-04-23 19:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by msknowing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, would you consider it cheating if your husband kissed another man and had man sex? If your answer is yes, then you cheated with your friend. I would consider it cheating, since sex with someone other than your spouse is cheating, regardless man or woman.
2007-04-23 19:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by n2mama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you did the wrong thing what is the need of kissing another woman what is the need to do stuff you haven't do so
convince your husband that you gon mentall illness
and your are so upset and you are suffering fromm the illness
so that your husband can believe that by this you can't loose your husband
2007-04-23 19:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by rajesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cheating. If it is something you are afraid to tell your husband, you already knew the answer. No yahoo answer can help you. This is up to you: You can tell him and reap the consequences or keep it to yourself and never do it again.
2007-04-23 19:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by vas_girl_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋