why are all men,lying,cheating,self centerd jerks?

Question

after 19yrs i still cant trust him n e more now than i could then.why cant we except tha fact that we will never b happily in love an 100% trustin of each other

Answer 1

Sounds like a screwed up relationship to me.

Why can't you just be alone until you can find someone you can trust???What's wrong with that concept???

Answer 2

Survival. Men get caught in a trap so weird, that they add to it instead of figuring their way out of it. Something like a mexican finger trap, or quicksand. They lie cause they don't know what happened, and can't be found out to be as stupid as they are, so they make something up. The Cheat cause they can't say no, they can't live with themselves if they turn down some of that -sugar pop- .. Then they lie about cheating cause the loved one who is interested should not have asked the question, the truth will not make you free. Consider, a woman who tells you the truth, doesn't really love you. As soon as either person tells the truth, the other has grounds to leave. The more you live with someone, the more you know to justify abandoning them. Being self-centered allows one to at least blame every one else for your troubles. Love without abuse is just so hard to find, and love alll to yourself is so rare. 60% love, with no abuse, and 40% decent money will usually cut it.

Answer 3

You can't trust him in what? Is he there at night? Does he work? Does he pay the bills? Does he support you when you are down? Does he take care of your car? What is it you cannot trust him about? I suppose you mean "cheating" with other women and you feel insecure that he might leave you for the greener side of the fence. Chances are he will not if you provide him with whatever he may need and do your part. If he "cheats" remember that men will have sex with many women but will make love to one.
Infidelity and unfaithfulness are two vastly different things.

Answer 4

Human nature is to be flawed and therefore there won't ever be a perfect anything. The key to keeping a happy relationship is being able to see the bad, understand it, and to be able to work through the difficult times, but it takes that from both parties. Both have to be on the level of knowing what they have and taking the necessary steps to keeping it fresh, keeping it strong.

There will always be bad times in any relationship or dealing with any man/woman you go out with, but without the bad times, who would know what the good times are. Make sure you and the person your involved with remember what you have, how you got to where you are and you'll see your problems are all small. Cause when it matters, if you two don't understand each other, you'll really have a happy in love kinda of relationship.

Answer 5

I'm having trouble understanding the question. Are you asking about yourself? If you see something in another that you don't like, it's usually about yourself. Do you feel comfortable with yourself? Are you reliable, trustworthy, etc? Does he say so? Does he think so? If he thinks you're great, and you think he's a jerk, something is really wrong. If you want to keep the relationship, go to therapy. Both of you. But first, ask yourself just how reliable you are? Maybe if you could really trust yourself you would find you could trust him.

Answer 6

I don't know that i can say this about every man out there......But I know that a large majority of them do. The ones that do lie I feel do it ......because they don't want the problem of dealing with the truth it. It is much easier to withold information from the woman in their life under the false pretense of believing that they are protecting us and don't want to hurt us! This in itself is a big lie because they are only protecting themselves from our reaction from the truth. Men cheat because because society allows them to believe that is in their nature "men will be men". Men encourage this behavior through the support of other men............they set up strip clubs,massage parlors, mens xxx magazines.......there is prostitution, porn videos, pimps ect.....ect. All this availability making the man feel he is entittled to it. They cheat because they think they can. Men can have sex with a stranger and see it only as that! they can do without any emotional involment.......where as women usually put feeling into it. They can betray the women in their life because it takes self centerdness to do it, some compatmentalize it in their mind in order to feel justified in coming back home........with the idea that what their women don't know won't hurt them. This comes full circle back to his lying belief , because what we don't know about him does hurt us. Everything they allow us to believe in them isn't real and they are forcing their lies on us. When the cheater is discvered the trust is broken and lost often forever.......because they changed our world as we knew it to be. They destroy our faith and hope that we could ever believe in our selves where love is concerned again!!!
,

Answer 7

Its not men, its humans. Women are just as bad as men, and I am one. If we all acted alittle nicer and treated each other a little better, then that is what we should get in return. If you dont like who or what he is, leave. You deserve better. You are 19 and have a possible nother 60 years in front of you, make them worth while living. Big picture - you control your own destiny and are responsible for you own behaviour, you cant do it for or to anyone else. Time to make decisions based on YOUR best interests. Hard? - Yes, worth it? ABSOLUTELY!

Answer 8

Instead of asking what's wrong with them, maybe you should be asking yourself what's wrong with you for picking jerks to go out with. Why do you keep making the same mistake? It takes two for a relationship form, and when it goes wrong, one person is never totally to blame.

Answer 9

If your trust is broken in him,you must have a good reason why.Then the question is,"Why do I take the abuse?"Search your soul and you can find the answer and maybe a new self.

Answer 10

Not all men are. I would like to think I try and treat my wife with the respect she deserves. I am no way perfect, but I always think of my wife. Fortunately, she knows that. I hope you find your way to happiness. Remember, it takes two to make a horrible or a happy relationship. Keep tryin'.