Am I normal? I don't want to have kids!?

Question

Please tell me if I am normal or not, and if any of the women felt the same way. I am 26 years old femail, who doesn't want to have kids. I love kids, but my reason not to have them is that I don't want to ruin my figure. I don't want those stretch marks, extra weight, spider viens and other things associated with pregnancy and childbirth. You will probably think I am completely selfish, but I am at least honest. Don't think I am a super model - I am average with good body shape, which I value perhaps more than my future. Please help.

Answer 1

You are normal. Last I heard 1 in 5 women, in the USA don't want kids.

My girlfriend got her tubes tied at age 27. I had a vasectomy at age 21. We have no kids. We are happy about it.

Women that don’t want kids, outnumber us men, but I can’t tell you by how much.

Most of my friends regret having kids!

If you don’t have kids, you and your significant other can travel the world, as we have!

Oh, one last thing: Do you really want to become some mans' "babymaking" slave? I think not.

Children are overrated at best. Don't bother.

Answer 2

I have a decent athletic body but guess what? I have had stretch marks ever since I hit puberty, and I never have had any children. So it happens but there are medical prescriptions that can make the stretch marks fade completely, even after pregnancy.

Extra weight? Who said you would get extra weight after having children? YOU need to keep a consistent weight routine every day to keep the figure decent so it doesn't make any difference if you have had kids or not. Your LACK of an exercise routine is what causes the extra weight during pregnancy, not the pregnancy itself, because during pregnancy you get fatigued easily so you wouldn't be in the mood for exercising. If women are pregnant and continue exercising throughout the full term, they only gain seven pounds typically because of the child itself and once the child is born, the mothers go back to their normal weights. And not all women gain spider veins from pregnancy or childbirth--spider veins is from aging.

So if you don't want to have kids because of a couple things that can be easily prevented with YOUR effort, then that's... well, you're right, it does sound selfish.

And understand you're 26. As you go into the 30s your body won't be like what it used to be so it will become more physically limited in some certain activities, unless you take better care of your body, therefore the weight gain.

Answer 3

Please do not have children. If you are worried about your figure (and there is nothing wrong with that) then you will resent your post pregnancy body and perhaps the child, which could lead to a whole entitiy on issues for you and the child. Children require a lot of emotional and mental support, and altho some would suy you are being selfish, this is your life and its your body, you do what you please with it, remembering that once you have a child, you are responsible for all facets of welfare for that child. Your honesty is to be applauded, but I cant help but wonder why you ask that question if you arnt a little uncomfortable about it? What does/ will your partner think? There are plenty of ways to look after your body and health during and after pregnancy, and many woman regain wonderful figures as well as give birth to healthy babies.
There are too many bad mothers out there who wanted children and dont raise them properly, there is nothing wrong with you not wanting them, its better than having them and ruin their lives with you misery over stretch marks and saggy boobs.

Answer 4

I don't want kids too, but having stretch marks is just one of the reason why I don't want to have children not all of the reasons. I don't feel I COULD raise a child, I am so unorganized, I can't even take care of myself and I don't think I am gonna be a good mom I have anger tantrums and depression on and off and that's unfair for the kids...those are my reasons. But there's still a possibility that I might change and change my mind....who knows!

Answer 5

after a baby your body is never the same ,, it ruins it .
why do you say you value your body shape more than your future? like having a kid does something to ensure you a good future? they cost a bloody fortune to raise give you gray hair and as for taking of care of you when you get old? LMAO fuhget about it. there are worse things than being childless. show me a woman in her 70's with kids and one without and i can tell you the difference in one second, the one withOUT kids looks ten years younger
i just read the post before mine and she says you only gain 7 pounds during pregnancy ( the weight of the baby) shes deluding herself,, and has no knowledge of the physical realities of pregnancy and childbirth

Answer 6

In this day and age, that's perfectly normal and honest. But what about adoption? Would you ever consider having a child that way? (Just curious.)

Answer 7

I understand what your saying but with someone that concerned about their figure don't you think you can bare a child and take care of yourself too....many women do it..my last gf and current gf both have children and you wouldn't know it by their figure...please don't become the type of women that is so scared of becoming aged that she alters her body so much her own mother wouldn't recognize her.

Answer 8

How about adoption if you dont want to ruin your figure? But just a lil' advice.... when you get older all those plagues are enevitable, unless of course you are married to a plastic surgeon...good luck!

Answer 9

your normal, many people chose not to have kids for different reasons. it's better not to have have kids than to have kids and resent your choice, good on you

Answer 10

Don't sweat it, you'll probably want them later. If not, thats ok too.