something that they feel is trivial but to you is humiliating ,and when you ask them to stop doing it they tell you that they won't because and it makes them laugh and that would be asking them to change who they are as a person and accuse you of having no sense of humour,is this justified, am i asking too much?or do you think that my partner should consider my feelings more?
2007-04-23 16:40:35 · 20 answers · asked by antony s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd say it depends on what it is, but i think that your partener should take your feelings into account, and should change. If its making you uncomfortable, then it shouldn't be done. simple as that
2007-04-23 16:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there Antony s, It is imperative in a relationship that there is respect from both sides. Your partner should completely be considering your feelings! How dare your partner humiliate you in public, or ever at all!!! Don't stand for it! You are certainly not asking too much! I'm sorry, but your partner sounds selfish. You are not asking them to change, you just want some consideration. Your partner has been warned before. So, just before you both go out, issue a reminder that you do not want to be humiliated. If your partner does it again, just give them a 'dirty' look and walk away....(and make your own way home alone)...that way you still keep your dignity, and it will make your partner feel silly in front of people. If your partner complains later, than simply say: now you get an idea of how it feels. I am sure that other people would have noticed and heard your partner humiliate you, and they must think what an idiot your partner is. To be honest, if your partner continues to treat you like this, then the relationship is doomed. You would be better off having someone who will give you the respect that you deserve. I wish you all the best! :o)
2007-04-23 17:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to them. In private. Tell them that whatever it is they did, you didn't appreciate it. You're not trying to change the person, you're just asking that they take your feelings into consideration before they do that again. I know what it's like to be in your place. I know what it's like for someone you care about to do something in public that they think is no big deal, but embarrasses you, or at least makes you feel uncomfortable. Talk to them. Communication is everything.
2007-04-23 16:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by DH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay you know the answer if they humiliating you in public to you make them laugh the they have know respect fore you or your relationship and that is not sense of humour that is belittling and degrading sweetheart get rid you deserve better
2007-04-27 08:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by eighty two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First....check on yourself that you are not doing something similar....and, if so, apologise.
Then....but not in a heated moment....discuss this with your partner.
Say how much it hurts and that a sense of humour can be exercised differently....without humiliating others (intentionally or not)
No, you are not asking too much.
2007-04-23 20:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL them to STOP doing it - you have the SAME rights that they are claiming - YOU are not going to change who YOU are as a person, and that person DOES NOT LIKE IT!!! YES, your partner SHOULD respect you JUST as much as they respect themselves - in this situation, they clearly are ONLY thinking of themselves! Tell them to go find someone else to laugh at!! That is just RUDE!
2007-04-23 17:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not asking someone to change as a person, it's asking someone to stop being an ahole and humiliating the person they love in front of everyone.
Tell him to grow up and go find yourself someone with a heart.
2007-04-23 16:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's very important that your partner respects you and treats you with dignity.
That really happens only if they understands that they are NOT to take you for granted...!
Talk, and discuss things over, and make sure that the point you are trying to make is taken in the right spirit.
2007-04-23 16:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by ronniejacob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your partner cannot be theirself without humiliating you then maybe you shouldn't be together............. you can't change anyone and you can't change the way you feel about what they do to you. Furthermore, you cannot make them understand your feelings if they don't feel that way, so if that person won't take the time out to respect your feelings then it is time to move on.
2007-04-23 16:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if ur partner is just being playful you should just laugh it off other than that tell your partner about it in a one-on-one talk
2007-04-23 16:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jack 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your partner is simply trying to tell you that he doesn'tt want to be with you anymore. He's trying to make you go off him completely because he hasn't got the balls to say it to your face. I might be totally wrong, but that's the vibe i'm getting here.
2007-04-23 19:16:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋