is this normal? does anyone else feel this way? i guess i just can't bare the thought that there are so many babies and children that aren't getting love and nurtering like my baby is
2007-04-23 16:33:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
don't get me wrong i love her more then life it's self! i would never change anything.
2007-04-23 17:01:22 · update #1
I do not feel bad about this or guilty in any way. I know that at this point in my life if I wanted to adopt I wouldn't be allowed because I am not finanically secure enough for the standards set by adoption agencies. It is difficult to adopt. If I didn't have my child then I wouldn't be able to have any children since adoption is so difficult and the screening processes are so extreme. What is sad is that there are so may women out there having babies they don't intend to keep, they should keep their legs closed more often. I am against abortion but I am pro birth control (abortion is NOT a form of birth control). If people have sex more responsibly then maybe the number of babies in need of a loving family would go down a little.
2007-04-23 16:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by MOMMY585 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that shows what a compationate person you are. But don't fee guilty, you wanted a biological baby of your own and there is nothing wrong with that. I hope that women will think very carefully before having children and then not being able to care for them and leaving it up to the system to raise them , in some cases in an unloving environment. If you can afford it why don't you sponsor a child if your feeling really bad about having one of your own. You could adopt one as well. It is a very expensive and long process, I think it's great that people like Angelina Jolie and Madonna are adopting, they can afford to do so and they each have biological kids.
2007-04-23 16:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a sensitive caring individual, which is going to make you a good mother, I don't really know how to respond to that I have a family member who's baby was born 4 months early and is still in the hospital, and may possibly be blind, it makes me feel fortunate that I have a healthy child, but at the same time wanting to do what I can for someone who isn't so lucky, so I guess that is your answer the more we help others who aren't as fortunate as us the better we can feel about making a difference.
2007-04-23 16:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Kisses 2504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty... My wife and I can't have children, and soon will have foster kids, maybe adopt one or two... Don't ever be ashamed or embarassed to have fulfilled the need that is innate in humans, worldwide. It's like blaming fire for being hot. OK? Raise your child the best you can, and you are contributing to a better world. Raise your child with the belief that bearing children isn't something to be taken lightly, and not "just because"... not by accident... and not to populate the overpopulated earth. Raise your child with a sense of responsibility to community and humanity, and you will have done well, and done a favor to mankind. Good luck, and congratulations.
2007-04-23 16:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guilt may be normal but without question you should love on your baby with all that is within you and not feel an ounce of guilt for doting on him/her!!! Unfortunately a lot of people do not take the time to do so but you are primarily responsible for the little one(s) that are entrusted to you. Who knows, perhaps your deep concern is something that may compel you to get involved in adoption or at least praying for or in some other way reaching out to others who do not get the love and nurturing they need.
2007-04-23 16:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by josiah's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wasn't going to reply to this question but the last comment caught me i have not been able to have a baby of my own but i have been a foster parent and helped a total of 12 children and i know in my heart they had the love of a person that really cared for them even though they were not mine. these children ranged in age from 3 weeks to 9 years old and they are still in our prayers and thoughts on a daily basis even though we have no idea how their life is going! no you shouldn't feel guilty count it as a blessing!
2007-04-23 16:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a lot of folk can't have kids, but they don't want or need your pitty. Your heart is in the right place but don't feel like you can't talk about your child infront of them. They need to know that you are not seeing them as some one with a handycap or something. Just act normal and take joy in the blessing you have. Perhaps they may be a bit sad on the inside but they will also get to share your joy and they may need that.
2007-04-23 16:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont feel guilty feel Proud that you have stepped up and Your doing it no matter what is going on in your life you will always make sure that your baby is taken care of... I think that every woman should at least give birth 1 time in there life anyways.
2007-04-23 17:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by mandy72804 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think of it this way - you & your baby are blessed to share the best of live together. There are too many other less fortunate people and happenings around the world every day, but what can we do other than feeling sorry for them and supports if we are able to.
2007-04-23 16:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by ispore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel guilty for having your own baby? I dont think its normal, but thats my opinion.. That baby you have is your flesh and blood.. Sure, you can worry about the children that "dont have parents" but to feel guilty about having your own because other children are without parents??
2007-04-23 16:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by christen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋