How do you really know if your husband loves you????

Question

he might treat you good or preplanning the worst at his convience I came into a lump of money when we began our marriage and it was a real rocky situation my mom just passed away now weve been married for 5 years known each other for 6 and hes has 2 surgerys 1 disc in his neck was removed and they sent him back to work 6 weeks later and know 1year later 3 more have been removed and ive been taking care of him on and off since.... i used up almost all my money my mom left me 98% of it andknow because of all this hes going to get a large handfull of money and i think because hes getting this money he might divorce and leave me , ive done nothing wrong in this marriage at all except we do have a few real good fights/ arguments theyve lessened since weve been married It all revolves around alcohol when i 1st got married i drank yeah also because of my mom dieing and know idrink less 2x a year . hes getting a large sum of money do you think hes going to leave me?????

Answer 1

if he loves you, then he won't leave you. if he loved you, you would know for sure and wouldn't have to ask strangers on yahoo answers.

Answer 2

I say be understanding and patient. Focus on making the marriage better in any way YOU can. Don't focus all your energy on worrying if he is going to leave you; instead focus on getting through day-to-day life and the challenges that every day brings on. If you are really worried about him leaving you, get some legal advice and find out what your legal rights are; I mean that way you won't be blindsided, at least not legally. Ask him where his head is at in all of this. Say, "honey I've been worried lately. I know things haven't been the greatest between us but just know if you ever need to talk I'm here to listen." Have you thought of marriage counseling? My husband and I just got through our hardest year ever, and I too thought my husband didn't love me. I made a lot of dumb mistakes...none I'd suggest anyone to repeat, but I was lucky that even after all I've done my husband was willing to stand by me and work it out. The key to any successful marriage is COMMUNICATION and I can't stress that enough! Open the lines of communication and do all that is possible to get him to communicate with you! My marriage started to fall apart when my husband and I quit communicating. Our marriage also greatly improved and got back on track when we started communicating more again. Just also remember DON'T change the person you are to please him. If he wants you to change then he isn't worth it. If the alcohol is still a problem look into AA or Al-Anon. I will be praying for you! Good luck.

Answer 3

You have supported him emotionally and financially through his operations, you`ve been there for him why would he leave you? Because 5 years ago you drank a bit during a difficult phase? Doenst make sens yet you sound in a panic about this.

I think you're just terribly insecure to be thinking someone would leave you because he got a bit of money. If he has integrity he will give you some money to replace all you`ve spent in medical bills for him and he should bring the 2 of you on a trip to forget about the rocky road you`ve just traveled.

Answer 4

i don't think he will leave you. If he does then he is a selfish pig that does not deserve you. You have to remember that you are doing what a wife should be doing and that is taking care of your husband through sick and health. If he does leave you, you did all that was asked from you in your marriage so if all your saying is true and you didn't cheat on him while he was having all those surgeries and only you know the truth to that then he doest deserve you one bit.There are plenty of good men out there who would like a women like you so don't get your self down. If at all try to work things out because that's what a marriage is about right. Have a good one!!!!!

Answer 5

Well, I would wait until the money comes. You might be worrying about nothing. If he does decide to Divorce you you will be able to get some of that money. Then you can start fresh and get something out of that marriage. It would be a thankless and mean man to drop you after all that you have done for him. I would think that he would not. You sound like a good person to grow old with.

Answer 6

If you want honesty...I think this had to do less with your husband getting this large sum of money and more to do with the insecurity you have over your relationship being on the rocks honey. You asked how you know if your husband really loves you. And with that, I'm going to say "You simply just know." It's in the way he looks at you, the way he touches you, the way he automatically knows if you've had a bad day, and when you do, the words he uses to cheer you up. In reading what you wrote, I can honestly say your husband was not using you. He was depending upon you when he couldn't depend upon himself. Injury or not, you said something that caught my eye. You said that even after the problems with his neck, he went right back to work. That says something. It says that he doesn't want to live off your money. It says that he wants to maintain an equal share in the relationship and the responsibility that goes along with it. There are many of men who would have milked that situation...but yours didn't. What would make you think that he'd get "his" money and take off? I just don't see that happening sweetie. He's not going to forget all that you've done. And what you've done takes ALOT of love. He knows that. If you are having these feelings, sit him down and have a heart to heart with him. Don't hold back, lay all your cards on the table. You have nothing to fear but fear itself. This is your husband, the one you vowed to be for better or for worse, sickness and health, for richer or for poorer. I know that so many people revolve their lives around the almighty dollar....I just don't think your husband is one of them.

Answer 7

It's really hard to say but try to consult with a divorce lawyer if you can. I don't think all states allow for the marital assets to be split in half and if you were his primary care giver, you might have to pay him alimony. It sucks but it happens. If he does leave you, he will be miserable in the long run because the money will probably end up running out, especially with all of his medical issues, and he won't have you to wait on him hand and foot. Good Luck

Answer 8

if he has always being loyal to you no matter what and there for you when your mom passed away. I dont think he would leave you just because he is getting a big sum of money. Especially if he has a good heart since you have also being there for him. That's what marriage is about to be there for each other until death brings you apart not the money.
ps : try to always have good communication that is the biggest key to a good marriage and 2nd is TRUST!!!
LOVE ERIKA MY PRAYERS GO TO YOU

Answer 9

That's really tough, I would suggest that you just ask him, be prepared for the truth, or wait for the divorce and take half of the money.
If you are afraid that he will leave you over money, perhaps there are other issues in your relationship that the two of you really, really need to resolve.

Answer 10

I think you need to step back and read your own question. Think about why you are asking this question.

What do you have going for the relationship? Since you didn't mention anything really positive. And, I think being so worried about the demise of the relationship may make it so.

Answer 11

You should try and sit him down have a heart to heart conversation with the man when hes sober tell him how you feel and hows hes been hurting you trust me if he really and truly loves you it will work out i hope I've been at least a little helpful to you and i hope you guys work it out take care.