Does anyone know how to tell if your husband is cheating one you or if he is thinking about it?

Question

In Jan. he told me he was and it was only because he was dirinking alot. He stopped and has been home every night but tonight he went to the bar at 4:30 it is now 8:30 and no husband.

Answer 1

Husbands are always thinking about forbidden fruit. Don't take that in a bad way. It's what husbands do.

A good husband will save it for fantasy land.

Your worry is the fella that acts on it. Go with your instincts. If you are suspicious, there may be good cause.

Answer 2

There is a way I learnt this from a talk show ask him alot of questions about where is going to be at such and such a time where he is going with and what should he be back. Keep on asking him the same questions over and over again if he doesn't give the same answer all the time he is CHEATING!!! U will know if he thinking about it because he will seem less interested in u and always have people calling his fone all hours and he goes to speak with them in private smiling and all not wanting u to hear that's a sign.

Answer 3

If you think he is cheating on you then the odds are he is
all really. Just by you asking this question means he has done something to make you think he has cheated on you.
If you really want to no then you and a friend get in her car and drive to where he works and seat and what for him to come out and where he goes. Another thing a cheater wants to no where you are at all times, he wants to make sure you are at home and not out spying on him, so if you and a friend
go to his work make sure you have that other part covered
by taking a cell phone with you,if he calls you ,you can say you are just getting really to get in the shower,he now knows he is OK for the next hour.Never under estimate your husband when it come to cheating.Men have this down to a
science,they been doing it sense we been on this earth.

Answer 4

Unfortunately it is something that requires a large amount of investigating. What clues are you getting that he is cheating on you? What makes you think that? Those are all questions that you need to think about.
If he is frequently arrives home late, you should ask him why he is usually this late. Don't make it obvious the you are investigating. Saying this gives him the impression that you are suspicious on his whereabouts. When he hasn't arrived home, phone him on his mobile phone... Does he answer? If not, try again if he does. If he answers on the third or fourth attempt. Ask him what took him so long?
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Answer 5

Hun, if you are asking this question than there is something there, to question the trust you have. What are the warning signs...Out with his friends, Working extra hard and traveling. More sports or Golf? How is he doing in his life and how well are the two of you getting along? Remember you can work this out and save your marriage. His choice has nothing to do with you, Men and Women who are in trouble in some aspects of their life go into a downward spiral and need validation. It is the choices you make that matter...
Remember if you cant forgive him than who can? If he is stupid enough for a second affair then you walk and take his wallet. :)

Answer 6

Has he done anything to change how you trust him? Little white lies? Things strange and out of character. Not wanting to let you see his emails or cell phone calls. Sounds pretty obvious but, when they deny any wrong doing it is easy to want to believe them. You should confront him if you think there is something. But, having something to back it up will help. What ever the outcome, cheating or not, you should look into therapy. Your feelings are coming from somewhere. Good luck. Its hard I know, Ive been there.

Answer 7

There is no pat answer for this but there are some classic signs.
Has he changed his habits. Does he have unexplained absences from home? Does he talk about a female co-worker a lot? Is he seemingly giddy for no apparent reason? Has his interest in sex with you changed? You can ask him outright, but most people who cheat aren't going to admit it, at least not at first. I am sorry you are having to consider this possibility.

Answer 8

if you have to ask, he probably is and you already know the answers to how you tell
if he is overly concerned with his looks, has a different schedule, seems to be protective of his cell phone or time online, if he has more problems in bed or is becoming someone different than what he usually is (ie: is a wild one when he used to be reserved, is wanting to just sleep when he used to want to cuddle and fondle all night, is finding it easier to either ignore you rather than talk and risk fighting)
if he is spending more money than usual, if the mileage on the car is different that what it usually is, if he is hanging out places he didn't go before...the list is endless...
i think you already have a good idea if he is or not, though

Answer 9

its almost as if they are totally unconcerned about the things that use to interest them, like u aren't even in their life anymore. they begin to ignore u, they are no longer interested in the home, is there less conversation, have they changed their habits, make excuses about working over time or out of town. do they express unhappiness with their life? complain all of the time. are they distant with u, when they didn't use to be? do they pick fights, fault find, or are disrespectful to u, do they go in a different room to talk on the phone, as if they are trying to keep u from hearing the conversation. mostly its like a disconnect from life with u.

Answer 10

Well of course there is the obvious... smelling of perfume, someone calling your home and hanging up a lot. If he has changed a lot in respects to wanting sex less from you... and then of course you could hire a private eye or better yet and cheaper yet. Get a girlfriend and follow him home form work one day.