Why are some people identifying with Seung-Hui Cho?

Question

It is WRONG.

Yes, I know all there is to know about isolation, not being accepted, sexual frustration and what not. I'm a multiracial man, 38 years old, and I've never had a romantic relationship or even a real friend. All I've had are acquaintances.

I'm a researcher and I've spent over 90% of my life after childhood on my own. I don't know what is going out with people, and I notice that everyone only hangs out, dates and marries only those who belong to their own "race."

So, as someone who is a mix of several "races," I find myself in the position where I don't fit anywhere and no one wants to be close to me. Which is ok with me, I've learned to enjoy my loneliness.

Yes, people taunted me and I was bullied because I'm very small. Yes, I've asked probably over 500 women out for a date and so far I still have to hear a "yes." Yes, I've been discriminated because I was poor, foreign and short when I was in high school and in college (I never had friends in either), but...

I've used my isolation to get ahead in life, to make a good reputation for myself and to enjoy a very good life style.

Will I die alone without having ever known friendship or love? Probably. But why should I be bitter over it? I'm happy with myself, and that is all that matters.

Yes, people are shallow, racist, classist, xenophobic, etc. but that DOES NOT have to touch you.

Be yourself, grow as a person, learn to love yourself, and never mind what other people think of you.

DON'T identify with someone who gave up on life. It's just unhealthy.

Answer 1

Hi Tlakkamond,

Perhaps you could find that you are able to relate to
and make close, significant friendships with some
of the very nice people who are members of
the Mixed-Race groups listed below.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Generation-Mixed

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MGM-Mixed

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FGM-Mixed

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Answer 2

although you seemed like a well rounded person..truth is, that some people have differant reactions to life...just like allergies. Not only that but this kid most likely had a terrible upbringing. People from differant countries usually have differant ways of bringing up their children...as far as beatings and neglect and emotional abuse go. And even so...american kids as well could have had a terrible home life. How your parents treat you makes all the differance in the world. It determines who you'll be as a person, what will affect you and how it will affect you. Neglected people will be needy and jealous, beaten people will be shy or rambunctious...
all I can say is, people like this happen, differant people happen..and it's great that you have accepted that the world treats you so terribly but without an actual relationship with people to base how you'd actually react in a relationship or toward people who may befriend you...
usually people like you (especially the ones with terrible upbrings) dont turn on society until it becomes their last resort. Because they feel hopeless.
what usually triggers it, is a failed 1st, 2nd or sometimes 3rd relationship. The continuing rejection of girlfriends/boyfriends, friends, and then the rest of the world on top of that.

Answer 3

I've not met you but I admire you. Where I live in the southern US races seem to mix well. Not so much in the cities but in the rural areas we all mix. Perhaps a smaller town would be good for you. Also, do you have a faith? Church would bring you friends, if you want friends. My only friends besides family are my church friends. That's the way I want it. I don't have the desire for a chatty on-the-phone, come-on-over friendship. I hope you have a happy life. I am a very small female and I choose to see it as being unique instead of different.Church is there if you want it, and it is very fulfilling.
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Answer 4

But you're a different person than he was and you both will find different ways of handling things... you embrace it, he obviously was not the same as you in that department. I'm not taking up for him in any way since what he did was senseless, but I'm just saying that you're able to find something positive about the same situation he was in, and he found no way out. And I'm guessing he probably had a lot more problems, he had a lot of violent tendencies before this. It's really sad and pathetic that that even happened. But yeah, if you give two people the same ingredients and no recipe, they'll bake a different cake.

Answer 5

What an inspiration you are! I commend you for not going off on the deep end. The greatest love is to love ourselves and our Dear Lord and Savior. Your not really alone, you know, because he's always around and his little angels are flying around you every day.
All I can say is this, those who have bullied you and ostrasized you throughout your life sure missed a golden opportunity to meet a real and loving human being. Not all people have the same attitude as you do and it's such a darn shame. You keep doing what your doing, in other words "Keep on trucking" :) You made my day and the rest on here as well here on Answers. God Bless

Answer 6

You know I found myself torn about this whole conflict also...but not everyone thinks like you, though more epople should, unforchunetly different people, live different lifestyles, through different perspectives. I'm not under any circumstances saying he should be pardoned for is activities, but I honestly in my heart think he had been picked on and messed with, and also had mental issues.
This is why I was always taught to watch how I treat people, because I'll never know if it was me that had pushed their last button and pushed them over the edge. Life is short and unforchunetly unforgiving as well.

Answer 7

Seung did not commit this massacre because he was bullied or isolated or taunted. He was a paranoid schizophrenic with delusions of the most destructive kind. He believed that everybody was tormenting him for pleasure, and he thought he was like Jesus Christ and the bloodshed would somehow help the downtrodden. These are classic but extreme delusions of persecution and grandeur. Nobody did this to him; it is a brain chemistry dysfunction.
I, too, am troubled that people can possibly justify this murder based on his supposedly being mistreated. Can't they see that this makes no sense? Everybody has suffered some mistreatment, Seung included; but this has nothing to do with the killing.

Answer 8

In order to have a friend... one must be a friend. Maybe you just don't reach out, or you put up mental blocks or something. I know a lot of racially mixed people who don't have any problems fitting in. Maybe you just don't want to fit in because that gives you an excuse for not being liked by others.

Answer 9

That makes me want to cry. I just think you haven't met the right people, or perhaps, you aren't TRYING to make friends. Well, I like you, and no, I have no idea why people are identifying with him, it makes no sense to me. I feel if someone does identify with him, you need to go check in somewhere before more people die. edited: I just went back and read what you had later typed...you sound so smart and content with yourself, wish I could be more like you.

Answer 10

i think sometimes we have a hard time accepting a person as truly mean or evil. We has to psychoanalyze and justify unspeakable acts. I don't understand. My son was bullied and i am so grateful he is 22 and has met people that base his value on his character versus my bank account or his color.