My ex boyfriend whom i dated for 3 years, and I broke up around 1 year ago, one monthafter we broke up we were on the verge of getting back together, until one day when i was very depressed about the situation my best friend offered to talk to him for me. Then it was nothing getting back together was not an option for him. It seem as if he knows things about me now, and when ever I call him just to say hi, she calls me very soon after!! Tell me am i being paranoid or am i on to something. Oh yeah I asked him, and he laughed and asked me if i was joking. Please tell me how I can tell and how I can catch them!! It is trully bothering me because she has been my frind for 20 years and she also knows how much I still love this man.
2007-04-23 16:01:07 · 30 answers · asked by Cheryl H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
look at it like this either way you have the idea they have been together, if they both told you a millions times they weren't together would you believe them?
something else to think about would you still love him if he has been with her? would you want to love a man that laughs at you when you ask him something that has obviously upset you. girl it's time to move on down the road - leaving him behind, maybe the friend too - jurys still out on her
2007-04-23 16:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by ms_debbieg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey does it really matter? Here is your friend for over 20 years and a guy whom you think you love...What is the dilemma? You thought that maybe you had a chance of getting back together but not sure...If your friend and X are getting along let them. You two were on the outs nothing can compare to your friend. Do you really know how he truly felt for you? Was he truly in love with you are did he just love you. Yes, hun there is a difference. If they are getting close, bless them. You were not married and it was just not meant to be. Don't settle for second best and never loose a friend this way. Especially after 20 years.
Best of Luck
2007-04-23 16:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by flateach33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both that they make you uncomfortable, and that you feel they have taken advantage of your good feelings that you have for both of them. Then, even if it KILLS you, stop letting the ex worry you. Go out, even on blind dates, or with friends other than the one that you were describing. IF she wants to hang out (and if she is sleeping with him ,she will no doubt heave a sigh of relief that you are not wanting to be together as much anymore) don't talk about him. Let her know that you have moved on - and change the subject. Even if it takes several times of doing that, she will get the message. And quit talking to your ex. He is your ex. Any power that he had in your life is in the past - leave it there. You all broke up for a reason. Remind yourself about why, and DO NOT call him.
Should you really wish to catch them - hire a PI. People are never as sneaky as they think they are. But if you think it would hurt more to REALLY know, let it go. Go get a manicure, pedi, facial, and new hairstyle. It may all be superficial, but it will make you feel better. And let him go. You are better than all this. If you are correct, they both suck, and are not worth all the agony you are putting yourself through.
2007-04-23 16:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lili Montegue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get your feet stuck in the mud here. After 3 years my gf just dumped me for another guy. I was sad for three days but you know, she did ok. This guy is buying her a condo, putting her through collage, giving her a monthly allowance, etc.etc.
Me, I got faith, courage, and the vision to begin anew because I know we are not alone. Someone was, and will always be there to help you with your first steps. And besides
there might be a brand new guy out there that really needs a person like you, don't be afraid to say hello to strangers. Good luck
2007-04-23 16:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only way you're going to catch them is via an act of God. I'm sure there is something going on between them but you shouldn't worry yourself about it. Especially since it's been a year. If it really bothers you then you should confront your friend. If you've been friends for 2 decades then you'll know if she's lying. Good Luck
2007-04-23 16:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and let it go neither is worth the drama .When he leaves her you and she will still be friends That is why never talk to the girls about your man Cause someone will always steal from the cookie jar And when the cookie is gone back to friends you will be Dicuss dateing taboo with your friends Like if I dated him he is off limits Girlfriend respect Girlfriends last longer than the boys
2007-04-23 16:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when come to BGR, do not ever let a female friend or even a male friend to talk to the opposite sex of our friend ecpecially on relationship. Anything can happened which i myself have ever encountered it before. At that moment, it will only making chance for the other parties to know there are someone can lend a shoulder on and easily have a crashed with it...
2007-04-23 22:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now this is worst night mare you can get cause both knows about you extensively. In this situation you have to be very careful cause they can possibily hurt(phsical) you. My suggestion to u is to avoid both cause none of then wants to seperate and make long term partner. I know it looks impossible for you now but you have to move on and try to see these two people activities cause i think they can hurt you.
2007-04-23 16:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by maki" The time begins Now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave them together as it would not do you any good if you were to split them. I think you got to learn to let go and find another to seek your happiness. Try to widen your circle of friends by mixing with the others and who knows, there might be someone who cares for you alot.
2007-04-23 16:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex boyfriend whom i dated for 3 years, and I broke up.. here is your own answer.. move on
2007-04-23 16:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋