If our society thinks it has the answer to relationships how come there is so much divorce?

Question

In our society how come there is so many broken relationships and divorce and messed up familys ?

Answer 1

More people can give advice than take it.

Answer 2

That’s because people take the easy way out, without taking the time like they SHOULD to make things work and come up with a happy medium. People do change as goes and different aspects of life come into play. That’s what helps a person to evolve. There are Many who work out.. Just now a days there are more people so you hear more of the bad instead of the good. People are just lazy in this aspect. Find it to be “so much work”…

There have been so many people who get caught up in the idea of getting married to only find out they are wasting everyone’s time. They truly did not think before taking a plunge. Its petty selfish. Too many players and not enough real people. These are the ones who don’t take relationships or vows serious enough to make a honest go of things.

Then you will get some who thinks people will change after marriage. Or they themselves change after marriage. Those are people who live in a fantasy world and don’t think long and hard as to why they feel the need to change someone. If you have to mould a person to how you wish them to be .. You have a problem…

Most people on here who either ask for or give advice do what they say. They practice what they preach.

Yet you come on here there are a number of fools on here typing in a bunch of BS. Has either nothing to do about marriage or making up stuff just because they are bored.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, there are so many divorces, that result in dysfunctional families, because people will spend more time doing research and analysis on buying the right car, than they do on finding and making sure they have the right mate. Many also take the attitude that if things don't work out, they can always get a divorce.

I suggest that everyone read the book "Are You The One For Me?" by Barbara DeAngelis. She takes you step by step through the process of determining what to look for, what to avoid, and what makes for a mature, healthy relationship and marriage. This book is excellent.

Answer 4

No one has the answer to relationships. Relationships, martial for example, are made up of 2 complex people with diverse backgrounds and plenty of baggage. Then throw into the mix families, friends, and societies opinions, and there you have it. A mix for the perfect potential disaster.

Relationships take an enormous amount of work, and sometimes people don't have it in them to give it there all, or situations can be abusive....Hate to focus on the negative, but that was how your question was phrased...

Answer 5

Be cause people are in such a hurry to find what they want they settle for less thinking they can make it in to what they want. We are very unpatient. No one has truly realized in time all you want and need will be there maybe not when you want but it will come.
Take it from some on who got married had 2 kids divorced married again for 8 years then divorced and married now with my soul mate and now I have 2 step kids. I was in such a hurry and I finally slowed down and waited and he was right there all the time and I couldn't be happer. Plus everything happens for a reason you have to go throught the bad to realize what is truely good. (and even thought my 1st one didn't work I will always be gratefull to him for giving me 2 wonderful kids.

Answer 6

we don't take marriage seriously or its meaning!! you are joining that persons family and life its more than attraction. well we are good cuss we try out our mate be for we merry them unlike some cutlers that dont and end up with a bad bad marriage but they live in places ,were well ... u just don't get divorced and they live unhappily ever after, in America we have the right to get out when we want so we do and that's why its higher than others also we base our relation ship on sex alone some times and that never works either but mainly its the option to get out that makes people make the wrong choice marriage means join hands forever but in America that's a lie all u gotta do is get a divorce, now if we really had to do it for ever and not be able to get out than u will see alto less people ending the relation ship ovesly and alto less people getting married too but mainly i am babbling on and on about some thing i probably don't know either

Answer 7

Addiction

Everyone's answer is going to be different depending on the type of relationship they experienced.

My answer is: relationships end in divorce because men and women don't value the same things. But based on that thought process, gay marriages 'should' stay together more often, and they don't either.

Broken relationships are natures way of saying, "Time to move on to the next challenge."

Answer 8

I blame it on the individuals that don't take the time to really know a person before jumping into marriage. People are so romanced by the concept of marriage and don't take the time necessary to really understand what they are getting into. I am not a big proponent of marriage anyway. Not saying that I will not ever get married, but I know how quickly things can change in a relationship. I think people should wait longer before making that decision. Time reveals everything.

Answer 9

Because it's easier to walk away from something two don't agree with, than to work out a compromise.

And believe it or not some stay married for life. My parents were married 42 years when my dad passed away this year. And so far I have been married to my husband 23 years.

Added: My sister is in her second marriage, and now she is saying she is not happy. Some people need to become happy/love with themselves before they are capable of loving someone else.

Answer 10

The answer to that is simple - people are used to instant gratification, getting what they want when they want it that they don't bother working on their relationships. Instead of fighting to keep the marriage alive they just give up. I believe we don't communicate, respect or love each other enough to fight for what is right. We want what we want now and don't work things out as adults. People rush into marriage thinking its going to be perfect there is no such thing. I know people who married at 18 and are now in their 70's and still going strong because they work at it. We need to work at our relationships like we work at our careers you cant get ahead if you dont work hard at it.

Answer 11

because they found the answer in someone Else's arms..people men as well as women, think the grass is greener on the other side...people look for the quick fix, without putting the time and effort to make their own situation work...they find someone else who they think will do it for them..but they end up screwing up that relationship too. If marriage was held to life time commitment, people will try harder and find that they are much happier with the choice they made.