One of my best friends cut her wrists again. And this time she did it like 30 times. I know she has many family problems...her parents are divorced she barely ever sees her dad who ignores her, and her mom lyterally smacks her around. Her bf and her broke up only two or three weeks ago and she is still taking it pretty hard becuase it was an ugly break up. I want to help her so much. I care about her but i don't know how i can help her. I have my own very personal problems and i have cut myself twice..but i don't know how i can help her. I still haven't been able to help myself. She means to much to me to loose, i can't loose another one of my best friends. I wouldn't be able to take it. Does anyone know how i can help her?...i can't bare to watch her kill herself like this. Even if i have many problems of my own..she means more to me.
2007-04-23 14:21:22 · 28 answers · asked by Ms. Mystery 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
okay...first off, i want to say...she is not a moron...people have different ways of dealing with things...
what i would suggest doing is attempting to get her out of her situation and getting her some help...
she needs to learn how to deal with what she's going through in a more positive manner...learn coping skills...then she needs to start putting her life back together...may take some time and that is expected...she needs to find a confidence builder and start living for herself and make things happen...i hope she realizes that for things to get better she has to do it for herself...nothings going to happen overnight and people can't just make things better..she has to work towards a goal...and from there she can get better...
i deal with similar people on a daily basis as i work at a Crisis/Mental Health Facility...and it can be done...maybe many tries, but never, NEVER give up....good luck to YOU and your friend....:-)
2007-04-23 14:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by ro19_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this!! I don't think I can talk but I'm going to help you. I believe that you should tell her parents or yours. If you tell them then they might understand how much stress and pain she is under to actually help her. If they don't respond positively then you need to call the national suicide hot line!! She could get more stress added onto her and it can get worse than just the cuts. I know how had it is when you have so many bad things put on you back to back. It can cause you to feel so many ways and make you not want to be here. Cutting your wrist isn't a good thing at all, you should really work on not doing that or go see a psychiatrist!!! I pray for the both of you that things get better and the both of you get help!!
2007-04-23 14:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by lyfe_has_hit_me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you or her under 18, you need to discuss your troubles with an adult such as the principal at school. The suicide line is 800-784-2433 also you may want to go online and check out www.alice-miller.com as well.
What would be best for the both of you is go and spend sometime away from your problems. If you can leave the city together and go visit a trusted relative or friend. If you or/and ever want to talk, just contact me ok?
God Bless
2007-04-23 14:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if she ended up in the hospital. I will assume she cut herself lightly, and that it wasn't a "real" attempt at suicide. The cutting needs to stop, period. And if she gets committed to a mental health facility, I guarantee that will take care of whatever attention seeking behavior she has. And if it's not attention she seeks and is truly "ill" then either way, she'll be in the right place to deal with her issues. A family member has to commit her, unless police/hospital personnel get to her first. This is not a problem you wil be able to fix, and the only help you could provide it to try and convince her to get professional help.
2007-04-23 14:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a mental illness myself and sometimes I fall into a depression that is hard to get out. However, the only ones that can help me is the professionals. I talk a lot with my best friend, but still it does not ease my pain. Professionals know what is pretty much going on in your brain and they can help you with the right medication. Since you have problems yourself, I can't really see where you can help her. You can be there for her and listen, but that will be it. She needs to go talk to a professional who can help her straighten out her life!
2007-04-23 14:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because she cuts doesn't mean she wants to die. it's just a different way to release emotions. if she told you that she cuts, she really does want you to know. sit down &have a chat with her about it, have her show you her arms; don't force her, just ask her to &if she refuses, it could mean something bigger &you may have to tell a TRUSTED ADULT. like a favorite teacher, guidance counselor. personally, i wouldn't tell YOUR parents, because they could take it the wrong way, and think she's a bad influence on you, which is stupid, and you could loose her as a friend. but really, cutting isn't a way of killing yourself, it's to show that you hurt, and sometimes the hurt doesn't go away and instead of taking it out on someone else, you do it on yourself so you don't cause anyone else any "hurt".
2007-04-23 14:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by emm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://images.search.yahoo.com/search/images?p=cutting+self+mutilation&rs=0&ei=UTF-8&fr=yie7c&vf=
have your friend check this out. maybe if she sees how her arms will look after she does this than she will thin twice. i knew a girl who had cuts all up and down her arms and everyday to work she would have long sleeves on and it would be in the middle of summer. that was just so the customers wouldnt see it. its a stupid thing to do and really does nothing good. things would be alot worse for her mom dad and ex boyfriend if she wasnt here. just let her know that you care about her and show her that you dont want her to do this and you want her to be around for a while.
2007-04-23 14:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such a good friend to seek help for her. You friend is a cutter. She cuts to re-direct the pain in her life. I used to do this. It's not a game or anything to play with and it requires medical attention. Lots of my friends tried to sit and talk with me, which helped because I knew I had support and prayer. One of my very good friends encouraged me to talk to a doctor, and yes they put me in a hospital which was not fun, but I was at least getting help and I was no longer a danger to myself. I thank her for guiding me down the right path. Another thing is you have to let her make the decision to get help.You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. Keep being a good friend to her and encouraging her to seek professional help.
2007-04-23 14:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by harmonygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you really need to take this to someone at your school. There are ways to help her and yourself. You both need to seek out help if you are cutting. Counselors are trained to help. I know that this doesn't seem like something that you want to do but really you need to. I really mean it. PLease! You will both be in my mind tonight. Not just for her but for you too. There are so many things that the 2 of you are meant to do with your lives and you should seek those out. There are people that will help you find the things that will give you purpose in your lives. Guys are not worth it. You will find what you are looking for just not right now. Please seek help from a trusted adult.
2007-04-23 14:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by gem753 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have You Tried to talk to a therapist or even better your friend. You and your friend need to talk about this and see why she's doing this. Say what you asked, tell that she means too much to you to lose. Then both of you try to stop cutting yourselves and spare your lives. Spend the rest of your lives together forever.
2007-04-23 14:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jody J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋