what is it about bi people?

Question

why do i always get pushed away when people discover im bi. i understand that socity is fuked up, but still. even my verry best friends wont even look at me anymore...

Answer 1

Welcome to the middle ground. Homosexuals think we're flip floppers who can't make our minds up and doing it for sexual reasons, and heterosexuals thing we're doing it for attention or just messed up when they actually start to realize that someone might genuinely just bisexual. I myself am bi, and lean toward woman in general. Of course, I'm not a raging lesbian so I've actually gotten yelled at by some other girls in the lesbian community. Trying to explain why it is that I'm bi to anyone who assumes that bi=idiot girls on Girls Gone Wild videos seeking male attention and validation is just about as fun. People are dense. Just hang in there. :P

Answer 2

She's right but I just needed to add a little something about the why its that way. See the fact is human sexuality is an individual thing. What turns us on, what we think about that, how we think about, and why is based on our own life experience. The fact is society right now is trying to make a very colorful thing black and white. Me personally I'm "heterosexual" but that doesn't mean I get off on the same things with females as ever other "heterosexual" male. The fact is some don't like bjs, some do, some like this, some like that, its colorful in its own right. But until we began to see how sexuality is an individual experience were always going to assume everyone else ether shares our own "healthy" perception of sexuality or an "unhealthy" perception of sexuality. Its because of this confusion thou that sexuality has actual perverse into realms that are bad, such as pedihilia, rape, and extreme ego displacement (BDSM) these perceptions of sexuality are unhealthy, not bi-sexuality, homo/heter sexuality. But then agian we as a society have lost sight of how much love and sex are together. Mostly due to our unhealthy aspects of love and sex. Because love too is a muli-colored experence within the individual that not all of us can share the same view..... love in its most basic form is nothing more then a word use to sum up all the feelings we feel for an individual, entity, object. With that said its this division of feeling from the activity of sex thats perverse.... not sexuality, which is a word that was suppose to mean the feelings, beliefts, and ideals that an individual has for their own abilities to have sex... its suppose to be colorful too! but were forced to view it in a I love them, I love them not type of frame of mind.... were lossing sites of ourselves really as individuals in a world were individualism is suppose to be the thing.... go figure...