I did not find out until many years later that he is her ex-husbands child. (ex-husband is now deceased) I brought the issue up during the divorce proceedings, but the court said I had to pay because they did not want to affect the child physcologically. He is now 14 and knows I am not his father. Should I do anything?
2007-04-23 13:28:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YEAH,STOP BEING A DUMBASS!!!!.HELL, I HAVE KIDS THAT ARN'T YOURS. WOULD YOU WANT TO SEND ME MONEY EVERY MONTH? CASE CLOSED!!!
2007-04-23 13:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by losesomewinmore 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Crash - there is a US Supreme Court ruling on this issue fairly recently. You are not required to pay child support for a child that is not yours. There are also some cases in each state regarding this issue, and in Colorado there is even a case where the step-dad sued the bio dad for support that he had to pay. Should you do anything? YES - get a different lawyer who actually knows the family law.
2007-04-23 13:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by TLBFH 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's probably not much you can do, since you took on the role of father for 14 years. There's what's called the equitable doctrine of estoppel, which means a judge may make you pay child support not because of your legal status but because of your behavior.
Under the estoppel doctrine, the court may hold that because you acted like a parent and permitted the child to rely upon you -- even though you were legally a "biological stranger" to the child.-- you adopted the biological or "real" parent's duty.
Once a court makes that determination, you the stepparent or friend or lover, the grandparent, or even the deceived husband, may not successfully deny a future obligation of support, because you have voluntarily in the past provided support.
2007-04-23 13:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is a complex issue and you missed out on key points.
1. Is this child born after your marriage ?
2. Did you raise him as your child ?
3. Was this your step child ?
4. Did you adopt him ?
5. Is there any money in his biological father's estate ?
If you have money see another lawyer
2007-04-23 16:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you talked to a lawyer or father's advocate groups?
When my husband and I first got together, he was named the father of his ex g/f's child he could not have fathered (he's sterile and was not even in the same state during conception). We took it to court after some of his wages had been garnished. The judge dismissed the case (after the scumbag mom had taken them for $50,000) and some of my husband's wages.
It is horrible that the courts treat fathers like they have no rights and go to extreme wrongs in the best interest of the child. They don't care who pays or who suffers.
2007-04-23 13:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Go back to court, and try to have the child support reduced or eliminated. Since the boy knows you aren't his dad, the reason the courts stated is no longer a viable issue.
2007-04-27 12:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that all and sundry information are given as precise... you haven't any parental household initiatives to daughter #a million, regardless of no remember if or no longer you had accompanied her once you and ex-spouse married. the hot husband is now her criminal parent, severing any paternal rights and household initiatives before held by employing the different guy. you have parental household initiatives (and rights) to daughters #2 & #3, as any little ones born of the marriage are assumed to have the husband as father, even although this will not be biologically actual. as a results of her suspected infidelity, it is particularly helpful to look into this and get a DNA attempt to substantiate paternity. Did husband #2 undertake those ladies as with daughter #a million? He does no longer have been waiting to attain this without the courtroom first terminating your parental rights (and household initiatives) with daughters #2 & #3.
2016-10-13 07:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you legally adopted this child? Is your name on his birth certificate? If your name is on the birth certificate then you singed up for the long haul and will more than likely have to keep on paying child support.
2007-04-23 17:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a new lawyer!
your support should not affect the child one way or the other
get into court! now!
2007-04-23 13:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer--mabey you can sue her for something, I hope so. that is total b.s. but I do feel sorry for the boy too, imagine how he feels. I know this isn't in your case but this is why I advise guys NOT to move in with females who already have children!! I saw it on t.v. ---a man was told he'd have to continue paying for some kid that wasn't his! yes- you supported him- because you were decieved.
2007-04-23 13:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋