how do i tell my parents?

Question

how do i tell my parents that i'm bi and that i have a girlfriend
my parents are strongly against gays they think their a disgrace but i'm bi and i'm scared to tell them becuase they might kick me out

Answer 1

Here's the deal. I'm a transexual. I always knew my parents were anti-GLBT but I always hoped that somehow they would still love me. One year ago I came out to them and my life has been hell since. Telling my parents just because I hoped they would be OK with it was the worst thing I ever did.

Please, PLEASE, save yourself the pain, rejection, betrayal, and don't tell them. I'm happy for you that you have a girlfriend but what you have to understand is:
Right now I assume they just think she's your friend and they let you hang out with her
If you TELL them that you're attracted to girls, they are no way in hell going to let you spend any more time with her
In fact, they may even act weird ANY time you want to hang out with any female friend.

If you're happy now with a gf and all, please please please don't tell them. Save yourself!!!!!

Answer 2

I know that it's difficult living a lie but if you have a reasonable belief that your parents would kick you out of the house if you came out, I would advise you to wait until you're 18 or until you can support yourself. I am only saying this because I have known gay and lesbian teens who have been kicked out by their conservative or religious parents and they had a very difficult time. Try and find support within the LGBT community, or come out to an adult who is sympathetic to LGBTs. Hang in there. I wish you the best

Answer 3

Regardless of the relationship you have with your parents, coming out to them may be very difficult. It's natural that your parent or parents have expectations for their children. They imagine success, happiness and grandchildren. Being gay is probably not one of the characteristics they had in mind. These steps may help you know when the time is right to come out to them.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderately challenging
Steps
1Step OneFind a support network or consider seeing a professional therapist who is gay-friendly. Coming out can be difficult and sometimes life changing. It is important to have a safe place for you to share your experience.
2Step TwoBuy a book or two about parents of gay children. Even though your parent or parents are ultimately responsible for their reaction and feelings, understanding the issues and questions parents face may help your formulate what to say and how to say it.
3Step ThreeWait for your parents to ask. The gay adage is, "If your parents ask, they are ready for the answer."
4Step FourWrite a letter to your parents instead of telling them face-to-face. A letter can be edited until it says exactly what you want it to say. Once you give it to them, it also gives your parents a chance to read everything you want to tell them without interruption. They can read it in private and alone. Encourage them to talk to you once they are done.
5Step FiveAttend a Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) meeting. You will experience how many different parents have accepted their sons and daughters. Then, when you are ready, give your parents the phone number. They may not use it right away, but at least they have it.
Tips & Warnings
Give a book to your parents - when you're ready. Just as it is important for us to know that we are not alone, it will be comforting to your parents to know that they are not alone.
As hard as it may be to believe or accept, you are not responsible to your parents for being gay. It is not your fault or theirs. Being gay is not a fault. It is no better or worse than being straight. It is part of what makes you who you are. Good luck!
You may not have the luxury of picking the place and time to come out to your parents. You may be "found out." Someone may tell your parents, or they may find something as harmless as a book. Turn this surprise into something positive. Once they know, they know. Move forward and enjoy the sense of relief

Answer 4

Just because you parents can be ***** doesn’t give them the right to dick-tate… not on THIS subject.
Who YOU love is not their choice. It’s not something you should ask them permission about. Not if you LOVE this girl.

At the same time if you love THEM you shouldn’t lie to them

Be WHO you are and let them be who they are. There is no need to force the situation onto them if they are not ready.
When YOU are ready (financially stable, and out on you own.)… Let the clues out until they figure it out.

And when THEY ask don’t lie. Yes they will be mad… and stomp there feet and through a tantrum. It took you some time to come to terms with who you love. So let them have the time they will need too. We all know that parents love there kids… So they will get over it. When they are over it, they will have lots of questions. Be prepared with some honest answers, patience, and love for them And let them know they are welcome at YOUR home… And where you keep the hugs.

Hugs
Penny

Answer 5

i think telling your parents your gay, is so much harder then telling then your pregnant, parents seem to accept pregnancy over being homosexual. i would tell your parents you need to have a serious conversation with them, they might kick you out, but can you keep this hidden forever?????? i would just tell them, its better for you and your girlfriend, she might start to think your ashamed of your relationship with her if you dont tell. just be honest!, good luck!

Answer 6

Hey, if you're old enough to be involved in a sexual relationship, then you're old enough to be living on your own.

If you still need to live in your parents home, then stop fooling around.

Your parents don't have to pay your way through life and accept your choices.

Did you ever think there's a reason that your ashamed to tell your parents?

Answer 7

No, what is a disgrace is that fact that they might kick you out! they should accept you for who you are.

Answer 8

Please don't tell them...there is no reason to tell them, it will serve no good purpose, and I certainly do not want to see you on the street....please, please...keep this to yourself until you are on your own. There are parts of your life that are yours and yours alone...your parents don't discuss what they do in the bedroom, please do not discuss what you do. good luck

Answer 9

why tell them at all? Is it their business where you like to put your tongue?

Answer 10

your a nasty freek because your gay girl if you are a girl i would kick you out