my wife has been calling guys at night after i am asleep, plus she talked for 3 hours with one today up until?

Question

the minute i got home. she claims they are just friends but i think it is very disrespectful to talk to another man at 2 o'clock in the morning. i am wrong, she thinks its fine. please help, i dont think i am crazy for being upset

Answer 1

I'm sorry to say but it sounds like you've got a problem on your hands. If she's up for it therapy is a great idea. There should be no other men in her life that she needs to talk to in private. A spouse should not do/say etc. anything with a member of the opposite sex that he or she wouldn't do in front of their spouse.

I wish you luck, I know it's painful, try to work with her on it but if she won't budge you may be at a crossroads.

Answer 2

It is disrespectful how would she feel if the shoe was on the other foot Sitting up that late at night and talking for 3 hours is not respectfull Tell her she should talk to you instead Make up a nice romantic basket with candles wine chocolate stawberries Decorate the bedroom make it comfortable and romantic draw her a bubble bath give her a reason to stay off the phone Make a date for lunch at cute little out if the way resturant Put a little mystery in your relationship only with each other Spend a morning in bed just drinking coffee and eating your favorite breakfast food and talk Give her a reason to stay off the phone Cook together in the kitchen that is so sexy

Answer 3

yeah i think you have every right to be upset. I don't know she could be creepin on the low but atleast she is is honest about speaking to other men. However, any of the conversations she is having could be had during the day time. Tell her to end her latenight conversations, friend or not, because she could do that doing the day. Make sure they are just "friends", if you let her walk all over you she will. OOORRR you can give her a taste of her own medicine and do the same thing to her and see how she reacts to it. If she flips out on you for doing it without getting the point you know she is having a guilty conscience. She is doing it because she can get away with it, prove to her that that is not the case.

Answer 4

I agree with Nick.. He is absolutely right it is disrespectful. I find it odd she has the need to phone these men at this hour to talk. "Friends" don't normally call each other at that hour of the night or even talk on the phone for 3 hours (teenager sure) Unless SOMETHING has happened and they need support ASAP....

I'm sorry this woman needs to understand this isn't fine. She is suppose to be in bed with you perfecting sex and sleeping. If she was talking while you where awake and right in front of you then there is nothing to hide. But I could just imagine some of the conversions taking place while your sleeping.

There is something more to this then she is saying. Sure they may be friends now.. but talking like this leads to more then that... its a building block to an affair... This is when all of a sudden you hear.... he listens and understand me... we talk about everything... He tells me his secrets... and so on.. Fools themselves into thinking the have found a "true love" and or "friend"

See its things like this that lead into people getting separated, divorced, split up and so forth... She stopped talking to you and is more focused on people outside of your relationship

Possible she has a fetish with phone sex.

Answer 5

no, you're right it's very inappropriate. Especially if she's trying to hide the conversations with him from you. Like wanting to talk in private. I don't know her , but she might be emotionally cheating on you. This just comes from my experince. With me it esculated into full blown cheating . I would talk to her about it. If she's open about he's probably just a friend. If she gets upset with you or starts yelling and getting really angry, then her intentions might not be so innocent. The only way you can know for sure is to talk with her. Communication between you to is really important. A relationship should be based on trust. Good luck! :)

Answer 6

you know what? I'm a wife and I think that's weird. I never talked to other guys,specially not at night for hours. and I imagine you are feeling jealous. anyway unfortunately you can' t own or control other people. so make sure she knows how you feel about it. Suggest she keeps her calls to half an hour. even my girlfriend who I phone sets her timer for 20 minutes to save on her phone bill. Don't get too mad about it or she 'll think she has something over you and may get worse! Women are funny that way. P. S. Or try phoning some woman and talking for hours at night. she'd hate that!!

Answer 7

Your wife's behavior is very disrespectful and immature. Have a serious talk with her and explain your true feelings regarding this issue. If she persists, then you can suggest a marriage counselor but if that doesn't work it's time to make some permanent changes (with a divorce attorney).

Answer 8

Wake up .. your wife is either cheating on you or is about to .. I would sneak up on her one day and see whats she is up to or go out and get a voice recorder for your phone .. don't tell her about it either .. and save the tape for your lawyer cause you will need it ..
she can say what she wants but she is up to know good .. she has no reason to talk to any man on the phone unless its her family or a boss or a wrong number and at 2 am .. get her out of there and let her use a pay phone ...

Answer 9

You can't assume that she is cheating on you, but it is perfectly normal and rational to find it disrespectful. That's inconsiderate of her, especially if she's married. She must know how it seems to you, and if she was a understanding person, she'd change it. You might want to try talking it over with her and meeting the guys she talks with, if it will help make you feel more comfortable.

Answer 10

First off how odl is your wife? She could just be immature. You need to tell her that okay since you can it's okay for me too right? It would be okay if the guy was straight out fruity pants, but if he's straight she is out of line. There has to be some rules and bounderies, abviously your relationship doesn't have any. She could be cheating, sorry dude.