*so far* this has just been an internet & phone connection. i'm embarrassed to say, but i'm absolutely falling for (have fallen for?) this guy without even having met him yet. i HAVE seen many pictures, as well as webcam, so i know im incredibly attracted to him. (he's seen several photos of me and i know he feels the same way.)
i'm freaking out right now because he's pulling away from me over the last couple of days and i can definitely tell. he's lost interest - he just isn't the same as he was at the beginning, which was about 5 weeks ago. this has been difficult the entire time (he lives about 4 hours away), but we were planning to meet at some point and i was really serious about it. so serious i've even considered moving to his area. (lol, that sounds insane, i know... but i'd been planning to move anyway. :p)
anyway, i might know what to do if this had happened in person, but what do you do when it's over the internet?! is there anything i can do to re-ignite his interest?
2007-04-23 11:53:09 · 8 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh, one more thing - when we've discussed meeting, he's suggested sometime "in the summer." (so in case any of you say I should ask him for a meeting.... i feel like that would make me appear desperate or something.)
2007-04-23 11:54:55 · update #1
I just hate "playing games" and all that... I like things to be up front. but i'm well aware of the "thrill of the chase" phenomenon & I thought maybe I should pull back myself, & see if he pursues? oh man, i have NO idea.... i'm just freaking out right now & i feel crazy. (yeah, it's definitely love. LOL. :D ) i'm no stalker tho... if the boy doesn't want me, obviously i'll have to just let it go. reallllllly don't want to at this point tho. i'm not sure if it was something i said/did (i'm thinking of a couple things in particular)... or he just got bored when it became evident how much i liked him (which he totally pried out of me!).... or what.
any suggestions appreciated.
2007-04-23 12:01:29 · update #2
just to clarify - i know for sure he doesn't have a girlfriend. it does strike me, however, that he may have *met* a girl in that last few days.
2007-04-23 12:18:16 · update #3
be more naughty - it works all the time.
2007-04-23 11:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by bornonaplatein1988 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, sweetie, you do sound a tad desperate to me right now. Men like to keep us hanging, you know, it's just the way they are. If you give him the impression that you are panting after him and so forth, he'll get really spooked and you may never hear from him again. So chill out for now and try not to crowd him. Develop other friendships and maybe mention that you are "speaking" with other people.
Try not to make him the center of your universe--it isn't healthy for you and NOBODY likes to have that pressure put on to them. And don't "stalk" him via the Internet or any other way.
After all, would you like it if someone crowded you all of the time?
Plus consider this: if this is how he treats you over the Internet, how would he treat you in person?
I've never had an "Internet relationship" but I've had plenty of face-to-face crushes that have all gone their own ways and there is always a reason why they don't hold up. Perhaps it just wasn't meant to be.
Thank him for the good times and LET GO. If you are meant to be together, you will be.
Hope this helps you a bit and good luck.
2007-04-23 12:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
naughty works ... but in a way - it gets you his attention but not his heart.
Maybe he doesn't like as much as you like him.
Maybe he does not see internet relationships as "real".
Maybe he's just getting busy IRL.
Try to understand what he likes and talk to him about it.
If he plays WoW or other mmorpg, it will be totally cool if you could join him there (just make sure you're not a burden to him there)
If he has other online friends, make sure they become your friends too.
If you were PM'ing him like every 10 minutes, slow down a bit. Guys are more about isolated heroic actions than constant effort.
Maybe even go offline for couple days. First, it will be really nice if he ask "where have you been?". Second, if he doesn't, you'll know it over. Third, he'll know he's not under obligation to talk to you every night (see above).
And do not play "hard to get" or other games. We guys hate that.
2007-04-23 11:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
internet relationship= bad
you cant really know how they are in real life.
even if you've seen pics and webcam/ talked to them
YOU CANT TELL!
it hardly ever works
so dont go too insane over the guy
2007-04-25 09:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by no345278432 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to meet you now since his girlfriend wouldn't like it. This is also the reason he is losing interest, you were just a "fling" and now he wants to devote more interest back at his girlfriend. Not a big deal, but you do need to get over him. Sorry to have to break the details to you.
2007-04-23 12:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he could be with someone. Let him pull away and don't contact him and see what he does.
2007-04-23 12:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u meet him, do no go alone, u cant trust him. maybe let be sometimes, guys like it when girls seem busy and play hard to get. trust me. . dont talk to him like 3 days and come back to him. wear sexy clothes but not very sexy, be conservative.
2007-04-23 11:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
send naughty pics lol
2007-04-23 11:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by Tequilla $hot 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋