right now i am going through some tough times....i have been getting biopsy's for some abnormal cervical cells, which i feel like if im fine i would like to start having kids...because im scared i wont be able to in the future. any imput would help?
2007-04-23 11:39:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
If your cervical cells were normal and not an issue would you still be thinking of having kids right now? If the answer is yes, then you're probably ready. If you're just feeling the crunch from the possibility of having problems conceiving later, you might want to wait and think about it some more.
I can relate to you for two reasons. 1) When I was 20, I really wanted kids. So much so that I thought about adoption (my mom talked me out of it). Instead, I worked on my career, went to college, had a few relationships. Mr. Right didn't come along until 20 years later...and now, here I am trying to conceive. If I could have done this 20 years ago, I would have...but the time was never right for me (until now). So I say if you are really ready, go for it. And 2) I had abnormal cervical cells too in my early 20s. I had my cervix frozen and that got rid of the problem. But don't think that I wasn't worried during that whole period that my fertility could be taken away from me. It's very scary. I'm sure that your doctors will be able to help you get your health back. Medicine has come along way, so these things aren't as scary as they used to be. I believe that you will be able to have kids in the future if you choose to wait a while.
Good luck Sweetie, and keep us posted. My prayers are with you.
2007-04-23 13:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out the results of this biopsy. If you get the "all clear" there is nothing wrong with trying to get pregnant and have a child at 22, in fact, having your children under 30 is really the best biologically/physically for most women.
Now, if the results come back and you need further "work" (i.e., surgery, laser, radiation, whatever) have it DONE, DON'T WAIT. Then give yourself six months with a clean bill of health (at least, if not a year) BEFORE you try to become pregnant.
By the way, I hope you're married and asking this question...children need all the help they can get coming into this world - two parents is optimal and the most fair "gift" of life you can give them!
Goodluck honey...don't panic, be patient through this...you're mighty young, chances are whatever is going on can be remedied.
My thoughts and prayers are with you...
Grace
2007-04-23 11:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if you are old enough to have kids right now. As long as you can deal with all the responsibility that goes along with having them then maybe you are. I'm have two boys and my first daughter on the way, I don't not and have never regretted having them. I had my first son when I was 19, my second when I was 22, and right now I'm 28 with my third on the way. Like I said I don't regret them at all, I just wish I would have been more settled in my career before hand, been more financially secure, and was more stable. It's hard having kids before you have all this, it makes it tougher on you and the kids. I'm not telling you not to have any kids right now, whatever you think is better for you do it. Just think about things you could do with you without kids right now, like traveling, having a career, coming and going when you want, and doing all things you can and want without kids. Just really think about all the pros and cons before making a decision and don't let anyone judge you!! Good Luck!!
2007-04-23 11:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by ERIKA D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age has nothing to do with being ready. For me it is life. I decided when I was a teenager I didn't want to have children until I was married, had the financial means to support them, which meant completing my college education and my masters degree, and had a stable living environment, which is owning a house. Those were my guidelines. I met them a year ago and I waited 6 months before we started ttc. I could not imagine planning a baby without these goals met. If you have check list like I did then don't rush it. Many women go through what you are and have no problem conceiving. Speak to your doctor about the impact these biopsies might have on your fertility then decide.
2007-04-23 11:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kat S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that really depends on the person, and where you are at in your life. I know some 20yr olds who i couldn't even imagine being parents right now, while other 20yr olds i know are fantastic parents. It depends on your maturity, financial income,etc. And just how mentally prepared you REALLY are. Sure babies are cute and fun and we all love them, but they are hard work! You have to change like 10 diapers a day, feed them every 3hrs, lug them around everywhere you go (assuming you can even get out of the house!), give up a large part of your social life, and forget about your needs and wants it's all about the baby. It can be really great, don't get me wrong, but are you mentally and financially prepared to take care of a child for the next 18-20yrs until they move out? Even then you have to be there for them, and help them out. Just make sure you're really ready and not just rushing into this because you're scared you won't get another chance. Believe me, whether you should or not, you'd feel really guilty if you couldn't provide for your child, or give them those little extras that they want and see all the other kids get. Just think about it before you come to a decision, it's not all just fun. Good Luck!
2007-04-23 11:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by MooseHead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have abnormal cervical cells, chances are that it won't be safe for the baby at this time. Wait a while, get the test results back and see if your doctor thinks you'll be okay to carry a baby right now. If you get the approval from your doctor, I say go for it. Twenty-two is not too young to have a baby, just make sure that it's what you want.
^_^
2007-04-23 12:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kacee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal to have those abnormal cervical cells. They are pre-cancerous, right? I think we all get at least one of those pap-smears in our lives! Nothing to worry about!
I never got pregnant until I was 34, and I thought maybe something was wrong with me, even though I was using birth control. I figured it would take me forever to get pregnant, if I even could. Well, it only took trying one time with my husband (both times!)
So, don't worry! You will be fine! Take your time and enjoy this part of your life. When you are married and have a good job and a house, you can think about having kids.
2007-04-23 11:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I had my first. I'm now 21 with my third. I have always wanted to have kids at a younger age, and personally believe that once your 18 you can try for what ever you want if you have the man you love next to you. Good luck
2007-04-23 11:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mamma M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready go for it. I got married at 18 and had 2 kids by the time i was 21
2007-04-23 12:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_happy_couple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set age to have kids. It all depends on if you are ready. I had my first child at age 20. And that was a while ago and I think he turned out great. He was the first followed by three more.
Good luck!
2007-04-23 11:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by cjsmith95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋