My daugther married her high school sweetheart.?

Question

they broke up while in high school because he said his feeling about her had changed. Then he regretted it and begged her to come back and said it would never happen again. They married. Now he says his feeling have changed and is cold toward her. He says he doesn't want to believe this, but he can't help it. Does anyone have clinical knowledge about this. I think he is depressed and confused.

Answer 1

I think he was too immature to get married and she should dump him once and for all, life is too short. Screw him and his feelings, take up for your daughter, she is your flesh and blood, not him.

Answer 2

My childhood sweetheart just recently reentered the picture, so this hits a little close to home.

When we were young, we thought we knew everything. We were together for 6 years before we ended it. Even then, we went back and forth.

Either A.) He still has an ideal of the "perfect" girl. He's figured out that your daughter has faults (like everyone else) and isn't the "perfect" girl he thought she was. That won't fix itself. Only time and experience can change that. or B.) His feelings really HAVE changed. When you're that young, it's easy to THINK you know who you are and what you want.

Maybe she isn't providing for his needs anymore. (Not just sexually.) Always remember- there are three sides to every story- his, hers, and the truth.

Your daughter needs to talk to him and TRY to get him to talk to her about what has changed since they're already married. Perhaps they can go to counseling and try to hash it out. If not, then perhaps your daughter would be better off without him. Tell her to try a trial separation. Maybe with her gone, he will miss her too much and come to his senses. In that case, she needs to put her foot down and tell him no more back and forth that this is his LAST chance.

In the meantime, you should let this take it's course. It'll happen the way it happens, but let your daughter know that no matter what she decides, you'll be there for her. (But DON'T butt in and especially don't talk bad about him to your daughter.)

Answer 3

It's very possible that he has doubts about himself that keeps on haunting him throughtout their relationship. Once he snaps out of it, it's only a matter of time before it strikes him again even harder. I'm sure he thought marriage would kick the anxiety, but he failed to realize that isn't the way to fix the problem (not saying he didn't truly love her enough to take that leap). I really don't think his feelings for her have changed; I think his feelings about himself keep changing, which disrupts feelings for each other. If you'd like to talk more about this with me, feel free to send me an e-mail or an instant message, whichever is easier.

Heath

Answer 4

ok we bypass to long island for our honeymoon for each week and then Boston. we've acquaintances there who could no longer attend the marriage. David Junior 'DJ' im a instructor in paintings and music Lily Raine Oodmen Nyla Mae Oodmen Oscar Jett Oodmen and Eli River Oodmen Paige Danielle Oodmen so Gregory and that i've got DJ, Lily, Nyla, oz., Eli and Paige

Answer 5

My thought is he or she didn't date others and now he thinks about this and wonders what he is missing. Depressed? Who knows, but this back and forth needs to stop for your daughter's sake. Either he has to decide he loves her enough to live the rest of his life with her or that he wants to see what else is out there.

Answer 6

I DON'T THINK ITS DEPRESSION. CONFUSION MAYBE, BUT ON WHO HE IS AND WHAT HE WANTS OUT OF HIS LIFE.
HE IS FIGURING OUT WHO IS HE AND SOMETIMES, EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE MARRIED, IT DOESN'T INCLUDE YOUR DAUGHTER BY HIS SIDE. THEY REALLY NEED TO TALK ABOUT WHAT IS GOING ON. AND AS HARD AS IT IS FOR YOU, YOU NEED TO LET THEM DO IT ON THEIR OWN.
THEY WERE OLD ENOUGH TO MARRY, SO THEY WILL BE OLD ENOUGH TO FIGURE OUT THE FUTURE OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP.