We have been in A relationship for 9 years.He said he was not happy and wanted to end it.He had someone he has been talking to for A couple of months.He came home 7 days later said he wanted to work things out.5 days after that,he said he was wrong and wanted to see the other girl but stay home for the kids.I said hell no take A hike.packed all his things .He came back 2 days later and said he broke up with her and wanted to be home with his family.He has been home sence then and has been great.Oh yea,the time he was home for 5 days he was seeing her and sleep with her.I know he is not seeing her now,but do you think he will see someone if had the oppertunity.Or is he looking for A way out.
2007-04-23 11:24:05 · 15 answers · asked by cuddingtbone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I honestly don't think you can believe 'once a cheater always a cheater'
I believe that all people are different. That's like saying 'no girl would take back a guy who cheats on her'.....but it happens. There are people who have affairs and realize that they hurt people and they don't do it again. They actually LEARN from their mistake.
It does sound like he was open with all of this with you....so it seems like you could believe him if he told you he'd never do it again.
Perhaps you should look into WHY he was looking elsewhere. Is there something that you did that made him feel like there was a problem? If he says it's because of something dealing with you, but it's not something that will change, then it probably will happen again.
You really need to find out WHY he did it. I don't believe people when they say 'they don't know.'
What really matters here is if YOU can get past this. If this is something that will always be on your mind, then you might want to let him go. You've got to trust him for your relationship to work. It'll take time, it will take a lot of work, but only YOU can decide if it's going to work, and if he is actually being sincere.
2007-04-23 11:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say but it will not matter if he goes back to that first woman or not, the thing that you wrote here explain that when he gets bored again he will go back on doing what he just did. Now this is up to you whether you'll let him to make you feel like a fool or not, remember the words that says "you fool me once ,shame on you, you fool me twice shame on me".
I don't think you can have a good future with this man if he can't settle for what he have now. I know because miner is freshly new and I have 3 teenagers. No way that I will let him back into my life and my kids if my kids love is not enough for him to control what he just did, so in your situation, think about you and the kids this time so that way it will not be so heavy drama for them...........your a strong person by kicking him out the first time and you can still do it again, don't let him take you for a ride, you deserve better..........
2007-04-23 12:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-13 07:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odds are good and only because he sounds like someone who isn't happy and instead of looking within for the source of his unhappiness - he is looking outward and has decided that something or someone will make him happy. It won't but he hasn't figured that out yet. He believes if he is bored or unhappy it most be the people in his life, not him, that is the problem.
He needs to grow up. Maybe he will, maybe he won't.
The real question is - what do you want?
2007-04-23 11:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like he was afraid to lose the comforts of home. if he loves and respects you, he wouldnt have cheated. if you take him back, it makes him think its ok and he will do it again cause you keep taking him back.
as for the relationship, i wish you the best cause it takes a strong person to be able to accept his apology and still try and trust. i couldnt do it, it would drive me crazy wondering where he is, what he's doing, and who he is with,, who is he on the phone with etc....
just remember, guys arent worth crying over, and the ones that are, wont make you cry
you deserve someone who will love, honor, respect, and commit to you 100%. without trust, you have no foundation to build your relationship back up
i wish you the best...be strong...
2007-04-23 12:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is not looking for a way out. He is looking for someone else, though. He wants something on the side. Unless he agrees to go to marriage counseling with you to better your relationship together, then I would expect he will stay with you until he finds someone else to have an affair with.
2007-04-23 11:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless your man has turned his life around and discovered Jesus Christ, it is pretty safe to say that yes, he will definitely cheat again. Once a dog, always a dog. Sorry but that is how the real world works. I will be praying for you and your family. Peace.
2007-04-23 11:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
*Yeah he will cheat again and again and again. And as long as you keep letting him crawl back to you on the hopes he will stop his cheating ways...he will continue to do it on the knowing basis that he can get away with it and use you as a rebound when he's done with the other girl(s).
.So if you want to keep getting emotionally hurt, then you can keep letting him come back to you. But when you sleep with him you are also sleeping with all of those other girls too.
>Keep that in mind>
.Make a wise decision.
2007-04-23 11:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What happens when the same scenario presents itself? Once a cheater always a cheater. The only thing worse is a cheater who lies,
2007-04-23 11:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN TOLD - ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER - AND YES I BELIEVE IT - CAUSE I DO IT- I CHEAT AND ALWAYS HAVE AND ALWAYS WILL- I DONT WANT TO DO THIS - BUT I DO CAUSE I CAN - I JUST AM REALLY CAREFUL NOT TO GET CAUGHT. AND SO WILL IT BE THIS WAY AT YOUR HOUSE SORRY -
2007-04-24 05:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋