I don't quite understand why somw people (mothers, mother in laws, friends, aunts uncle, etc.) would want to be in the delivery room. It is such a personal thing for the mother, and if she is not comfortable with it why do these people think they have the right to be there?
2007-04-23 11:10:01 · 18 answers · asked by cliffhanger 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It completly up to the mother who will be there when she delivers. My sister in law, for example, wanted me, her brother (my husband), and her mom all there with her. I was her back up bitrhing coach b/c her mom though she might faint, and my husband cut the cord. I would want only my husband with me, and maybe my mom if she was in town. thats all. It is a very personal thing. I loved being at my neices birth, even though my sis n law squeezed my hand so hard my wedding ring cut into my fingers and drew blood! It a miraculous thing watching a new life come into the world and I felt honored she wanted to share that with us. We were by her head the whole time, and she felt comfortable with us being there. I dont think anyone has the "right" to be in a delivery room except the mom and the doctors. for anyone else, its a privledge.
2007-04-23 13:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by **0_o** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a laboring woman feels uncomfortable having more than her chosen few to be in the delivery room, that's her prerogative and she shouldn't be pressured to have more in the room with her. Most people who think they have the right to be there are just wanting to witness the miracle of birth. A first-time grandmother, aunt, uncle or even a close friend who hasn't had kids are just looking to experience a birth second-hand.
If this is you, let your family and friends know that you wouldn't feel comfortable with them seeing it all from below the blanket. That's what waiting rooms are for after all. And if you feel comfortable with a video camera taping during the entire thing, then they can watch that way.
I personally didn't care who was there. My brother, sister-in-law, mother and father were there in the room with me on and off. I just wanted her out! I think that when it gets down to it, you'll not feel as shy as you thought you might.
2007-04-23 18:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kacee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A mother should have only who SHE wants at her birth. I myself had 9 people, in my bathroom, while I gave birth with 2 of my children at home. Many others thought they SHOULD be invited to their births, but I said no. Birth is such a miracle, and I can completely understand why someone would want to share in that joy, but by no means do they have the right to be there.
2007-04-23 18:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Mama of 4 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand it either, but I do know what it's like being the delivering mommy on in that situation. When my second daughter was born my ex's mom and step dad were supposed to be watching the oldest two kids and they thought it was a fantastic idea to bring them into the delivery room when I was giving birth. It was really uncomfortable and I tried to get my ex to shoe them out, but he wouldn't....(bastard) It got the point that my oldest got between me and the doc when I was pushing (and the baby was crowning) and said "eewww, slimer is coming out of mommy's tata" (she was 4 at the time). Right then I decided the only people in the room with me would be my husband and the medical staff.
2007-04-23 18:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by lupinesidhe 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well it's actually wittnessing a true miracle and some people want to see a miracle being born.
Some mothers like myself....don't care if others want to be in the delivery room. Some women are not shy about giving birth others are. I guess it depends on the person. OFcourse I wouldn't want my father in law in the room or my father...LOL.
As far as someone thinking they have the right to be there...I agree with you that people shouldn't just assume that they are invited until they are asked.
2007-04-23 18:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All of these people just want to have a part in the special day. However, if the mother doesn't want them there, she doesn't have to have them there. Just as a tip, though, when I was pregnant with my first, I didn't think I wanted my mother to be there either. I wanted it to be a moment that my husband and I could share, and i felt she would try to butt in and ruin our bond. Turns out, having her there was the best thing. My husband needed breaks from time and she was there to jump in. I was really grateful to have her there.
2007-04-23 18:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree! I think that is somewhat awkward to sit there and watch your daughter in law or niece, cousin giving birth. I have given birth twice and the only people I wanted in the delivery room was, my husband, the hospital staff and my sis! That is it. I did not even feel comfortable having the baby's grandparent's there. I have known some women who have their dads there.....??? Gross!
2007-04-23 18:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My problem is, is people that you're not that close to that want to be in the room. With my first son I had my mom, dad, my son's father, my mother-in-law, and her best friend. I definitely wasn't happy with the best friend part since I really didn't like the lady, but at the time I was in to much pain to care. With my second son I had my mom and two of my best friends, but that's what I wanted. With my daughter that I'm pregnant with now I have everyone under the sun asking if they can be there or telling my they want to be there and it's really starting to irritate me!! It pisses me off that they all think they have the right to be there. The only one I really want there are her father, my mom, and my daughter's godmother. But of course I have both my sisters and four other friends who want to be there, so since they don't understand NO I'm just not calling anyone until after I have my daughter. It is a beautiful thing, but if you don't have beautiful relationships with all these people they shouldn't expect to be there.I have been in two of my best friends births, but I didn't expect to be there they wanted me to be there that's the difference. I'm still trying to figure that one out myself!! Good Luck & Congrats!!
2007-04-23 18:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by ERIKA D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people are just selfish and inconsiderate! I refused to allow anyone other than my spouse in with me for the first one nad it will be the same this time also. It is entirely up to the mother and father of the child being born! Good Luck
2007-04-23 18:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by Janes_Addiction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curiousity and the desire to be with someone you care about during an emotional and upbeat situation. I personally wouldn't want anyone other than the baby's father in the room, but my sister in law invited all kinds of people to my nieces birth- her mother, my mother, her 3 sister's in law (myself included) and her college roommate. Her mother and one sister in law did attend, and her husband too (my brother). The rest of us declined- not because we weren't interested or concerned, we just thought it was too personal.
2007-04-23 18:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋