2007-04-23 11:02:17 · 15 answers · asked by thesunshineking 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
If they both want to have kids without the option of adopting, then it would be reasonable to make certain this was possible before committing to marriage. Both of them should be willing to take a fertility test.
2007-04-23 11:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know if they can do a fertility test. When I went to my doc before trying to conceive, I asked "How do I know if I can even have a baby?" and she said "You won't know until you try."
I don't think they will just do a routine fertility test just because someone asks for it, and probably not for a prenup.
Plus, if 2 people are meant to have a child, it will happen. God grants miracles every day. Many couples give up on having a baby of their own, and adopt, and get pregnant a few months later!
2007-04-23 18:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not fair. The fertility test should have been made known before dating started. That way everyone would be on the same page (the page that reads, "having kids means more to me than loving you")
2007-04-23 18:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by Katie C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not appropriate. Sounds like she wants to have kids and doesn't really care about the father as long as they have the biological characteristics to ensure pregnancy. Fertility tests are usually conducted after a series, or a certain amount of time, trying to conceive and never actualizing it. If her asking you isn't a problem and you don't care, simply state that you'd be happy to provide her with one, as long as she's prepared to do the same.
2007-04-23 18:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm. Hmm.
It's an appropriate request. The asker knows what he/she wants and is being up front about it. That's much more fair than keeping it hidden.
It would also be appropriate to refuse. The asker's unstated message can be interpreted as "I love you enough to spend the rest of my life with you...if you're fertile," which is not the kind of thing you see on Hallmark cards.
2007-04-23 18:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO....if you need a fertility test to decide if you want to marry the person then the one asking for the test is not ready to get married.
Marriage is for the best of times, worst of times, sickness and health. It's a sign of how that person will handle things in the future.
think long and hard....
good luck
2007-04-23 18:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by tovah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. If they are a young couple, I say no. Take your chances. If they are older, late 30's or 40's then yes, because fertility problems increase with age. It's more important for older couples to ask that of each other than younger couples.
2007-04-23 18:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by Kat H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll only WANT TO marry you if you are fertile enough to satisfy the need to give me a baby otherwise you'll be no use to me.......BYE BYE...................................
usually people will marry because all that matters if that person, not a prenup or a post nup or how much sperm is floating in the tank, or how futile and arrogant the womb is to kill off that sperm .....Its not a business venture, this should be for love regardless...in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer for better for worse till death do us part.
2007-04-23 18:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally.
2007-04-23 18:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by Luminara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That kinda puts a damper on the relationship, don't you think? Imagine it comes back that they are infertile. Is that the end of the relationship? Couldn't you explore other options? Surrogates? IVF? That's not very nice to do to someone you say you love.
2007-04-23 18:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by agkwatson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋