should I live with m friend and his dad?

Question

I'm 15 years old and my mom unfortuantely can not keep me b/c my dad is being weird and trying to punish her by saying that if I don't go to boarding school out of state then he's going to call CPS on her and my sisters who are not his. But he doesn't want me t live with him. Since boarding schools are expensive and no way am I going to live at school what the hell, my friend's dad said I could live with them. He's very nice and I've known them since I was 8, but do you think I should do it? My friend (Jenine)'s dad is a constructin worker and since Jenine switches every week to live with her mom, I would be living with Rob (her dad) by myself. My mom thinks I should do it but my dad would probably not allow it, and anyway do you think it's a good idea? I don't have many options...thanks

Answer 1

this sounds like a sticky situation... and I don't think you will find the best advice online. there is a number that I call when I am having family problems (and I have a lot of them). and the counslers really help. 1-800-448-3000. this is the number for girls and boys town USA. trust me, these people help.

Answer 2

You have plenty of options hun. First off, you dad has no right to call CPS unless he has proof that she is being negligent, EX. Not feeding you guys, doing drugs in front of you, Keeping the house unlivable, child abuse. Even if he did call child protective services they dont just take your kids away, they set up an investigation where a social worker comes in, inspects the house lightly, asks you a couple of questions, Asks your neighbors question and lets you know what they think in about 2 weeks. If they think the living conditions are unbearable, they will give you a week to fix all the problems, if there not fixed, then they can place your children in foster homes until you get your stuff straight, My point is, dont let your dad bully your mom, Tell him that you do not want a relationship with him if he doesnt cut his **** out. As for the living with Rob thing, hell no, dont do that, you dont know who rob really is, Just cause hes a nice person to you doesnt mean hes not capable of horrible things like child molestation and rape, You shouldnt come into your friends house when her living situation isnt stable either, it will but strain on her, you , and your relationship.

Answer 3

No way! What if her dad comes on to you, while your friend is at her mom's? That is crazy!

I am sorry you are in this situation. Your parents are being selfish idiots. Don't let your dad's threats to send you to a bording school worry you. He can't make you go.

Is he your real dad, or a step-dad? This doesn't make any sense. Tell you mom to get her act together!

Your mom thinks you should go live with some strange man? Is she on drugs? Seriously! You poor thing! Do you have another friend you can live with, with 2 parents there all the time? What about a teacher, with a mom and dad.

I'm so sorry you are going through this!!!

Answer 4

It is up to you.. First of all you should not worry about what your father thinks about if I wants to send you to boarding school. Unless this is your step dad that wants to send you to boarding school. Then why can't you live with your real dad or another family member ( Aunt, Uncle, Grandparents) Or talk to your mother this just seems a little out of control..If he has not adopted you and his not your legal guardian then he doesn't have any right to send you anywhere. Also I would get the cops involved and tell them what he is doing to you and get a case going toward him! Good luck!!! Sorry that you have to go through this my step dad hated me also and I was beat as a younger child not fun at all. Just be strong and don't let him effect you!!!

Answer 5

This is a st icky situation.Have you got relations you can stay with? As a minor you need to abide by your parents wishesYour parents need to sit down and talk this situation through.Your mum needs tostand up to your dad..Really your dad has no right tocall CPS because even though the sisters are not his he cant force you and your mum apart.Your mumm could look at getting custody orders for you all.Get a lawyer that relates to family law in this manner.

Answer 6

Your mom needs to speak up and tell your dad that boarding schools are expensive and forcing you to go there isn't what you want to do. If your dad refuses and continues forcing, you need to tell your mom that he has some anger issues and needs to control them. Hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 7

Living with strangers is not a good option. You are still a minor so you will have to do what both of your parents decide for you. Your dad will have to agree.Boarding school would be a good option if they can afford it.

Answer 8

Sounds like your mom needs to stand up to your dad. If he didn't adopt you and your sisters, then he really has no say. Living with your friend's dad sounds like a bad idea, either he'd have to adopt you or your mom would have to emancipate you.

Answer 9

if thats the only option uve got then i would go

Answer 10

No, the consequences could be bad, in any case.