I am in a Choir and when I am on stage,the girl behind me keeps touching me.She touches my butt(doesnt squeeze it or anything,just puts her hand there) and keeps moving around and stuff.I feel really uncomfortable.I don't want to hurt her feelings but this is creeping me out!!!How do I tell her to back off?!?!?She even tried touching my bff's "private area"Also she told me that my bff and I are her best friends(she is a year younger)
HELP!!!!!SHE IS REALLY CREEPING ME OUT!!!!!!!!
2007-04-23 09:47:44 · 18 answers · asked by ♥JESUS IS MY SAVIOR ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a girl
2007-04-23 09:55:19 · update #1
as for the touching, she *has* to know that what she's doing is wrong, hurt feelings or no. Tell her politely but firmly that what she's doing bothers you, and if she does it again, you'll report it. And if she does it again, report it. It's important you follow through, no matter what she may say about you not being able to take a joke or what have you. your bff must decide what to do seperately.
regarding her saying she thinks of you and your bff as her best friends, think of her with some compassion. From her point of view, it's true. Try being kind to her.
2007-04-23 10:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Robin the Brave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would creep me out too. I would say something to her (in private) about how you really dont appreciate her touching you like that and that it is making you very uncomfortable. If she continues to do it then you will have no choice but to tell you choir teacher and ask her to either move you or her to a differant spot, somewhere that the two of you arent close enough for you to be touched. Sounds like she has some issues!
2007-04-23 17:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kat J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to confront her in a public place, but not with any one near you, kind of pull her off to the side. You should let her know that she is making you unconfortable by touching you and that if she doesn't stop, you will have know choice but to inform the director of the choir and let them handle it, which may jepordize her being in the choir. I would tell her with your BFF, seeing that she has touched both of you.
2007-04-23 16:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by wilsonhutchison04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you either want to "not hurt her feelings" or think about what YOU want. There is NO way I'd just sit there and keep quiet, especially if the person continues to do it? By not saying anything you're letting her know that it's okay to keep touching you.
2007-04-23 16:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there no real subtle way to do it. You'll have to just come right out and tell the girl that you are not interested. Be gentle about it though. Sit her down and tell her in a calm voice that you feel uncomfortable with her actions and that you would appreciate it if she stopped.
2007-04-23 16:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont say whether you are a guy or girl. doesnt matter tho..but you should definitely say something if it makes you
uncomfortable. no one should be allowed to touch you that way. this is sexual harassment. you have to say something to her or she will keep thinking that it is ok. you dont have to mean about it..just let her know that you dont appreciate it and are not comfortable with it.
if she still continues to do this, you need to mention this to a teacher ...or just request to be moved to another part of the choir line.
good luck to you
2007-04-23 16:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she does it, turn around, look her in the eyes, and calmly tell her to keep her hands to herself. If she does it again, talk to the choir director about it.
2007-04-23 16:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Dena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know what? Next time she does that....turn around, look her straight in the eyes and say........please keep your hands off of me! You need to be able to stand up for yourself........and if this does not stop her from offending you........report her to who ever is in charge of your group....when we allow people to continue with...unwanted behaviors...they go on to do it to other people too......she needs to know that her behavior is......absolutely not acceptable! Good luck!
2007-04-23 16:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by angelcjc2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull her aside and tell her to STOP!! If it was a guy doing this to you and you didn't like it what would you do? This is Sexual Harassment
2007-04-23 16:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by brown eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok just tell her straight up say hey ok STOP touching me u r making me feel very uncomfortable!
2007-04-23 16:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jordannnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋