My husband of 10 years was caught last week calling another woman from my home. He says they are just talking about work, but when I called she said she did not know him. The next day I called and told her I knew where she lived and I was coming, and she changed her number. Everyone else beleives he didn't cheat,but I am sick with confusion. HELP!!!!!
2007-04-23 09:41:10 · 17 answers · asked by Confusious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
, good for you for pursing it,,, ask more questions... you will get to the bottom of it soon...... you caught him off guard... good for you...
2007-04-23 09:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. November 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not the answer you want to hear, but no one will ever know except your husband and the co-worker if there was cheating occurring.
It sounds like you might have some trust issues with your husband that could use some addressing with a couselor. Try talking to your husband and ask him for the truth. If you feel you can't believe him, then I would DEFINITELY seek couseling.
2007-04-23 09:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have been talking about work. has the guy cheated before? i use to have to discuss things all the time with people all over the world. They would call me at home all hours of the night but then again i understand where you are coming from too. I have a female associate that was basically much lower on the pay scale write me explict letters and drop them on my desk or in my desk drawer. She was younger than i and one of those letters in cluded her number which i never called. Anyways what i did do was keep the letter. I guess b/c of some kind of amusment but not for cheating purposes since i was truley in love with my wife at the time. but anyways i can see how it would make you nervous. He got the word i'm sure from her that you called her. So i would sit back and wait to see if it is like that.
2007-04-23 10:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one if they were talking about work then when you called her why did she act all scared as though she was hideing? And of course he's going to make up something so you don't think hes cheating. but what you need to think about is does he call alot of co-workers? if not then I think I would be asking him whats going on or get them both together and see what happens. I wouldn't jump to thinking the worst till you know for sure, and if you find out he is cheating them you don't need him. hope this helps.
2007-04-23 09:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your heart tell you? Do you get sick to your stomach when you think about it? Has his behavior changed, at all ( even the smallest thing)? Have the two of you had any problems lately? How long has he had this job? Has he had any other female co-workers that he talked to on the phone from home? And when you say caught, how did he respond when you caught him? Was he actually sneaking?
2007-04-23 09:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by wilsonhutchison04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a no no. Work stays at work and that's that. I'm pretty sure he has a full time job which is 40 hours a week. That's a lot of time for him to catch up AT WORK not in YOUR home. You need to get that straightened out. Pronto!!!
2007-04-23 09:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by alexbeauty333 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The woman could have you charged with harassment or stalking if you made ANY kind of threat to her, her job, her belongings, her car.
Also, SHE may be the one with the troubled marriage. She may have come to him for advice 'first', and asked him not to talk about it. He would have hedged then, if he felt that her problem wasn't appropriate to share with you. Leave the door open for him to explain that to you.
If he is willing, a session or two with a counselor may help clear the air for you both. You can express how you feel, and he can understand how his actions made you less secure.
2007-04-23 09:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it appears he's lied. What are you going to do? Forgive, couples counseling, or move on?
Take this seriously..something's apparently not working for him or he wouldn't be seeking out other women and then lying about it.
2007-04-23 09:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be calling other woman from home to talk about work. She changed her number so someone is guilty somewhere. You really should confront him. He could be cheating..the signs are definately there.
2007-04-23 16:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by BE_ME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you dealing with HER and not with HIM??!! He is the one in the committed relationship, not her. Leave her out of it and talk to your husband. She probably said she did not know him because you were coming across as a lunatic. Talk to your husband and consider all the evidence, not just one random phone call. Above all else, calm down.
2007-04-23 09:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could see why you would worry about that! They both lied and there has to be a reason for that. About 10 years is the time men can get the "itch". I wish you luck with your problem!
2007-04-23 09:52:57 · answer #11 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋