Would you stay with a guy that would do things for you (massage, roses, open car door) if he yells, throws things in anger, curses at you, tells you to shut up, etc? Why or why not?
2007-04-23 09:17:41 · 19 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell no, for all the good he does, he ruins it with his out of control temper. The massages, roses, open car doors, etc., is nothing but a guilty conscience. Not with me, my friend.
2007-04-23 09:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question. My husband does do all those nice things, but he rarely yells at me. When he does he says sorry right away. (then explains he is having a bad day and didn't mean to take it out on me)
I would think if he is nice enough to do the nice things he should not be doing the other thing. Maybe he needs some kind of anger management? I would stay if he would get some help. I don't think I could stay otherwise. (if he would not get help and I stayed... in the end I would need the help.)
2007-04-23 16:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Okay I was liking the whole 'roses, massage, etc.' part...then I got down to the yells & throws things part...lol...umm...yeah I think I would have to pass on that guy.
.I would not stay with a guy who does that, and if some guy tried to pull that on me...I'd beat his ***! Then I would hog tie him and call the police, just so they can come out and see him hog tied...lol....and then I would take a picture of the guy being hog tied, and post it up for everyone to see...with a sign in front of him saying "I got my *** kicked by a GIRL!"
*I might also spray him in the eyes w/ mace...so you look like you were crying......lol.....other than that, no I wouldn't stay with a guy like that.
2007-04-23 16:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because that is abusive....and yes when I was a younger woman I had a boyfirend like that....I stayed with him for almost two years...then woke up one day and left him.....he was a jerk but yes, I put up with his abuse for over a year until I got fed up...he owned his own bodyshop and was gorgeous....but none of his looks or money was enough to put up with him.
EDIT....I am adding more here....I think its REALLY interestingf I appear to be the ONLY woman answering that has encountered a jerk before...all these women saying "OH no, I WOULD NEVER allow such a thing"....I don't believe that...statistics prove otherwise........I don't allow it either, and left an abuser, but I think you get my meaning here....
2007-04-23 16:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no and I think the answer is pretty obvious. If he yells and throws things, etc now he will always do those things. But...... he will not always be the gentleman that does the little nicey nice things like flowers, etc. Those things fade but it seems that the meanness stays.
2007-04-23 16:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ? is hard, I was in the same situation... everything was great tell he gets angry.remember that when people get angry they do not think... I'm sure that u got angry b4, and did things or said things that heart his felling?! I'm not saying its ok for him 2 do what he does, however in my opinion I think its a lack of communication...My husband and I worked things out, when he gets really angry I try 2 make sure 2 came him down buy saying, everything will b alright or admit that I'm in the wrong, or even not talking and just say when u r came we can talk about the situation.. just make sure that u do not get angry @ the same time bcz it makes it worst.. If u love him and u know that he loves u.. everything is going 2 b ok.. just work things out... and b patient.. Good luck. sorry for spelling and gramer
2007-04-23 16:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by missT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've already Been in a relationship were the BOY started off all romantic and sweet then it was like a switch all of a sudden he changed it was like night and day...... so not not but hell no if he treats you like poop he has no reason to be with you all all you can do better, Like my mom always says never settle........ i would rather be with the man that I'm with who is sweet and honest and cares about my feelings and respects me as a person rather than a BOY who gives you low self-esteem.
2007-04-23 16:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by jenaalyse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell.no.
I have no tolerance for people who yell too much, throws things in anger, tells me what to do and think I'll do it just because I'm his girlfriend.
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2007-04-23 16:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by Gabrielle Cheri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. I would never be "bought" into staying in an abusive relationship. (Whether it's mental, physical, or verbal) I feel like there are plenty of men out there who would do all those nice things without me having to sacrifice my physical or emotional safety. If you're in a relationship like this, I would STRONGLY suggest bowing out immediately. There's better catches out there. (I PROMISE!) Good luck!
2007-04-23 16:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered one of your other questions and happened accross your list of questions asked.
I looked back and for the last 7 months you have asked question after question about your husband and marriage.
Have a look back and ask yourself if you or your husband is happy? I think you know that you both need help urgently. But don't put up with violence. No-one deserves that.
2007-04-24 18:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by wonderfulworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋