I have a friend in which I have constantly done wrong to in the past. Things include lying all the time, constantly calling/coming by, and many other things to where I basically did not treat him like a friend, at all. I have changed, however always feel bad for my past actions to him. He as always been a great friend to me & forgiven me, however I still always feel like we shouldn't be friends, as I don't deserve a friend as good as him. I don't want to end the friendship though because I enjoy us being friends, and always look forward to talking to him or seeing him. What should I do?
2007-04-23 09:14:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If he has forgiven you then you have to take the hardest step for may human to take and that is you have to forgive yourself. Give yourself permission to be a human and the mistakes that go with that. You reconized that you needed to change and did what you needed to do to change so you have taken a huge step already in improving yourself which is alot more then most people do. Most would say that they didn't have to change cause it is everyone else with the problem not them.
2007-04-23 09:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before anything understand that this friendship does not need to end. Once you understand that then get this..
It is pretty messed up that you treated your friend like that all this time but be proud that you have finally realize your mishap and that you are feeling remorse. That remorse is the first sign of an even greater bond with your friend ahead. I believe you should take the time out one day to be completely honest with your friend and let him know exactly what you have done and how sorry you are. Telling him the truth and apologizing for your actions will make you feel a lot better inside and will also relieve you from the burden of feeling remorseful. Once you've done this leave it up to him to decide if he still wants to be your friend. You owe him that much and if he sticks around then you have an opportunity to be the good friend that he deserves. Either way this ends up just know that you have picked up a valuable lesson. Don't ever let history repeat itself or you'll find yourself right back in the same state of emotions and possibly with no friends. Remember when you do wrong to others you are in essence doing harm to yourself and your spirit more than anything.
2007-04-23 09:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lvgrl23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to forgive yourself =D
Your friend has forgiven you and loves you and wants to be your friend right?
Well if that's really the case and this friend has forgivin you and really does want your friendship to work then forgive yourself and don't lie or do wrong to your friend any more if you really are a friend and want to have a friend you would quit doing the wrong to keep the friendship. =D
2007-04-23 09:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give him a special gift, maybe something you have made, or something you know he will really like. Give it to him with a big hug, and tell him it is just thanx for all those years of being a good friend. That should make both of you feel better.
2007-04-23 09:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by jimapalooza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've changed so keep up the good work and make sure you treat him like you appreciate him. Maybe treat him out once in awhile (out to lunch/dinner/movies). Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-23 09:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to change toward him. He's been a friend, you have been quite mean.
2007-04-23 09:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then stop being mean to him. do nice things for him. and after a couple years forgive yourself.
2007-04-23 09:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by swfan24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋