Many people want "things" and choose to work out side of the home, or live in certain areas. Just wondering what you chose and why. I realize many people have two parent/single parent homes where every dime goes to put food on the table. There is no choice for them.
2007-04-23 09:06:17 · 35 answers · asked by Proud Mama of 4 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am planning to be a stay at home mom. To me it just makes sense. I want to be the one to take care of my children and it seems to cost just as much to go to work than to stay at home! If you go to work you have to pay a baby sitter, use gas, buy uniforms, etc. I am so glad that I will get to stay home with my baby and that my husband can support us. I realize that not all moms can do this though and there is nothing wrong with that either.
2007-04-23 09:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by 1st time momma 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question. It is, in the end, a personal choice. Except when we are talking about single moms and unfortunately, they don't have a choice.
It was and still is very important for me to be home raising my children. Things are tough... we can't keep up with the Jones' - we don't have all the fancy gadgets and expensive cars but we are happy. My husband works two jobs so that I can be home with the children. When times were tough I got a job doing some extra work at home which I would do when the kids were asleep.
I wouldn't trade being home with my children for any fancy car, big house, expensive gadget in the world.
We are also very lucky that our families (parents) have the same feelings on this as we do and would help us out whenever we needed it to ensure I was able to be home raising my children. My kids have never gone without - my parents spoil them rotten!! :-)
2007-04-24 01:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by cyndi71mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As of right now, I love staying home. I've put a lot on hold and I don't regret it one bit. Honestly, I don't trust anyone else to take care of my baby for a good chunk of the day. Breastfeeding is important to me, and I honestly don't think I could keep up pumping every few hours on top of feeding him. I think eventually I will want to have a career, but probably not until he's in junior high or high school.
That being said, it is a very personal choice and I can understand why a woman would choose to work.
2007-04-23 09:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Heather R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am still single, but if and when I ever get married and have kids, I want to be the one to raise them. I used to work daycare, and I saw how many two parent working families struggled just to keep up with the cost of daycare. I knew mothers who spent up their entire paycheck, or maybe only had $100 left over after daycare was paid, and I thought to myself, is it really worth it? A lot of my friends say I am dreaming when I say I wish to stay home and raise my kids. They say in this day and age can anyone afford to do it? I'd rather raise the kids myself, at least the first three years of their lives, and then put them in daycare one or two days a week, or an afternoon here or there, to help them with their interaction and social behavior, and get them accustomed to germs and all that before they start preschool and kindergarten. I do forsee myself then going back to work part time when the youngest starts school. That's what my mom did. Of course this is all a dream, but I hope this is what I will eventually get to do.
2007-04-23 09:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by tinaroonie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mother of 3 with a fourth due in Oct. I am pursuing a degree in Elem. Education not to work outside the home/lack of fulfillment etc. but because if something were to happen to my husband, I do not want to be a woman who is trying to put food on the table and get a degree to better provide for my children. We are "pre-planning" this way. Eventually, my children will all be in school and then working while they are there won't be so much an issue.
2007-04-23 09:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by teachingpk2008 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If finances allow, I would definately say stay at home. I think a lot of things like cable, gym memberships and dinners out should be given up if it means that mom could stay at home with the kids. I do think that it's ok to go back to work once the kiddies are in school. It just seems that there's no point for a couple to have kids just so that the day care provider can raise them. My husband and I plan on me staying home once we have children.
2007-04-23 14:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will be a stay at mom when I have a child(ren) even though I have a college degree that I will use as a plan B if my husband should become unable to work. Fournately, my husband has a good paying job with good benefits and he is fine with me staying home. He also realizes that being a stay at home mom is a full time job. I want to spend every mintue with my kids that I can growing up. My mom was a stay at home mom most of my life and I loved it. I don't want anyone else raising my kids.
2007-04-23 22:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Ani♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its important for me to have options, in case, God forbid anything should happen to my husband. I a pregnant with our first, and finishing up my degree. I plan on staying home with my child until he or she is school age, then I might work part time or I might not. I know I am lucky to be able to stay home and raise my own children, but a lot of that also is because we choose to live in a smaller home so the mortgage is low, we don't have any credit cards, and keep our bills manageable. To me family is way more important that material "things."
2007-04-23 13:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by **0_o** 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im pregnant with my first and ideally I would love to stay home and never work again because I believe a child benefits most from one parent staying home, however, my husband and I have a very fixed income with two salaries a mortgage and bills, I dont see how this is really possible, I might be able to go to work part-time, and I consider that a gift. My husband is looking to change jobs so I can stay home, which I adore him for, but I have to be realistic about the situation. If i have to go to work to put food on the table then that is what Ill do. Some women dont know how good they have it!
2007-04-23 09:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Bored 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I both make good money, but we live in one of the most expensive areas of the country (NYC) and have no desire to move. For us, that means I have to work because neither of us can pay the mortgage and other necessary monthly expenses alone.
I could theoretically either quit my job and work at night (for far less money) or try opening my own daycare, neither of which would make me happy at all. And an unhappy mommy is a bad mommy...so I'd rather have my baby in daycare while I work doing what I've been doing for the last seven years.
So at this point, I'm just hoping to find a good daycare, babysitter, or share a nanny (can't afford one on our own).
2007-04-23 09:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by jokiebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋