2007-04-23 09:03:00 · 20 answers · asked by kendiaileen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been there & time may or may not lead this to a good ending...point is you did NOT marry them your role is to him~ Let him reap the sowing of his past this isnt your job~ I love my step kids to the end,but in the beginning it was so very very hard and he too sat there. I took my own ground and you too will come out shining! Good Luck, god bless~
2007-04-23 09:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by private p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine is going through the same thing. Unfortunately, this has been going on for many years (she married the guy when his kids were 5 and 9 and now they're 13 and 17), so it's hard for them to change it. You should nip this in the bud NOW. Tell your husband that you will not tolerate his kids disrespecting you. If he knows how you feel, he can hopefully correct their behavior by stating his expectations for them. You do not deserve to be disrespected by his kids, and it is not fair to you for your husband to do nothing about it.
2007-04-23 09:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well depending on how young they are it is normal for kids to hate the step parent. They still have this dream of their parents getting back together. But when your husband doesn't say anything to them, then he is disrespecting you too. That is very wrong, you should sit down and tell him how you feel, and tell him for this to work, he has to support you, by; not letting his kids disrespect you.
2007-04-23 09:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by rachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your husband so you come 1st always. Then his kids come 2nd. You need to have a talk with him and establish some boundaries and respect with your step children. The step kids are probably just jealous that their mom is not with the dad and has you now. Don't let it bother you too much becasue obviously he's with you for a reason. But all of you really need to sit down and work this out. They can't go on treating you like this. The kids are bitter and they need to be broken from that. Maybe their mom doesn't like you and is making you out to be a bad person. Show them otherwise.
2007-04-23 09:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by marshamarsha3333 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
blended families require some special skills. Get you and your husband into a good counselor and get some new tools to deal with this....
I have 4 kids in a blended family. It took some work, but now we have all figured things out and are pretty happy. You and your spouse have to show a united front. That is the first issue here....
2007-04-23 09:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been married? Do they live with you full time? You need to have a heart to heart with your husband tell him that they disrepect you and how this hurts you. Do something before its so bad you can't be there! Your a part of his family he should be respecting you too, enough to say to the kids you need to obey the rules of your house. I hope you can find some help, good luck.
2007-04-23 09:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Missy 75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him.
Sorry but you only have two choices, either put up with it or divorce him. Clearly the two of you have talked about it and it hasn't gotten better. This is something you should have thought about before you got married, instead of hoping it would change afterward. You make a bad choice in husbands, either get over it or get out.
Anything else will just lead you back to this point.
2007-04-23 09:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to having a hand in helping raise someone elses kids thats a job in its self......you will never gain the respect you deserve until your husband lays the law down to his kids.....if you dont stand up to him and demand that he do his job at having his kids respect you then you need to pull that fish off that hook and throw that sucker back in the water and let him find another fool to put up with his crap....just always remember the saying "mama didnt raise no fool" so dont be his.....good luck
2007-04-23 09:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. let him know how u feel. if things dont change after that, take matters into your own hands and discipline them yourself. also u should try being nice to them. dont bribe them, but show them u could be a good addition to the family and say things to them like i know im not your mother but i love your father and make sure they kno that your not trying to replace their mother but u love their father and your going to be around for a while and they should just accept the fact and move on. but it might be goo to hang out with them and try to get along with them. good luck
2007-04-23 09:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by tweetystarks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to be a man and husband or you are going
to divorce him and find a real man...
Men do not allow their wives to be disrespected..
2007-04-23 09:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋