My highschool sweetheart left me for a coworker about 5 months ago. I have never lived on my own and I kind of like it. I'm 33 now and my parents are getting worried I might never love again. My now exwife who I have come to realize is codependent but I can say that I love being single. Its like the movie Braveheart "Freedom!" Whats your opinion what if I don't date for say 3 -4 years.
2007-04-23 09:02:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex wife told me out of the blue last week that I need to get layed. She is out sowing her wild oats but I could give a sh*t less. I'm focusing 100% on our two boys who we share everyother week with.
2007-04-23 09:12:50 · update #1
I think it's great that you recognize your need for space and freedom! Go for it! As a guy age doesn't play as big of a role in when you need to find somebody, if I weren't so worried about being too old to have kids I too would probably be much more patient! Good luck to you!
2007-04-23 09:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it will take 3 or 4 years before you want to start dating. It has only been 5 months. You will know when you are ready. Dating does not have to mean getting into a serious relationship. There is nothing wrong with enjoying your freedom and dating at the same time. As long as you are honest and up-front about it, you can date several people at the same time.
2007-04-23 09:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I congratulate you on how you feel! So what if you're 33 and loving your new independence and quiet time! I'm 35, I've never been married (by choice) but I've dated tons. I'm now in a wonderful relationship of eight months =). When I was single, I LOVED it. I did what I wanted, watched my own shows, stayed up all night (if I wanted)....everything the single life prospers. I went in and out of the dating game, and I honestly wasn't impressed with what's out there, so if you aren't either, that's ok. Your ex is just that. An ex. Let your parents know you're doing fine and that being single agrees with you!!
2007-04-23 09:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you. I found, after my marriage, that I experienced a lot of personal growth and became more independent than I'd ever been, because I was on my own for the first time (at about 30 - 31 yrs old).
Take all the time you need...don't put a min or max on it...you may meet someone tomorrow that you want to get to know, or it may be many years down the road...
Do what's right for you...get to know who YOU are and what you want out of life as a single adult...enjoy Life whether you are in a relationship or not...
May your path lead positive places âº
2007-04-23 09:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine -- in fact, probably the right thing to do. It sounds like you got married at 18 and never really had a chance to just know yourself as an adult and have fun. So take a break! Have fun, and if you find that you want a relationship later on, you'll still have plenty of opportunity.
2007-04-23 09:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by some girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonderful for You!!! Celebrate this 'new-found freedom", enjoy the heck out it!!! (In light of everything, Your 'ex-wife' did YOU a huge 'favor'!! And since, you are only 33, I think you should take all the time in the world to adjust, live life, and think hard before selecting a new mate in the future. Always state your intentions with your new laisons, so that there are no misunderstandings, no one gets 'hurt'. As for Your Parents, stand Your ground, live your 'own' life, and just smile sweetly to them and tell them that You are very happy with the way things are presently. They should be 'supportive' of You regardless, as long as YOU, my dear, are 'happy", life is short , by all means, it is YOUR LIFE to 'live'! Go ahead, be a 'brave heart'. (smile)
2007-04-23 09:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by BARBARA B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People move on at different rates. There is no time, or rule book saying when or even if you move on with another woman. You are the only one who will know when it is right. I know a man who has had a 19 year relationship with his girlfriend...both own their own houses and they dont live together. They are happy that way. You are enjoying your freedom, so enjoy it while it lasts because you may not always feel this way. Just move on at your own pace.
2007-04-23 09:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm planning on not dating for about 5 years. Nothing wrong with that. I have kiddos to raise, and don't need or want the complications of trying to date at this time. My marriage was 10 years long.
2007-04-23 09:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by AnonymousGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn Jack you got married at eighteen , your single now go and have some fun while you still can.
Your a little bit to old to be mopping around, waiting around for four years is a waste of time.
Go out there an get your grove on and take that look of your face, if you want to find a fine as s latina.
2007-04-26 15:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by none 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The decision when or if to date again is entirely yours. Your parent's concern is probably rooted in their misconception that you are still hung up on your ex. I'd tell them (your folks) that you're using this time in your life as an opportunity to discover who you are on your own, and not as a component of a couple (seeing as it was high school when you were last single).
2007-04-23 09:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Matthew L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋