My other halfs is due any time now, I have been a wreck ever since she told me she was pregnant, I went through it before with our first child fainting twice, being a total bag of nerves, She was more worried about me than having the baby.
I suffer sever panic attacks and anxiety hence the problems, am I doing the right thing by not going? I mean her mum will be there
2007-04-23 07:02:28 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Have you spoken to the doctor about a tranquilizer or something before you go in? OR, do you just NOT want to be there? If not, your wife should know you enough to understand.
2007-04-23 07:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by It's Me 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well u need to Be there Even if u are not in the room. U should ask your doctor if there is something that he/she can give u that day that would help u that is a bit stronger then what u might usually take... Also I would at least try to go in the room Just sit... If it is too hard she will know that u at least tried.. But either way definitely be right outside the door...... Congrats and I hope everything goes smoothly.
2007-04-23 07:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad's used to never go in the delivery room. That's changed in the last few decades. Could you do this and go but wait in the waiting room? Also, there are a lot of dad's that faint while the wife is delivering, so you're not alone. If you're wife is OK with you not actually being in the room, go to the hospital and wait outside the delivery room. I can't imagine any involved husband/sig. other not going to the hospital at all.
2007-04-23 07:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it with your wife and make the decision together. And it's nobody's business after that.
My husband and I discussed it before the birth of our child last year. I asked him point blank if he wanted to be there. He said that he really didn't want to see the birth and would be more comfortable sitting outside. I had no problem with that...I wanted to focus on having a baby....not my husband.
So that was the right decision for us. Since then people have tried criticizing him for not being there and I tell them to back off....it's a personal decision. Even some of the nurses were nasty about it....and I told them to leave!
Please talk with your wife and come to the decision that works for you guys.
Good luck!
2007-04-23 07:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably better you stay at home with the first child
and let your other half and her mom bring the next
bundle of joy into the world. Giving birth is stressful
enough she doesn't need the added stress of you
passing out or having a panic attack. Congrats!!
2007-04-23 07:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by chmar11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't go inside the delivery room, but make it a point to be present at the hospital. After all, you helped make the baby and your wife is doing the hard work. I'm sure you want to support her; and the birth of your second child is just as important as the birth of your first. And congratulations!
2007-04-23 07:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she want you there? Maybe you can just go for a little while and hold her hand? Have you tried taking any anti-anxiety medications like xanax?
You need to get help for your anxiety and panic attacks so you can be a good husband and father. My ex had them, and I realize how severely they can affect a person. I know you feel like you are going to die! It's awful! So, please, get some help! You are going to have a lot of times where you have to stand up and be strong and be there for your wife and family.
Good luck!
2007-04-23 07:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be there. Have you talked to her about it? How does she feel about you not being there? If she is okay with it, wait in the hallway or waiting room. You should be at the hospital period. If you absolutely cannot and she is okay with it wait for your mother in law to call you and tell you it is either time or the baby has been born. Don't put to much stress on all of this. Relax, you are having a baby. She has to go thru the worst part. Good luck.
2007-04-23 07:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by emmaleighsmom2004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well maybe you can get the Dr. to give you a pill... maybe Valium, you should try to find some way to be there, it is the birth of your child. You can never take that back. You will never have a chance to see it again. So if you can try and get some meds, or possibly another option, Im not quite sure what.... but dont miss the birth, you will regret it. Good Luck!!
2007-04-23 07:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ethan's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
id have to say so. If you dont think you an hold yourself together during her labor you are not helping her or yourself if her mom and maybe a friend can be in the delivery room with her and you wait at the hospital i think you are doing what is best. She knows you love her and support her 100% and want to make it easier on her and she knows if you being in that state int he delivery room with her will not help either one of you. Best of luck!
2007-04-23 07:11:16 · answer #10 · answered by jessica s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you take any valium when you find out she's delivering? My boss had the same problem and he managed to get through it. The baby's birth is such a wonderful event. Do you really want to miss it? How does she feel about it? Does she feel like you would be a problem that she would have to focus on? If she wants you there, I think you should try. If it doesn't work out, you can leave the room.
2007-04-23 07:07:02 · answer #11 · answered by Jenn 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋