Driving myself mad with obsessive thoughts about my boyfriend and his infidelity. Not sleeping well., haunted by images, waking up with the haunting images in the forefront of my consciousness...you know all the symptoms one gets from brokenheart disease. I'm so disappointed :( Why are affairs of the heart so difficult? Could you please lend some words of encouragement? I haven't anyone to talk to.
2007-04-23 04:30:40 · 10 answers · asked by Sereny 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It is like a physical wound. It takes time to heal. It will flare up but less and less with time. In a sense you two grafted into each other and now there is a wound in the seperation.
2007-04-26 18:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by taxigringo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easy, just see him for what he really is - a coward. Cowards are deeply insecure people with low self esteem. Isn't it funny how people like that can project their issues on to others in such a way that the person ends up feeling just as miserable as the coward does? That's all it is MaryJane. So try to leave the problem where it belongs - with him.
Look at the sittuation from a totally different perspective in that you are now free to find someone with strength and character...and this time not 'settle' for mediocre. In your heart of hearts you knew he was second rate.
When you are finished mourning his problem, crack open the champaign and celebrate. Hopefully you will do this by the end of the week.
2007-04-23 09:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know wht you're going through, I've been there. People can say whatever they want about being strong and how we're better than that but it still hurts just the same. Let yourself mourn, you have experienced a loss. Just like any loss though you can't let it consume you. You have to keep living and you will. Focus your attention that you had been giving him onto yourself. Figure out what you want out of your life and take the steps you need to reach that goal. Try not to let someone else dictate how you feel about yourself and don't ever feel responsible for someone elses actions. He made the choices he made and now he has to live with them. Don't accept being treated like anything less than the beautiful loving person you are. Just remember no one is going to respect you anymore than you respect yourself. The only way to feel whole again is to make yourself whole again. Become the person you want to be and he'll realize what he lost and your new found confidence will attract the kind of man you are longing for and he'll respect you because you are a whole person.
I know all of this is alot easier to say than to do but try to remember you have to be #1 in your life. Believe you are a prize and other people will see it too. Good luck in your life, my heart is with you.
2007-04-23 20:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by devin776 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto, but mines not acute but rather obtuse.
Forcus your mind on what you want. Don't ask yourself for scrapes eithor. Don't make the list super long, but create THREE things that can be said within THREE words.
Example:
1. Good faithful man.
2. Balanced career.
3. Supportive friends.
Say 'I deserve' (insert list) 15 times everytime hauting images enter the forefrount of your consciousness. Sometimes, you can end up saying this like 100 times ... but it's a good substitute from beating this dead horse into the ground. Best wishes on your journey.
2007-04-23 05:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to God.....he has certainly helped me. And I think all of these are life lessons, falling in and out of love, falling in love, but then the other person falls out of love because that person probably never loved the other anyway,
Do some yoga. That will put you into a state where you will temporarily stop thinking about him.
One good thought is, is that if he really really loves you, he will come back, mine did. It's really a good lesson for both of you so you know you are both meant to be together. We will be married 34 yrs next month.
2007-04-23 05:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Consider this response as your little dose of tough love.
The mind is a powerful thing, and if you harness its power, the possibilities are endless. Chanelling it for positive thought will soar you to heights you never imagined. But right now, you are not harnessing its power, or chanelling it at all. You are wallowing in what was and what could have been. And, I am suspecting, that is exactly how you want to feel at this time.
If, however, you TRULY want to get over this, you will stop obsessing about him and your relationship. You will look forward and not back. You will learn what you can from the past, and use it to bring happiness in the future.
Your happiness is just minutes away...if you truly want it.
2007-04-23 04:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-28 18:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are really really nice guys out there who wont do things like that. They exist and they are gorgeous.
Unfortunately women don't seem to like nice guys. They always want the bad boys who treat them like dirt.
The next time you meet a guy who isn't real attractive but seems super nice, give him a few dates and see how it goes.
2007-04-23 04:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well for me i just kal up my brother and talk to him and he told me if he not were he need to be even if its with you he not ment to be thur he not the one for you so change ur styke and move to better things
2007-04-23 04:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by driqua03 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU LOVE YOUR MAN
YOU MUST TRUST YOUR MAN!
IF HE IS CHEATING
THATS HIS PROBLEM
IF YOU ARE MARRIED
THATS WRONG
IF ITS WRONG DON'T DO IT!
2007-04-24 09:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋