If my toddler throws herself on the floor, am I supposed to walk away?

Question

Pick her up? Tell her off? Ignore it?
I'm so at my wits' end. No, the parenting category does not exist.

I do mean when she's having a tantrum...

Answer 1

i normally ignore my toddler she nearly two with my oldest i used to shout and tell her off it would only make things worse !! if you think they are just babies still and they cant express how they feel my little girl shakes with temper really bad when she is finished her tantrum and i wait five minutes and then i give her a cuddle !! i know it sounds like im being soft but she only ever throws a paddy when she cant get her own way and it doesnt matter how long she screams for i still wont give in to her !!

Answer 2

In my experience George they just want their own way,as long as you know there is nothing genuinely wrong with her,i would ignore it (which i know is easier said then done!!)

Once they see they are not getting what they want from it, it tends to happen a little less often!!!

But i know how you feel, i have a 13 yr old and a 10 yr old and have been there a couple of times i can tell ya!! xxx

EDIT: sometimes the distraction works but not all the time!!

Answer 3

First try to distract her with a toy or something. If that doesn't work and she's just screaming...ignore her. It's hard, but it'll pass. Good luck!
Don't worry, this tantrum thing doesn't last for too long if you don't give her attention when she's doing it.
Oh, you might want to leave the room before you feel like throwing a tantrum too. :)

Answer 4

oh man. good times. i work with kids, and that is so not the easy part of it. whenever they throw a tantrum, i separate them from the rest of the kids (dont want them to join in, that would be BAD! can you imagine, 30 kids throwing a tantrum...no thank you!) and let them finish their fit. dont draw attention to their tantrum, it will just make it last longer. wait til they finish, and go about as if nothing happened. that seems to work the best for me. good luck!

Answer 5

No mater what is happening do not raise your voice. Speak calmly and the louder the child gets the more quietly you speak.

An old lady once taught me that a glass of water will get a screaming kids attention better than anything. I laughed when she told me. My oldest was 2-1/2....he was in full blown yelling tantrum mode....her words ran through me and I dumped my drink right on his head. When he looked up at me sputtering but no longer yelling, I said to him, "This behavior will not be tolerated...go to your room."

Whether you leave or they are sent to time out is your decision on a case by case basis. First priority is to stop it or contain it somewhere safe. Good luck.....stay calm.

Answer 6

Ignoring is hard, I know...but if you do or say anything, it gives her the attention she is seeking from doing it in the first place. Three tantrums in a row and three times ignoring completely should clear it up. Even if it lasts an hour and she makes herself throw up....just clean it up and move along. I feel for you, been there and done that. (((hugs)))

Answer 7

Yes. Walk away, but within a distance that you can see her but she can't see you. She needs to learn that this is not how to get Mommy's attention. When my son was little I simply told him that when he wants my attention the best way to get that was to come to me, give me a hug/kiss/tell me that he loves me. It worked. I also did NOT give in to tantrums for something that he wanted. Even if i was going to get it for him and he started acting up he didn't get the thing. That helped a lot with tantrums. Taught him that bad behavior gets punished, and good behavior gets rewarded.

I don't believe in bribing a child. I also believe that I am the adult with experience and it's my responsibility to teach my child how to acquire that experience.

Good luck with your little one.

Answer 8

walk away hon...she's reached the tantrum stage. It's awful and hard, but you have to ignore her. (just make sure she can't inadvertently hurt herself)

Both of my kids had 1 tantrum each. I ignored each - that was the end of it.

It's all about getting attention. Hang in there...it does get better. ♥

Answer 9

LOL, I don't look forward to those days. My son is 6 months old (started day care today :( ) He has his little tantrums now I cant imagine what they will be like in a few years. Yeah I think its okay to walk away and ignore it!

Answer 10

I walk away I learned after my first 3 kids that with the 4th if you give them attention while they throw that tantrum they will throw it again and again to get the same result.Walk away and tell her you'll only talk to her when she can act like a big girl