He elbowed me in the face. He punched me over and over in the head, he pulled out my hair, he slapped my face, he punched my body, he punched my stomach and winded me, he put his hands around my throat..All because i kept him up in the night because he was snoring, and i have been struggling to overcome somethings so i find it hard to sleep. I was crying in early hours and he told me to die and that he needed his sleep. He told me he wanted to kill me and that everyone wants me dead, he called me fat and told me he hates me.. all because i kept him up. I feel like its alll my fault. I still love him, i dont know why. He took me to the cinema last night and it was a nice night. He regrets what hes done but he sed i shouldnt of kept him up all night. he said he didnt mean anything he said.
Im in pain, i just feel like doing him and everyone else a favour and die .
please give me some advice.
2007-04-23 00:41:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hes done it once before, but only because i hit him first for cheating on me, i was so angry at him. Imm in shock and feel sick to the stomach. I dont know how somone could hurt the one they 'love' for wanting the tv on at night because they cant sleep or crying out because they need support. things have been great between us both lately to.
2007-04-23 00:43:44 · update #1
Im only 17 and iv never felt so depressed in my life.
2007-04-23 00:48:59 · update #2
Not your fault.... Do not walk....RUN ...as fast as you can and as far away from him as you can.... No man should ever do that to a woman....period......Get out of there NOW......
2007-04-23 00:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tom A 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My god... Leave him NOW. No man has the right to beat anyone up regardless of the fact that you kept him up. No way is any of this your fault... You did nothing wrong always remember that!! You have a right to have support and feel loved and secure. but you dont feel that way with him and you never will. He's controlling your life. And you need to get rid of him for your sake. You could end up getting seriously injured!!! He says that he didnt mean what he said maybe he didnt. But once he has hit you once he will do it again!!! You need to leave him Now. You shouldnt be made to feel that way by him you deserve so much better than that creep!!. He should support you not abuse you in any way. I was abused by my uncle. So i can relate to how you are feeling. You dont need him! Hope you can get this sorted!! Hope this helps you some little bit anyway.
2007-04-23 00:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by laura macnamara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't your fault what-so-ever. I suggest you get out of this abusive relationship while you still can. There are many women group homes that will accept you in and keep you safe until you can get back on your feet and find somewhere to go. If not go there then go to a family members house or a friends. Even if he says he is "sorry" that is no exception. He is abusing you whether you want to belive it or not. You don't deserve this. Do you realize that he could get much time in jail for what he did to you? This is no joke. Get out while you can. If someone can lay a finger on someone then they DONT love that person no matter how many movies they take them to see or how many times they tell them they're sorry or they love them. There are MANY guys out there that would love you and treat you the way a woman should be treated. The correct thing for him to have done if he loved you would be to talk to you and try to find out what is wrong that making you not be able to sleep and whats making you cry. He sounds like he doesn't care about anyone but himself. Get out of this relationship please. Best Wishes & Good Luck
2007-04-23 00:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, right now get your keys your purse and go to a friend's house. Go to the police station to arrange to get your things go stay with a friend and live your life without a man who is a boy. No excuse for hitting you and you should not hit him, you are on a cycle he will hit you again and you may hit him as well. Do not make excuses for him, I know that you may not feel that you are worthy of more but you are so do yourself and the rest of us a favor and leave. He learns that you love yourself enough to not be hurt by him and you gain his must needed respect and hopefully he will not abuse anyone else. I know you thinking I'll be alone... It's better to be alone then to sleep with a ticking time bomb. Do not cover for him or try to convince yourself it was your fault in your co dependant head. Go live and be happy, a man is out there that will treat you like you have never imagined.
2007-04-23 01:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by fbarkon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no its not your fault. Only he can control his actions. If he did all this stuff just because you kept him up one night I can't imagine what he did if you did something a little more major. I suggest you get out now before its to late. You wouldn't do any body a favor by dying. You are an important person to allot of people so don't think that way.
2007-04-23 00:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Air Force guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he leaves the house, call the battered women's operation in your area. You can get the phone number from your local police or sheriff's dept. They will help you get away from him before he accidentally kills you. No one should be hit, regardless of what they do. If he is hitting you, then he is a jerk, and you need to be in fear of your life. Please don't end up like I did, when mine put a gun to my daughters head, because he thought that I did something wrong. It started off by him just pushing me around, and constantly criticizing me. It escalated into horrible beatings, and guns. Oh, by the way, he cried and apologized every time telling me that he would never hurt me again. When he finally threatened my daughter's life (she was 4 years old) I left. I called my parents, and they begged me to come home. I did, and I have a much happier life now.
2007-04-23 00:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey.. he's not respecting you, leave him... You're still 17, you're young. you can't define one relationship & say 'that's it, i want to die'. he hit you! that is enough reason to leave him, report him, tell a grown-up.. cause if u don't, he might hurt you more, yet harm you in more painful ways... he should be stopped.. you wouldn't want to spend your life with such a freak... he tried also to choke you.. Honey, sorry if it sounded harsh, but what are you thinking!! Leave him.. he doesn't deserve you. he told you to die... walk out the door... he ain't worth it.. There are a lot of guys out there who'll respect you and treat you better.. much better.. noone wants you dead.. He's just a freak... he's a loser.. u're not fat.. u have few pounds on, i do too... they'll go away once u take things in your own hands and take control on your life.... Work out... eat healthy, if u left him, don't think that it's depressing.. The opposite, you're starting a new life, u can be with a better man, who'll respect you and love ya. you don't love him... he just convince you that u are... Cause 1) love doesn't mean to stay with an abuser. 2) love means good things, not getting beat up, nor slapped, not choked, nor insulted.... He cheated on you, it's his fault, it's never your fault.. He's a b@stard.
It doesn't matter if he says he's sorry or he didn't mean it. cause if he didn't mean it, he wouldn't have said it.. You're just a nice girl who's falling for his words... I can tell you right now that i have blonde hair with a large bank account, but we know that ain't true... Talk is cheap, honey.. wake up.. Leave him and move on. u deserve much better... Don't think that u can't live without him.. I've been there.. it didn't get me anywhere.. I was always sad & depressed... until I knew there's only one thing I can do, and that's standing up for myself.. Just the way you will... now go pack, get yourself together..leave him for good... don't forget to call a grown-up to stop him in case he tried something crazy...
Good Luck
2007-04-24 06:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ Chloe ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better u leave the relationship now!!! let me tell u something: i have a girl that actually got to know i snore and she it very irritating but what she will do is that she will try and turn me over so i wont snore again cos she noticed with ma chest on the bed i dont snore. so she called me and discussed with me how it affects her; although sometimes she wakes me up and then i understand what she is going thru; well we blended in that area and she is ma wife today;
so diplomacy is the keywoard if u are in love; u can never get a compartble person even ur siblings but u have to learn by diplomacy but i feel if a man raises is hand to beat a woman it is dangerous that means u are in for a sad time with him and he will always beat u no matter how small; so i giv u this assignment; tell him u feel headache when u dont sleep cos of his snoring that he should try and turn when he slleps ( on his chest) then see is reaction nand get back to me ok ; i want u to be happy sis- steven_makanjuola@yahoo.com
2007-04-23 01:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by segsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god he sounds like a monster. Get out of that relationship, and trust me you will find someone better than him. Even on your own you will feel better than you do now. You may be scared to be alone but at least you won't have that knot in your stomach that comes with constant fear of what he might say or do. My bf used to yell at me all the time and even though he never hit me when he yelled I felt like a little turtle hiding in a shell. And the sad thing is, he didn't even have to raise his voice to me, if he just told me what he wanted to make him happy, I would have done anything for him. He was always mad at me and it broke my heart. I felt like if I only I could say or do something different he would be happy with me but it wasn't ever me that was the problem, it was him. He had anger issues and went to jail at some point for assaulting our neighbors but when he went to jail people felt sorry for me but instead of sadness I felt strangely relieved, like I had been released from prison. I gradually realized I was better without him but for weeks I could still hear his voice in my head telling me I wasn't good enough. Luckily I am a strong person with a good supportive family so I overcame this "message" he left me with. It sounds like you will always feel incomplete with him so you should try to get away from him and gradually you will realize that none of this was your fault, he only made it seem that way. Whatever else you are going through in your life he is just going to make it worse for you, no support at all is better than being in that situation. Try to get away and good luck. IM me if you need to talk.
2007-04-23 00:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been abused badly...are you out of your mind??? Get away from this abuser as far and fast as you can!!!
Him taking you to a movie makes up for him beating the shyt out of you?
You are crazy if you don't leave him...people like this kill people and then say "I don't know what happened, I didn't mean to I just lost it"
Do you want to be another statistic or have a good life with someone who really cares about you. I have news for you...THIS GUY IS NOT THE ONE!
Be cool...
2007-04-23 00:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Like I tell everyone that I hear this from, He hit you cause you did not take a bat to his head... When he comes after you again, if you are STUPID enough, to be in same room with him again after he did this and did this once before. Then you need to pick up the hardest thing yhou can kind and swing it like a bat until you make contact.
When he wakes, and you are still STUPID enough to be in the same room with him then you tell him the next time he trys to put his hands on you then he will not get getting up...
Good Luck and PACK YOU WHAT EVER IS YOURS.. SET HIS CRAP ON FIRE AND LEAVE RIGHT NOW..!!
2007-04-23 00:52:46 · answer #11 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋