If you husband/wife is cheating on you, will you accept them back??

Question

I would most definately not... even if i had a dozen kids and no where to stay, let her/him go raise the kids.

and this question was asked in travel because i feel like traveling... so dont comment "why is this asked in travel" just answer LOL

Answer 1

"Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same." Oscar Wilde

"Bi-andry (ie polyandry) is having one husband too many. Monogamy is the same". Silky

Marriage is such a failed institution. And boring too.

Edit: Ok so I guess nobody likes my postmodernist-foucauldian penchant... Sorry... But this is how I see it. I know it spoils all the romance... Just think I'm a loser nihilist :).

Answer 2

I can speak from experience. My 1st wife had bipolar disorder and did cheat- especially in her manic phase. I vowed, when I knew nothing and only thought theoretically about this topic, that if my wife ever cheated on me, out she would go- PERIOD!!! We married and all was well the first few years- and then she became ill 1-2 years into the marriage, and the time came when indeed she did have an affair or two- and I was deeply crushed.

The feeling in my heart was a palpable sensation of a tearing of flesh as I wept like never before. I saw her... I saw my children... I saw what beautiful marriage we gad created... I saw a marriage that at one time was strong, committed and loyal... and I saw that I had loved her with all of my heart... and in the end, I also looked at my views and philosophizing about dumping any woman if she ever cheated on me. I had stated without hesitation that a cheating woman would never be in my life, but that was all theory and posturing from naivety and inexperience ---- and in the final analysis, I couldn't leave for I loved her deeply and also knew that I had invested heavily in the marriage.

We eventually divorced- but this was due to her illness and not the affairs! I think what struck me was that I was clear that I'd never take someone back for cheating and here I was, inviting her back into my life.

In our case, the strength of the marriage was not the issue.

It's one thing to know truth and talk about our truth- it's another thing to walk it!

Answer 3

Why is this asked in travel?????????
LOL !!!!!

Well, about your question......my reply is NO.....with capital letters !!! I'll not accept my husband back. Once you lost the trust in one person, you cant get it back. One cant live the rest of the life thinking that he is with another woman each time he leaves the house. I am not like that. and of course I'll not control him asking everytime where he is going to. So........for me the thing is simple. Each of us for our own side. My kids arent kids anymore, so....they wont be a barrier if something like that happens to me. That things for me are black or white.......never grey.
I believe in the self respect, and I shouldnt been respecting myself if i shall accept a cheater by my side. I have a high self steem..........so NO WAY !!!!!

Answer 4

Ghanouge ...that is a very BIG "if " & one I would never wish to face ...

I will answer it this way .... if you have a strong marriage , love & respect one another , love your kids & family , WHY would either husband or wife have a need to cheat ?

In other words , cheating is a sign of a problem or problems within the marriage not the only problem itself .So it is soooo complex that a yes or no answer , in my case , can't be given , only a maybe .......if these other issues could be revealed & sorted as well .

Having said that , our marriage has lasted through good times & bad for over 35 years & I would not sacrifice that for a few minutes of lust & passion .....hmmmm.

Answer 5

all and sundry can forgive all and sundry else for a incorrect they have brought about them. that's about no matter if or not they could get over the wear and tear they sense and in the adventure that they honestly favor to. dishonest motives the significant different who's cheated on to question themselves and no matter if or not they're sturdy adequate, alluring adequate, etc. it may impression their vanity to boot. I cheated on my female friend once lets first starting up courting even as an previous female friend replaced into on the city. there replaced into extremely some harm and soreness for both my female friend and that i. It took time yet we persisted to paintings via it and bypass on. We later married and performance been married for 25 years. For me, understanding why it got here about is major in combating it from taking position back. the following is a itemizing of causes human beings cheat. Bridging - they do no longer have the braveness to leave and then seem for some different person. Confusion - regularly that's an irrational determination pushed via circumstances and thoughts. maximum persons are bowled over by way of their own habit on the starting up of an affair. Frustration - Reluctance of the former significant different to do something of substantial value to/with them - sexual, moving to a unique city, etc. different sex drives - their sexcontinual is more beneficial than their companions and masturbating receives previous Nurturing - human beings discover someone who treats them extra effectual or who appreciates them extra. Revenge - satirically antagonistic to them dishonest or another perceived incorrect. lack of self assurance - to verify they're nonetheless alluring and proper (to validate themselves). the exhilaration - it truly is a hurry understanding they could get stuck. protection - in conserving with previous relationships, they're no longer positive if their significant different totally loves them so that you keep their recommendations open. Loneliness. Boredom. Forgiveness is acquainted with out limits. a large number of human beings forgive their companions and bypass on with their relationships. that's all about no matter if or not they favor to or no longer.

Answer 6

I heard my wife once saying to another woman, "Oh, he can look all he wants. As long as he takes his meals at home." Well the look on her face was classic, when I interjected with, "Really, what about snacks?" Where she promptly gave me, 'the look' and said, "definitely, No Snacks!" She knows, like I do, that we give and receive everything through loyalty and trust. A cheater does not have an excuse, in our house.

Answer 7

Yes. I think if s/he promises not to cheat on you again then you can show them a unconditional kind of love and forgiveness.

But if s/he continues to cheat on you and refuses to stop endlessly, then you should probably separate or divorce (but only as last resort) if s/he will not turn around and be faithful.

Answer 8

I dunno...it's a hard one...at first I might not take them back but if I think about it I could...I really dunno...but I have heard from a close friend who cheated and thought he loved the woman he cheated with that it was all not worth losing his wife...but you know what they say once a cheater always cheater

Answer 9

well my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend,it took me a years and a half to forgive him but there is this feeling insecurity that i have,but if he was my husband and we were really committed i will never forgive him for cheating after he made such a commitment

Answer 10

Why did you ask this in the travel section?
I don't know if I would, or wouldn't. It's not an easy thing to know in advance, but it's easy to say hell no in advance.

Answer 11

Maybe the travel industry is trying to find out if you are at risk of leaving home to another country and then not going home.