I was in a relationship with someone for 8 months. We started having problems, and we broke up. But before all the issues started, we did everything together!!!! There wasn't one moment we didn't see or talk to each other. And as time passed, I admitt that I started to change. I wasn't the same person I was in the beginning. And now that its OVER between us, I feel like it is completely my fault, and I regret hurting him so bad. I didn't think about how things would be in the future... but honestly I realized that I DO LOVE HIM!!!!!!! We told each other we loved one another, and I know he meant it. He did EVERYTHING for me, and I just screwed everything up. It so bad that my mom doesn't even like him anymore, but she doesn't know how I really feel deep down inside. I LOVE HIM... and I know he STILL loves me. But its been months, and he has a *new* girlfriend. I wish I could just start over again, and be happy. WHAT SHOULD I DO? I MISS HIM SO MUCH YA'LL?!?
2007-04-21 17:15:34 · 11 answers · asked by CUTIE 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am sure it wasnt all your fault, and its normal for people to grow and change,,,,,,, there surely were some issues ,, for your feelings to change for him, and for you to break up,,,,,,,, just like now there are some issues, that are causing you to want him back,,,,, you most likely are feeling lonely, and only remembering the best about him,,,,,,,, the fact that it has only been months, not years, and he has a new girlfriend, shows , to me, you both wanted to move on,,,,,,,
so remind yourself about the things that were wrong in that relationship, that doesnt even have to mean wrong things about him, but could just mean he wasnt the right one for you,,, what bothered you? why did you want to break up? etc etc
if you are very young, you are going to change,,,,,,, that is what you are supposed to do, as you discover and find yourself, some of the changes you will decide to discard,,,,, but dont put yourself down, it was the best you could do at the time
ps: and for some odd reason, while people can be upset right after a break up,,,, its normal for the person breaking up to at first be relieved, then a little later have regrets,
the other person is often so upset at first, but then a few months down the road is over it
i would say, let yourself mourn the end,, but do move on
2007-04-21 17:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey. It's ok. Pull youself together and take a deeo breath. You lost ur supposed love, but was he really your love id you broke up with him. If you think this over and figure out that YES HE"S MINE! then it's time for you to talk to him again. But don't mention anything about loving him again. He might be turned off. Invite him to lunch or something casual. Tell him you are sorry for hurting him and you really don't want you two to drift apart even more. Casually ask question about his girlfriend because you must be interested. If he doesn't come to lunch call him. Not too many times however. If he's not interested at first don't give up hope! It's hard when you just broke up. He's probably not keen on being close to you again too fast. But don't give up hope. Keep a strong friendship going. When he's in need be there. And if he breaks up with the *new* girlfriend take your chance and go for it again. Love comes through!
2007-04-21 17:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think of the reasons you broke up with him. Is it possible you don't really miss him, but the possiblity of him and the relationship you dreamed of? There had to have been reasons you broke up with him. Do you have a journal to read or friends to talk to about how you felt back then? Once you've considered those reasons you'll have a better idea of whether or not you still want to be with him. If you decide you do, you might as well tell him. No harm in that.
2007-04-21 17:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the crowd, you are not alone. We all have done stupid and dumb things, it's part of the human experience. We tend not to advertise them, or block them out, and just move on. If you think it might help telling someone about it, that's fine. However it won't change the past one bit. The best you can do is learn from it, and try to reduce the possibility of doing something like that again. Peace
2016-05-20 23:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should prolly tell him how you feel
andif you have another start with him
you need to have boundries and not
spend all your time with him because
then you get tired of each other quicker
im sure he prolly still loves you so just see if you
can work it out
2007-04-21 17:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kelley R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it is hard when you relize that u made a huge mistake in loosing him i made the same thing..its very hard to get over it but you said that for a reason.but i would try to tlk to him and tell him how much you love him and if that love was truly there between you guys hell come back
2007-04-21 17:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by nat~nat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how u feel.
ive been in that situation before.
well,if he had a new girlfriend*,meaning he dont wish to look back and have a relationship with you again.
go on with life(:
you can definately find a better guy rather den him.
2007-04-21 17:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing, is moving on. Continue to work on yourself, and see what time brings. Remember what doesn't kill us will only make us stronger.
2007-04-21 17:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by L F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on..... There is always something better out there you have to think positive.
2007-04-21 17:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is like a letter to him... Print it out and show it to him.
2007-04-21 17:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋