Well My sister is 5 weeks pregnant and i can see it in her eyes that she really wants the Baby but her Bestfriend and Father of her baby is telling her its NOT GONNA HAPPEN and its "Final" shes only 19 with a Job and our Family is more than willing to Finacially HElp Her she lives with us all and She is Planning to Abort soon Because of Father Figure issues is this right!???!??!?!?!
2007-04-21 16:26:51 · 21 answers · asked by Whitney 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
NO IT'S HER DECISION AND SOLEY HER DECISION. TELL HER TO TELL HER FATHER OF THE BABY AND BEST FRIEND TO SHOVE IT. ITS NOT THEIR BODY OR CHOICE. Tell her to have her baby and enjoy it. She will regret it for the rest of her life.
2007-04-21 16:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Don't pressure your sister. It's her choice. She can weigh what the father says, weigh the family's offer of help, then make her own choice.
I'm an old lady. I very well remember the days before abortion was legal and the hell some women went through. I had some tough choices back in the day... I have four children of my own and raised two of my sisters... but I chose to be the mother of all six. I would never tell another woman what choice to make. Ultimately, she's the one who has to live with it, not me. Even if I'm offering to help, it's still not me going through with it.
Lots of women in my day were forced to go through with the pregnancy and some did crazy things trying to cause a miscarriage. I'm also a retired nurse and I remember a whole ward of women who had become infected after botched abortions or their own attempts to cause an abortion. I'm glad it's legal for those who don't feel they can go through with it. I don't judge them and just want them to be safe. You can best help your sister by telling her that you'll back her, what ever choice she makes.
I don't know at what stage the soul enters the body of the fetus. I wish I knew, then I could say that abortions should only be allowed until that time. Hopefully, the soul meant for the babies which are aborted will find another home to be born into where they're truely wanted. This must be the hardest decision a woman has to make.
2007-04-21 16:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Annie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very wrong! They are going to hurt you sister. Women who have abortions are severely mentally affected and more so if they actually wanted to keep the baby. You sister will never be the same again and may even try to kill herself. You need to seek help. Call the nearest pro-life pregnancy center. Get that man out of her life. Be with her. Encourage her. Remind her that that is your niece or nephew and that you love the baby. Remind her that she is a mommy. Give her a congrats card and baby toys. Pregnancy centers often have sonogram. Take her there to get one!!! Don't yell but be gentle. Go with her to the abortion place. So if she wants to walk out she has you to help her. If she wants to leave and they don't let her make a big scene right there in the center and call the police. 911. Fight!
2007-04-22 17:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to do what ever SHE wants. I too had issues with my baby's father. I knew I wanted the baby but did not want my little girl to feel like she was not wanted by her dad. I made the decision to keep my child and I could never love anyone more then I love her, nor can I ever feel more love then the way I know she loves me. When I am having a bad day her smile is contagious. Tell her to stick up for her child. Someone needs to.
2007-04-21 17:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by Noneya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your sisters right to chose whether or not to have an abortion. It is NOT up the to father of the baby. There is no way, other than pure guilt, for him to force her into having an abortion. And it sounds like he might be doing a good job of it. If it is her decision to abort, then I would support her decision. If she does abort just for him, then I would be there for her.
If she has made up her mind that it is the right thing to do for her, no one can say whether she will regret it.
For all of those people on their soapboxes who say that she will regret it, unless you are speaking from experience, shut up! You are just trying to force your opinions on someone else. It doesn't mess everyone up. Not everyone has deep emotional turmoil for life because they chose not to bring a life into the world. Sometimes it is the right choice for the right reasons and everything is OK.
2007-04-21 17:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by soprano440 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the father has no right to tell her to have an abortion. He is trying to control her. If he is threatening to break up with her if she has the baby-too bad. He is a jerk and would have eventually left her anyway. She can and should have the baby. It is her body and her body alone. She can also get child support from the father. Perhaps that is why he doesn't want her to have the baby?
2007-04-21 16:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Julie J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who is to say that it is right or wrong? All you can do is tell her how much you love her and that you will help her with the baby. Take her to a Crisis Pregnancy Center. They'll show her some abortion tapes, they may even give her a free sonogram and let her hear the babies heartbeat depending on the clinic. Check out this website to find one near you....
www.pregnancycenters.org
2007-04-21 16:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by thezookeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father doesn't have to be in the baby's life for it to eventually have a father figure. In the first few years of life the baby is not aware of boy girl mother father. It recognizes those that are around it all of the time. There are plenty of men who do not mind dating a woman with a child. Though they are few and far between at her age I admit. I wish her luck. I'm sorry I wasn't much help. But unfortunately when it comes down to it it will be her decision to make.
2007-04-21 16:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
She should tell them that she is going to have the baby (it sounds like she really wants too). If they choose to be in the baby's life, fine. If not, that's fine, too. But they need to back off. Is there any way you can get her away from them for a weekend or something? Maybe a short sisters' road trip? Let her clear her mind and think about what SHE wants?
2007-04-21 17:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father is a moron and doesn't have any right to force her to get an abortion. Make sure she knows that. Also she's an adult so she should dump the father and find a man who will love and marry her.
2007-04-21 17:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered this the first time, but things get lost in the shuffle, so...
She needs to sit down and talk to someone from Planned Parenthood, or another such organization, before deciding. She shouldn't let herself be pushed into it by friends and/or the father, because since they are unmarried, he ultimately has NO say in the matter.
She needs to discuss it with someone, and if it's what SHE wants (not what she wants because someone else told her that's how it's going to be), then support her decision, even if it's not the one you would make.
2007-04-21 16:55:59 · answer #11 · answered by MommyLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋