How young is too young to have a boyfriend?

Question

It seems like all the girls in my grade have a boyfriend. Each week they break up and rotate onto the next couple. I'm only in 8th grade, but everyone seems to act like they're 21. Is this normal? Am i the only one who feels this way?

Answer 1

You will be old enough to have a boyfriend when you feel ready not when you feel the need to have a boyfriend to fit in These girl you are speaking of will be talked badly about when they get older if they aren't talked about badly already. Do what feels right to you and is allowed by your parents. They should know better than anyone when you are mature enough and around that time they will probably let you start going on group dates which includes boys and girls usually with an adult chapperone. If you are wondering if the girls you mentioned are too young to have a boyfriend yes they are too immature to have boyfriends but it seems to me like it is a game to them but if they are kissing and stuff like that they are going too far because you don't just share things like that with one person one week and another the next week that is how someone gets a bad reputation and loses their parents trust and that is the most important thing not to lose because when you get older say dating age if they do not trust you it can be very embarrassing for you. Imagine being 17 and on a date at the movies with your sweetie and turn around to see your parents sitting a few rows behind you. Let your parents guide you in these matters until you are old enough to talk to them about things like this you will not be mature enough to date. When they think you are ready they will let you know just communicate you feelings with them and let them know what is going on at your school also I'm sorry this is to the girl who is 13 and now has meaningful relationships with her boyfriends You will never know what a meaningful relationship is until you are an adult and have to face the struggles of being an adult together with someone and make it on your own without parents to cry to what seems meaningful to you now will just be a few weeks in jr high when you are grown a meaningful relationship has goals and plans that two people make together and both person sacrifices and puts the other persons happiness before their own and is happy just because the other person is And please tell me by meaningful you don't mean sexual or physical because that has nothing to do with a relationship being meaningful

Answer 2

So if they break up and rotate after a week, what's the point of having a boyfriend? I didn't have my first true boyfriend until the end of my sophomore year and I was 16, and that relationship lasted for a little over a year (the he graduated and moved out of state, so we called it off.) Having a boyfriend now would just take up too much of your time. You're young, boyfriends are pointless... at this age, they just cause a lot of frustration when you should be going to the movies with your friends and having fun. I felt the same way you did though when I was in 8th grade, but fortunately, my 3 best friends didn't have boyfriends and we were always having so much fun together... none of us had a guy to pay attention to to pull us away from each other. Then in HS when we did start dating, we had driver's liscenses and cars and could double date and still be with our boyfriend and our best friend. Just shurg it off and have fun. And I'd say younger than 14 is too young to have a b/f. (And younger than 16 is too young to go out on a date.) But that's just me!

Answer 3

Don't be worried about what the others are doing. I wouldn't say you are too young, but I definately wouldn't say you were too old not to. Everybody's different, & if you haven't found a guy that's good enough to be your boyfriend then don't just find someone who will do. When you find someone you like & the feeling's mutual is when it's the right time. It might be next week, or it might be in 4 years time. There's no hurry. You've got plenty of time to be getting your heart broken & be crying over guys so I wouldn't be worried at all. You sound more mature than the girls that have a new boyfriend every week. You'll also not be the one whose studies are affected & is caring for a baby whilst their friends are out enjoying themselves. Your time will come... :)

Answer 4

I'm in 8 th grade too and trust me it's very normal. No your not the only one I feel the same way . I mean aren't they a little young but you get over it. Don't worry if your friends don;'t hold steady relationships. My friend had a boyfriend dumped him, got another, he cheated on her, and when back to the first one. Honestly I think grade 4-5 is too young for a boyfriend. Besides in eight grade it's fun to jump in the dating game whenever you want. You have your whole life ahead of you so don't worry too much about who has a boyfriend and who doesn't. Most do atleast that's how it is at my school.

Answer 5

Don't worry sweetie I felt the same way as you do. This age is WAY too young for a boyfreind all it will do is cause you stress you do not need. I am 23 and I only had my first b/f at 19 yrs old...I dated some guy before that but not until Grade 11...In grade eight you are too young to understand what a real relationship is about...I am still learning even now...so don't rush hunny just relax and have fun being young!!

Answer 6

I had boyfriends since I was in the 5th grade. They were never anything serious and all we did was hold hands. I didn't have a serious boyfriend until I was 15, I met my now husband when I was 16. The most important thing is to do things at your pace. If your friends have boyfriends that doesn't mean you should too. I get the impression that since you are asking that you aren't ready. If you are ready make sure you take things slow and never do anything that you aren't ready for (it wont make him love you).Too many girls are having babies at your age. If you insist on having sex anyway make sure you use protection and see you local planned parent hood, they will give you free condoms and other forms of free birth control as well as advice.

Answer 7

13 is way too young. No one at that age is ready for a boyfriend. Believe me when I was 13, the last thing on my mind was having a boyfriend. I had male "friends" but that was all, nothing serious. 13 year olds need to act their age and not 21, where are their parents???

Answer 8

Each person is different. Myself, I was dating at 12; but I didn't get serious until I was around 16. To the people that say anyone under that age of 18 shouldn't date, that's just rediculous. Anyone under the age of 13 maybe. But I'm 17 and happily engaged to a man I plan to marry within the next two weeks or so (my birthday is tuesday). But back on topic, it is normal for girls your age to pretend to be older by dating boys. It also is normal for you to feel weird about it since you are not participating in the couple "swap". Date when you're ready. If you aren't, that's the boy's loss, not yours.

Answer 9

Just because everyong else has a boyfriend, doesn't mean you have to have one. And they clearly don't know what true feelings they have for the other person if each week they break up and go with somebody else. There is probably loads of others who feel the same way as you in your school. Hope this helped! :)

Answer 10

i see where you are coming from!!! many girls (and guys) feel like they are wierd for not having a boyfreind...i feel the same exact way, but....ive figured out that it is normal for some girls and guys to act this way...but its also normal to think they are being crazy....dont worry about it and when you feel ready to have a boyfriend (or if you do now), go for it! But make sure its not someoen you will break up with in a few weeks!

hope i helped!!!