ok so i have had my mother-in-law on the phone telling me if i dont have morning sicknees i will most likely miscarry and that 2 middle names for my baby is silly and that i should book into the hospital very soon. i am 7 weeks pregnant 33 years old with my first pregnancy. my question is...when is the right time to book into a hospital and how to tell her to get lost nicely lol.......i live in australia.
2007-04-21 14:58:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Firstly, congrats on being preggers!
Secondly, don't let anyone scare you with their stories (people often overexaggerate about what happened to them, etc), so rather experience things for yourself as you go along. You will be glad you did in the long run.
Thirdly, if you are unsure about anything to do with the actual birth (eg. booking into the hospital, etc) check with your gynae / ob... they are the only people who are actually qualified to tell you what to do in this situation.
Fourth, Enjoy being pregnant... it's the most exciting and uplifting experience I have had in my life thus far!
2007-04-22 00:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by lulu101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I would tell your Mother in Law to back off politely because you don't need her stress at this time and not having morning sickness will not cause you to miscarry thats a load of rubbish and I would tell her to leave the medical advice to the professionals. I've had the opposite trouble my boyfriends Mother has just rang once to see how I have been going and thats about it. I live in Sydney Australia and I had to book in to RPA as soon as I found out I was pregnant because it can take weeks and weeks to actually get an appointment.
Mum to be - 29 weeks pregnant
2007-04-21 22:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by destiny18_au 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first congrats!!! LOL... I know how irritating mother-in-laws can be. First, take a deep breath..you will not misscarry if you don't have morning sickness. I didn't have morning sickness with my son or my daughter. smells would drive me nuts with my son, and I did have queezyness with my daughter, but that was it.
NEVER ever tell your family what you are planning to name your baby!! lol..I wanted my daughter's name to be joylynn, my hubbys mother's middle name and my mother's middle name combined. The mil hated it and my mom loved it. I named her emaleigh instead. You are only 7 weeks pregnant and she wants you to book into a hospital? Umm.. thats kinda nuts. See if your local hospital has parenting classes, or baby prepairedness classes. They go through the basics of diapering and bathing and they go on a tour of the hospital, at which time you can pre register. Mil will always have an opinion about everything you do. I hope she lives close enough to visit, but far enough away to give you breathing room. Good Luck and take care!
2007-04-21 22:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Allie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I feel for you! My MIL came and visited today and I am still fuming over the visit... First off... If you are one of the lucky ones that does not get morning sickness... Then good for you! It does not mean you will miscarry. As for the 2 middle names, well if you and your husband agree on it, then sure why not. And last, "booking in to the hospital" does that mean choosing what hospital you will deliver at? Or you have to make reservations for a c-section? I don't get it???? How do you know when you will actually be in labor?
Anyway, make sure your husband understands your concerns. Unfortunately, my husband agrees with many of my issues with his mother, but he will not stand up to her... Something about guilt... He refuses to say no to her. It's hard. But I am very thankful she lives about an hour away (my parents live next door to us).
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-04-21 23:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by jordansmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law drives me nuts too. Don't listen to a word she says. She obviously doesn't know that there are MANY women who don't get morning sickness. Besides you are only 7 weeks. I was 9 weeks before I got any morning sickness.
As far as the hospital goes, you have months before you would pre-register. You will likely go on a maternity ward tour in your last trimester. Be sure to ask your OB on your next visit.
Tell your mother in law that your OB said morning sickness has nothing to do with the health of the baby and that he/she suggests registering at such and such time.
Make sure you let your husband know she is irritating you because believe me, IT GETS WORSE the farther along you are. If she questions you or tries to give you advice, tell her that your Doctor said this and that-contrary to what she is saying. She should shut up then.
Also, tell her that she got to name her children, why shouldn't you be able to name yours. If she doesn't like the names-TOUGH. You are the one who is going to carry this baby for 40 weeks and then deliver them and raise them for 18 years!
Good luck.
2007-04-21 22:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Julie J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get Caller ID and don't answer the phone. If you need to say something to her, remind her that you don't need to be told what to do, but if you have questions for her, you'll call her. I didn't book into my hospital until I was 30 weeks or something like that. And some people don't have morning sickness, so forget what she says and count yourself lucky. I only threw up three or four times while I was pregnant, I just experience nausea. And you can name that baby Jacinta Timbuktu Calimari if you want - she can get over it. Two middle names are stupid, its a neat idea.
2007-04-21 22:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by sammy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The miscarriage thing isn't true, I personally wouldn't have 2 middle names either, too much for a kid, but that's your choice. I don't think you have to book the hospital for a while, I was probably half way along, but I don't know about Australia. Tell her " I know you're excited about the baby, but let me handle things." Good luck
2007-04-21 22:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by aprilmommy06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she's nuts! j/k (well, I would) You're not going to miscarry based on not having morning sickness and it's practically CRUEL that she would tell you that. Two middle names is just fine, I'm considering it myself even. Do what you like because it's your baby (not hers). Mothers-in-law can be a little pushy and a little psycho when it comes to "thier" granchildren. So just tell her you appreciate and like to hear when she has experiences and nice advice from time to time but don't like when she is pushy becuase it's not kind and not necessary and NOT GOOD FOR YOU WHEN YOU'RE PREGNANT :-) (becuase you may choke her lol)
2007-04-21 23:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how long in advance about the hospital thing because I live in really rural area and we dont do that but no morning sickness is a blessing believe me. And tell her she is wrong that you wont have a miscarriage my mom had three healthy children with out being sick during any of hers. and tell her that you are caring the child you have to have the child and you will name it what ever you want. and if she dont like it she dont have to see it. she will come around then,
2007-04-21 22:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by louann_jude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh fer pete's sake. I had 3 pregnancies (one miscarriage and 2 healthy babies) and never had morning sickness with any of them.
My mom had 3 kids and said the only time she ever threw up was the day Kennedy was assassinated.
Grit your teeth, smile sweetly, and tell the MIL, "thank you so much for your concern but my doctor assures me everything is fine." Repeat as needed. Get your husband to back you up.
2007-04-21 22:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by sdc_99 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋